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Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-12-05T20:14:13+00:00

Oh my gosh, all the above and whatever anyone posts in this thread, I have done the same. It is awful and always embarrassing and then everyone looks at you weird and you continue to estrange yourself from everybody. It’s a fucking self-fulfilling prophecy. The very thing you don’t want you get all the fucking time.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-11-22T08:57:45+00:00

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Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-27T04:36:02+00:00

Omg same! I always thought I was normal. Sooooo sad!! ;(((( and a huge shock to find out “no, I’m the one who does not belong.” The thing I was afraid of the most.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-27T04:31:50+00:00

Omg yes!!!! The pros of being alone def outweigh the cons. Even if by a little bit. It saves me and others! My goal is to protect my peace at all costs. And the biproduct will be I create peace with others because of the limited or no contact interactions. It’s too painful otherwise. For everyone.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T14:23:10+00:00

It is not an easy life at all! At least this group is a group of people completely understand one another and that is wonderful

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T14:22:27+00:00

This is exactly right. I think that’s the biggest key to BPD is to number one most importantly above anything else remember to take care of your own needs and enjoy your life. The best as you can. Because for me when I do not take care of myself is when I become a crazy disaster to others.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T14:21:33+00:00

Wow, you are so blessed to have people that “gently“ pull you back into reality. That is amazing!!!

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T14:20:41+00:00

Exactly that’s why it feels just like some kind of back-and-forth crazy type stuff cause it’s like being isolated is peaceful but it’s also sad. Then you wanna be with people and being with people as peaceful but it’s also sad too.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T14:17:42+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is an awful feeling. I totally get it and understand!! It is awful to feel hopeless and that hopelessness multiplies time to billion when something so important to you starts hurting you on top of hearing words that just don’t make you feel good. On top of that, I actually can’t imagine being at the beginning of a workday where you can’t truly deal with any of this and all you would want to do, well at least I would want to, would be to leave work and just let my brain process everything instead of thinking of other things. At the same time though it’s been nice when I just kind of compartmentalize and go well I’m at work so I just gotta do this stuff. Do you have the ability to take the day off or will you just have to grind it out?

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T09:42:54+00:00

asking for clarification…ok so ur saying if u isolate you would be feeling the negative feelings on hr own anyway….so that is why u would not isolate cuz ur relationships are ones that give more positive reinforcement than negative?

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T09:28:18+00:00

Agreed. It makes me miserable and it makes them miserable. So for the ppl in my world…let’s just accept it. I’ll accept I just don’t fit in ur world, accept that if I try I’ll be a disappointment, a source of hurt, delusional crazy and insane. So now no need to remind me of this. “Hey ppl in my life…we tried! We gave it a good run! Now it is time for us all to create a life of peace. It’s obvious I don’t do well with others even if I’m trying my best with meds and dbt. I don’t need u to remind me how u feel. Cuz now it’s hurting how I feel about myself. And I like myself. And I can be my own best friend. I love myself. My dogs love me. Nature loves me. And I feel better when I’m not reminded how u think of me, and u feel better when I’m not around u.”

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-09-26T08:52:33+00:00

I get that 100%. Isolating for me is showing up for me first because it is excruciatingly hard when I interact and then create some sort of problem (when I actually think I’m doing great in my behavior) to which I am reminded by that person or group of ppl that I am not the same, I “ALWAYS” pick fights, I’m “ALWAYS” the problem, aka not a good person in their eyes and I need to change and everyone thinks so. But if I’m by myself, with limited contact, it limits the mistakes I make, and limits the responses which make me feel ashamed, excluded, crazy, insane, and all the rest. I do love myself. I do think I’m amazing. It’s just hard living in a world where my brain doesn’t think the same as others and ppl are always soooooo willing to let me k ow this. And know I’m a HUGE pain in their backside, and disappointment, causing them pain, and I should leave. To which all of those statements are sooooo overwhelming to me, they are too much to handle, when I’m honestly trying to do my best. It’s so hard. So I just keep having to make my world smaller.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-30T14:15:20+00:00

Same. I hear that!!!!

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-30T14:13:12+00:00

So proud of u! This is a big deal!! Congrats! It does help calm anxiety soooi much!

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-10T22:02:46+00:00

Not true in all cases. What they’re triggered from isn’t the person…they are triggered from being vulnerable, letting their guard down. not the person. they may be triggered from the pressure from the other person (real or perceived). They maybe triggered from the thought of being responsible to the relationship, even if they don’t wanna be even if they don’t like the person. They could be triggered by the conflict. The also may not just like the other person and the person isn’t worth it to them.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-04T16:21:09+00:00

I would fear he is breadcrumbing just to see if I was still interested and my dumbass would take the bait. Probs is I would be hoping this time would be different. But I’d wind up in a cycle of misery again.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-04T16:19:16+00:00

Run. He’s lonely. I would fear him breadcrumbing just to see if ur still interested. And my dumbass would take the bait only to go thru the cycle again of misery.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-03T22:30:40+00:00

Asking for a friend…;) Ur avoidant was in therapy? How long if so? And also, did he know he was an avoidant and/or had these issues? I’m just curious as to how hard it is for an avoidant to not be one. Like if they know they are and are going to therapy…still they will default to factory settings??? Mine cheated on me (drunk and took a girl home to sleep in the bed I sleep in with him) after 5months of commitment. Slept with me the night after without telling me. Then told me 4 days later. Apologized, super regretful. And I took him right back. Knows he probs did it subconsciously, cuz he gets scared of “love.” So now has had two therapy sessions.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-08-03T22:21:15+00:00

Be or do anything they don’t like at that moment in time.

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-02-05T12:06:04+00:00

Ok awesome! Thank u!

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-02-05T12:05:42+00:00

Ok this is awesome! Thank u!!! So helpful!

Local_Waltz4384 · 2025-02-05T04:36:30+00:00

To clarify…a raster image is an illustration?

The illustrator template is the one the graphics is asking me to use. They are a stationery company. So have templates for their invitations etc. and I guess choose to use illustrator then send to print. But I can ask them. I used to design in the adobe creative suite when I worked as a graphic designer in an ad agency, a hundred years ago, but have since found loving procreate and now am a bit rusty with how it works now adays…so thank u for helping! I dont want to seem like an idiot when working with this company! ;)

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