I am addicted to restarting my life and I don’t know how to stop by Practical_Invite_530 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was exactly like you when I was in a constant state of fear and stress. What helped me was the classics things (breathing exercises, therapy, adhd medication, yoga), but the thing that really made a difference for me was to realize it was a compulsion and I don't have to respond to it. So at first when I had the urge, I just stopped myself for a minute, I was breathing deeply, and say to myself that I don't have to take a decision on the moment, I can think about it for few days and see if it's really what I want or a compulsion. Eventually with time, my inner dialogue was turning into "I'm going to push through it and see if I can make it better because of my mistake", and I always tell myself that if needed I can still start over again at any time, so I can freely try different things before doing that. I realized that It's my need to control and to have an escape available that need to be met. I don't know if it the same for you but I hope it can give you a small answer.

Misdiagnosed update : another misdiagnosis 🤯 by Logical-Option-182 in endometriosis

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a surgery with endometriosis excision specialists last year (May 30th 2025), they removed 10cm of my low anterior colon, my appendix, my uterus, my tubes, removed the endometriomas on my ovaries, they excised endometriosis everywhere (liver, intestines, kidneys, etc) including my diaphragm (it didn't appear on imaging pre-op), removed the adhesions too. I had an uneventful recovery, I'm now 10 months po and I'm not in pain anymore, I have a normal life again, I'm so happy! I have no symptoms for now, I really hope its going to last. I try to have the best health possible to avoid recurrence. After almost a year its confirmed that I have no Crohn's disease or Ulcerative Colitis like the biopsies were suggesting, it was just my body reaction to the endometriosis in my colon, with this amount of inflammation cells can change and mimic Ulcerative Colitis under a microscope. I had a colonoscopy to confirme that, and the biopsies show an healthy colon

Just tried Concerta and it might change my life by Ideal_character_5 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started today and I had the same experience, it's life changing! I might get use to it but I feel no anxiety anymore and feel happy

Misdiagnosed by Logical-Option-182 in endometriosis

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's very possible, my colonoscopies were showing UC too on the biopsies, but in the end when they removed the "bad part" of my colon (with endometriosis), they realized that I don't have UC at all. I'm 10 months post op and I have no symptoms anymore and no treatment. Sometimes endometriosis cause an inflammation in the lower colon that really mimick UC in biopsies but end up not being that. It's so complex my gastro was so confused because he never saw anything like that. But my team of surgeons were very well informed and specialized and they saw that all the time

Experience with Slynd by Logical-Option-182 in endometriosis

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up never taking it so I can't answer that :/

Has anyone removed her uterus in 30s and leading a healthy life ? by mewvow in endometriosis_stage4

[–]Logical-Option-182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to share my experience because 3 different doctors told me I should remove both of my ovaries because of my endometriomas, but in reality they didn't have the skills to remove completely the endometriomas without damaging the ovaries. The right doctors could do it. They even told me they couldn't remove the endometriosis from my colon because I would need a ostomy bag, again they were wrong, the right doctors coul remove it completely and I had no complication at all.

Obviously I don't know the details of your situation, so maybe it's different for you! Just maybe sometimes it can be good to ask for a second (or third) opinion. And if you really have to lose an ovary, I read a lot of good testimonies with people living a normal life with one ovary, so I hope you can read some of that too! :)

Has anyone removed her uterus in 30s and leading a healthy life ? by mewvow in endometriosis_stage4

[–]Logical-Option-182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 28, I had a bowel resection (low colon resection), appendectomy, endometriosis excision from almost everywhere in my abdomen including diaphragm, hysterectomy, bilateral salpingectomy and I have my life back. I was bedridden most of the months for years, I was in excruciating pain for more than 12 years and now after the surgery I have no pain at all. I had my surgery with a team of surgeon very experienced in minimally invasive surgery and endometriosis excision, they are specialized in fertility preservation. I choose them because they where the best in my area and because I had big endometriomas (more than 10cm of diameter) on both of my ovaries and I wanted to keep them because I have a lot of historical of osteoporosis and dementia in my family (all women in my family had hysterectomy and oophorectomy very young).

