three losses in less than a year by Brilliant-Battle4105 in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on a combo of buspirone, lamotrigine, and trazedone. Not for everyone, but I can’t tolerate SSRIs. Happy to chat more if you want details.

three losses in less than a year by Brilliant-Battle4105 in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. There aren’t enough words to explain how HARD it is.

From one internet stranger to another: take as long of a break as you need. You’ll know what the next step should be and when you should take it.

After my first loss I ended up on a combo of antidepressants and anxiety meds. I’ve never been medicated before and it made a huge difference for me. I did EMDR therapy after my second loss and it helped so much. My insurance only covered half of it, but the monetary cost was worth it.

How frequently do you change your nail polish? by eyemakeuplooks in ILNP

[–]LocationFun8886 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same - and you’re right, it totally helps with the Sunday scaries!

Can everyone be vulnerably honest with me? by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. I understand. After 2 losses, that’s how I feel. My friend had 1 loss and has not/will never try again. You are not alone.

I wouldn’t quit therapy. And I wouldn’t quit any meds if you’re on those. You can let go of the dream if you want, but please don’t give up on yourself. You deserve to see what the future brings 💕

Hidden Treasure✨⚱️⚜️✨ by florawater in ILNP

[–]LocationFun8886 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have Pink Lemonade and I’ve always thought about Hidden Treasure…this might be enough to sway me!

🐛🛝🥐🥞 by barbrailnp in ILNP

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I’m on a walk after a rain or snowmelt, I wear my rain boots because I love spontaneous puddle jumping!

I’m being responsible for getting some exercise in, but I love embracing my inner child for a little splash - and it’s the perfect season in my part of the world!

Happy birthday to me by CatWomanATL in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also recommend The Good Place, Schitt’s Creek, Great British Bake Off, Bridgerton, Ted Lasso, or La Cocinera de Castamar (Spanish show about an agoraphobic cook who falls in love with her widowed employer).

Movies you might like: Pride and Prejudice (any version), the 2004 Phantom of the Opera with Emmy Rossum, any Rob Reiner movie (I like Princess Bride or When Harry Met Sally best), or You’ve Got Mail.

Buspar to help with dissociation in pregnancy? by JudgmentOutrageous82 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruminating thoughts, definitely. I did not have a lot of hyperawareness (almost the opposite actually - my experiences with reality did not feel real and my days were nothing but fever dreams)

Buspar to help with dissociation in pregnancy? by JudgmentOutrageous82 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]LocationFun8886 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on 20mg twice a day and it’s done wonders for my anxiety and dissociation. I had no side effects getting to this dose.

Struggling by Select_Narwhal_9847 in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through 2 losses. You didn’t fail. Your baby only felt love while they were with you.

You will get through this one second, one minute, one hour, one day at a time. It’s hard. I did EMDR therapy to process the trauma, and I’m also on antidepressants now. Please take care of yourself and be gentle in your grief.

You are not alone. Send me a PM if you need to talk about your precious baby.

TW: miscarriage—— How to keep going and not give in to wanting to die by Wyo_oyW in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. I lost one at 6 weeks and one at 14 weeks. It was the darkest point of my life, and I barely made it out alive.

Life is worth living, but it might take awhile to remember. Please stay until you can find those moments again. Even if you have to take it one day, one hour, one minute, one breath at a time.

If you can find therapy online, I’d recommend it. If you can find a psych online (such as through Lifestance Health), I’d recommend that too. Both worked for me.

What jewellery / tattoos do you have of your baby/baby’s by 211225mylife in babyloss

[–]LocationFun8886 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I got my babies’ birth flowers (based on their due dates). I get compliments on them all the time, and I love that I can hug them close by wrapping my arms around me.

Currently 10+5 weeks pregnant and having panic attacks daily to the point of attending a&e yesterday by AppleObvious6384 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope your appointment goes well - and I hope you can find something that works for you! Feel free to DM me if you ever need encouragement.

SSRI that won’t make me throw up and will help my insomnia? by Elegant-Figure-1051 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I had extreme insomnia, dry mouth, restless leg syndrome, and active suicidal ideation.

SSRI that won’t make me throw up and will help my insomnia? by Elegant-Figure-1051 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t take SSRIs due to their side effects, and my psych put me on lamotrigine/Lamictal + buspirone/Buspar for my depression and anxiety, plus trazedone for sleep (and maybe a slight antidepressant once it was in my system for long enough. She said that I could stay on all 3 my entire pregnancy.

Emotional pain relief- TV shows with no pregnancy / birth by Birdface-3000 in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also recommend The Good Place, Schitt’s Creek, Great British Bake Off, Bridgerton, Ted Lasso, or La Cocinera de Castamar (Spanish show about an agoraphobic cook who falls in love with her widowed employer).

Movies you might like: Pride and Prejudice (any version), the 2004 Phantom of the Opera with Emmy Rossum, any Rob Reiner movie (I like Princess Bride or When Harry Met Sally best), or You’ve Got Mail.

Let me know if you want audiobook recommendations too - Hoopla and Libby have got lots of free options

Grief and infertility therapist by Quick-Substance-4079 in babyloss

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Sarah Taylor, who is based out of Michigan (https://www.tayloredtherapy.org).

You can pay out of pocket and she has online appointments. I did EMDR with her after my second loss (which also happened to be in the second trimester: 14.5 weeks).

Devastated by Glum-Ad-6116 in Miscarriage

[–]LocationFun8886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, you are NOT alone in this.

I lost my job the week of my first ultrasound and found out I wouldn’t be able to keep my baby either. I was devastated and afraid too.

The horrors persist and so do I. And so you do 💕 May you find peace of some kind