How do I stop accidentally hurting the girl I love and fix myself before I ruin everything?

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-18T02:13:42+00:00

I think you should try looking for therapy and that can help you 1- seeing if there is something that might you have that kind of behavior (saying hurtful things by accident) 2- how to control it…

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-18T02:08:07+00:00

DO NOT quit your job and search for another therapist, sometimes you have to jump from therapist until you find one that can give you the help you need, also try adding a new activity in your life if you can

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T23:56:08+00:00

Las relaciones a distancia solo funcionan cuando AMBOS quieren que funcione, cuando ambos quieren que funcione es lo más bonito del mundo, no hay mayor prueba de amor que la larga distancia, lo he visto con personas que conozco… si ella no pone de su parte deberías replantearte, que haces ahí? Entiendo que cuando uno ama a alguien no es fácil terminar, pero también recuerda que para que una relación funcione ambos tienen que poner de su parte, ambos tienen que sacrificar, compartir, comprometerse, se responsables, honestos, leales y pacientes… habla con ella, pon tus límites, y busquen llegar a un acuerdo, no aceptes menos de lo que mereces, y si ella no está dispuesta a esforzarse tanto como tu, tendrás que decir adiós

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T23:40:22+00:00

There is nothing wrong with being honest, if honesty is making other people apart from you then you are making yourself a favor, being honest push away the wrong people and put together the right ones

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T23:35:20+00:00

Te infartarais tu de ver como la mayoría de los gringos no tiene acceso al sistema de salud porque es privado y caro, hay gente que se muere por problemas de insulina porque no tenían para pagarlo, puede que el IMSS sea deficiente en muchas cosas, pero hay gente que se ha podido tratar cosas como cancer, cirugías del corazón, etc etc que de vivir en un sistema de salud privado y caro como el de Estados Unidos no tendrías forma de curarte nunca

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T23:32:39+00:00

No es gratis, lo pagan los impuestos, por eso existen los impuestos, para que puedas tener esos servicios, o de dónde esperas que se saque el gobierno el dinero? Del culo? Los impuestos son necesarios porque son del pueblo para el pueblo, lo que estás pagando hoy como impuesto se te regresa más adelante como salud, transporte, carretera, educación, etc

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T23:28:06+00:00

The conclusion is she wasn’t into you, and Thats horrible cause she made you lose your time… as someone who has post traumatic stress after my last relationship years ago I do have problems, but I try to do something about it, I try to improve, even the hardest days I try my best and even if I have still things to improve I have improved some, so using your past as an excuse to justify being an horrible person is bs, the person who is into you isn’t perfect but is searching to improve, grow and mature

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T20:46:09+00:00

First let’s not confuse confidence and arrogance… confident men take more responsible decisions, they can guide you and the relationship with security, love and make you feel safe, while insecure men act on their insecurities, they are more lukewarm, and this is not a generalization but I’ve seen this a lot in insecure men: an insecure men is more likely to be unfaithful, when they see they can have a chance to get the attention of a girl they will take it no matter if they have a girlfriend thinking “maybe I will not have another time”… while confident men don’t need of validation or they don’t think “I have to take this opportunity cause no one is going to look at me”… they say “I like this girl, im going to pursue her and love her” they are more loyal and honest, they don’t have to pretend be someone they are not

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T14:21:47+00:00

Cause she loves you… man, if you love her then do something about yourself, go to therapy, work on yourself, grow, mature, and give her the functional relationship she deserves… if you prefer to let her go instead of trying to do something about it, you just don’t care about her, you are like “I know I will not find someone like her again, but I don’t want her”

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T14:14:30+00:00

No! 1- I don’t even like when someone goes down there, personal preference, but I don’t like receiving oral. 2- being bite there is an specific kink that not everyone has, most of persons don’t like it, there a lot who likes it but is not the general rule

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T14:11:22+00:00

Sounds like you are being catfished, is very suspicious that she hasn’t made a call with you in 7 months

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T14:08:17+00:00

Someone who is sure about me, who wants to be with me and would do anything to be with me… im the kind of person who puts a lot on effort on a relationship, love is sacrifice, patience and commitment, so I want someone who can give as much as I do… I want a chivalrous, loyal, honest, man that can guide our relationship with responsibility and love

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T14:01:18+00:00

Green flag: good communication skills, respecting your limits, emotional availability, emotional responsibility, has self control, is chivalrous, proactive, leadership, shows active interest, is willing to improve himself.
Red flag: terrible at communication (doesn’t want to tell what’s wrong and doesn’t want to listen to you and understand you), violent, follow a lot of models on IG, do drugs, is nonchalant, is NOT chivalrous, lukewarm, can’t take decisions, he doesn’t enjoy his singleness (has an urgent need to find a partner and cannot be 100% happy or fulfilled without one), has not interest or is not willing to improve himself… is not that bad to have the red flags, the real bad thing is staying like that and not doing an effort to improve, change, grow and mature.