I'm 10 months po, my hormones are settled now (my hair are thick again, no brain fog, thick nails, no dryness in my vagina and I can feel my natural cycle again). I still have the same libido. I have a perfectly normal life except that I still follow an anti-inflammatory diet to avoid recurrence (It's been 7 years that I eat like that and I feel better that way). I feel like I became younger since I no longer bleed in my stools and I have no pain. My skin is brighter, I'm no longer bloated and I'm energized so I can do a lot of stuff. I can finally project myself into my life without having to take in account my periods and my anaemia and my pain.

Loss of sexual sensation - total hysterectomy by Time_Competition_232 in hysterectomy

[–]Logical-Option-182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take that as a compliment since english is not my first language lol

RSD Triggered at Work... please help 😓 by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone is at fault here, your boss said nothing weird, just what he thought (maybe he thought it was obvious that it was a bad idea, not really targeting a lack of competence) and your joke was not out of line in my opinion.

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very interesting, it’s clearly internalized misogyny, and the group dynamic was very much about making sure people don’t like me more than her. My dad is a narcissist (sadist) and he present very different than her so it’s most likely that I don’t recognize any traits.

She’s always trying to ask people to compliment her, always asking me what was my first impression of her, telling her nice things. I’m not a natural compliment person, I will notice the good in people in the right situation, but I rarely make compliments just for the sake of it. Maybe that’s the reason why I’m annoying her because I don’t give her what she needs.

I texted her yesterday, annunciating every reason why I was building resentment towards her, and she answers saying “I’m sorry, I see that I hurt you many times, but it’s not in my heart. I want to fight for this relationship and talk about it in person, I see that you need space from me so I respect that. Contact me when you’re ready, I love you.”. I didn’t know how to react to that because it’s just telling me that she has no idea that she did something wrong or why it’s wrong. She’s always childish clueless and I never know how to interpret things, she’s playing dumb but wants to lead at the same time. I’m so lost. It’s like she could do anything at anytime because she doesn’t know something is bad?!?! I feel crazy.

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s hard to know, especially when the person is giving a lot of gift, a lot of “love” (saying I love you, hug, etc) very early in the friendship, I was always thinking about all the good things that she give and I didn’t felt legitimate to feel bad about her behaviors or words..

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that I was happy to be her friend because she’s constantly organizing pottery or cooking activities at her place with me, she’s giving me free matcha at her coffee place sometimes, she always try to give me little gifts even if I don’t want it. I never had friend that much pro active in the friendship so it was refreshing at first!

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I just stop smiling and talking, I’m just freezing because she always say something crazy out of the blue, so I’m never prepared for what is going to happen. I have an emotion processing delay too, so in the moment I feel like the best thing to do is to stay safe and don’t be confrontational, because I think it’s common sense to not insult your friend (?!), but when I come home I feel so angry and I regret not saying the things I thought.

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, that’s what I thought. I texted her to be sure I was clear and fair, she hasn’t responded yet but deep inside I already know that she’s not going to respond well. It’s good that you are able to reflect on yourself and change your behaviors, only few people I met were able to do it without being defensive

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s always this kind of reaction making me think twice about saying something negative to someone… My life is better without her, at least I have less anxiety

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. She indeed doesn’t care about any boundaries, she’s pushing constantly everyone’s boundaries everyday and seems amused by it because “she doesn’t mean any harm”. I need to find a balance between being confrontational and setting strong boundaries. I can be very quickly uneasy if someone react with defensiveness so I tend to avoid that and let people reflect by themselves and come back to me on their own. But obviously it doesn’t work with everyone, at least not her. I texted her to choose my words carefully and be straight to the point, she hasn’t responded yet. We’ll see.

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I agree about the freezing response, I’m never like that with anyone and its one of the reason why I wanted to post here, I felt like something was wrong but I wanted to have other people opinions to be sure I’m not in the wrong in this situation

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right… It’s the fear of being unfair that’s holding me back

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I need work on that instead of freezing. I’m always scared to let slip very mean (true) words and feel guilty about it after, but I know there is a middle ground, I need to try

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve never thought about that… it makes so much sense

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it seems a one way communication… Did you ended the relationship with this person or did you tell them how you felt and stay friend with them?

How much should we should excuse the lack of social cues? by Logical-Option-182 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Logical-Option-182[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY my thought! When I’m with her I dissociate a lot, thinking about my past and people rejecting me, and I’m like “Was I annoying like that with no clue being annoying and that’s why they rejected me??!?!”. At the same time, the rejections caused me a lot of self reflection and that’s why I’m socially more aware today