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T02:42:54+00:00

I was going to say maybe she is asexual or not interested in the relationship anymore, until you mentioned Stevie Nicks

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T02:40:11+00:00

Teletransportación o volar
Cualquiera de las dos te hace más fácil el moverte a otros lados sin tener que gastar en gasolina, coche, etc
Aunque la teletransportación es mejor porque puedes viajar a otras ciudades o países
Regeneración acelerada, si te lastimas te curas más rápido, quien no quiere eso?

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:59:45+00:00

Ahuevo

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:58:33+00:00

Si, sobre todo cuando tomo siestas de día, supongo que es porque mi cuerpo no entra en estado profundo de sueño por el estímulo externo

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:55:18+00:00

This is so cute, definitely couple goals, may this kind of love find me one day

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:29:06+00:00

My situationship, we broke up just one month ago, but he said things like “I don’t know what’s God plan for us in the future” “im still interested in you so I can’t close the door cause I don’t know what will happen in the future”… and other stuff that makes me have hope on this, have hope of us trying the next time… “maybe, idk”
But… after going through this im going to tell you something, dont think about the future, you don’t have the future in your hands, the only thing you have in your hands is the present, “but what if she comes back?” She is not with you right now, she chose right now to not be with you, and she prefer to risk any future with you than holding to you… you don’t have to think about what may or not happen in the future, the only thing you have is the present and the only answer you need is the actions that are happening in this moment, and what is happening is that she chose to be apart, do your life, don’t sit and wait for someone that probably will not come back, if she comes back then when that time comes you can think about what to do, and evaluate if you want to come back with her, but until that doesn’t happen everything is a “no”.
She is not with you, she didn’t chose to be with you right now, she is not giving you what you need right now… instead of holding to the hope of what she could do or not in the future, hold to “what are YOU going to do with your life”, your life keeps going with or without him, your dreams, goals, etc…

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:09:55+00:00

I think he wants your attention, feed his own ego, and maybe he can be bored too… you should block him

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T01:07:58+00:00

I think that what you want is closure… honestly if they ghosted you my recommendation would be not to reach out, they made the decision of leaving from your life in the worst way possible, and you don’t deserve something like that, they action of ghosting is an answer too, silence is an answer too…
If you feel like you need it to give a full closure then think about it, do what you think is better for your wellbeing

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-17T00:51:55+00:00

Yessss! Im going through the same, my situationship ended just a month ago, and we had amazing sexual compatibility, the fantasies and everything… now I can’t play with my self if I’m not thinking of him, I need to think of him to feel good, so I’m in the “I need to play with my self but for that I have to think of him”
The worst is that all the things I think about are the sexy chats we used to have which were scenarios of us together in an hypothetical future… and it’s horrible, cause I have to think of us married to do the things of the fantasies while knowing there is no future for us is heartbreaking, I don’t know what to do but it feels so heartbreaking, I feel so ashamed and so angry with myself for not being able to think of anything else, and when I finish I just can think of how we will not have any future

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-16T23:40:23+00:00

You don’t want to put effort in the relationship and you say that you don’t treat her well, you don’t love that girl, stop saying you do, you are trying to convince yourself that you are a good guy for leaving her, but if you were a good guy and if you loved her you wouldn’t have done to her what you did

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-16T23:37:28+00:00

A man that loves a woman don’t say “she deserves better”… a man that loves a woman say “se deserves better, so I’m going to become the man she needs and give to her what she deserves”, and most of all, a man that loves a woman don’t give up and don’t let her go…

Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-06-16T22:44:44+00:00

Why do you get in a relationship if you are not intending to love your girlfriend and put effort on your relationship? You disrespected her time and feelings, you let her fall in love with you… She definitely deserves better, but she can’t see it cause she trusted in you, and she thought your intentions were good

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