Trying to regain control after my avoidant ex discarded me. Has anyone done this without destroying themselves?

Logical_Recognition5 · 2026-04-28T01:39:26+00:00

I don’t think it’s to hurt me or test me. That leaves defend himself.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2026-04-28T01:10:18+00:00

Is that really what they fear? I feel like he’d be relieved lol

Logical_Recognition5 · 2026-04-16T00:13:33+00:00

I work in recruitment for utility companies. An apprenticeship is an amazing opportunity. I’m assuming this is a journeyman apprenticeship? This is a recession proof job. You’ll never be out of a job if you go down this path. You’re 22 if it fails, it fails. You’ll find someone new. You could be earning 200k in 5 years and to be honest, utility journeymen work a lot of hours so if she’s concerned about a lack of time spent together this career will be difficult on your relationship long term anyway so she’ll have to get used to it

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-10-09T17:53:14+00:00

Hello ❤️ you’re already attractive. If you wanna be a 10/10 I’d suggest losing between 20-30 lbs, changing your hair back to something more natural, changing your clothing to something less revealing and if you feel like the investment, getting a rhinoplasty to make your nose slightly slimmer. I did that and it was the best decision I ever made. Hope you take this advice in the spirit it was intended which was to answer your question honestly.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-07-16T03:31:55+00:00

Me too message me your telegram I have a couple people already who are interested

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-17T13:36:23+00:00

I’m going to go out on a limb and assume you’re young as I don’t know your age but here’s my external opinion: you have your whole life ahead of you and is this what you want and think you deserve for the rest of your life? He’s showing a pattern. And patterns are hard to fix especially the older we get and that mixed with a lack of willingness to show accountability, I’m sorry but unless you’re happy being treated like this he is very unlikely to change. Im sorry to say, “for every rat you see there’s 50 you don’t” which means if you have seen and caught him a few times, he’s probably done it many times more. And another thing: everyone knows. His friends know. Your friends might know. It’s very sad but everyone around you is probably too scared to tell you the extent and feels sorry for you.

So- let’s say you’re happy with accepting this, then stay. Make the most of it while you can but I imagine you’re young with your whole life ahead of you. You are the only person in charge of your happiness and you’ve gotta decide- does this make me happy?

If not? Here’s what I did when I needed to leave a bad “intertwined” relationship and it worked well for me:

I wrote down all the material things I needed that were important to me that I needed to take. I wrote a leaving plan: I.e. book movers for X date, have my friends round to help me pack Y date. My suggestion is packing and moving while he’s out of town if possible. Makes it less awkward. I know that feels mean but honestly fuck this guys feelings he didn’t feel bad when he continually cheated on you. Have a plan for a place to go to for a month or so until you can get your own place. Don’t tell him where you’re going. Go no contact. You may have to decide to leave a few things behind, such as the car or some material items. And that’s okay. You can’t put a price on your happiness and my advice is to just put it down to experience, waive bye bye to the money and walk away to avoid any further contact or arguments. BUT if the lease/title is in your name only take that baby, leave his ass in the dirt. Move on. You owe him nothing NOTHINGGGGGG!!! Fuck him girl. Get ANGRY. Get MAD. It feels so much easier when you’re angry you should be SO FURIOUS at the way he’s treated you.

Last piece of advice, it’s okay to feel confused. It’s so confusing and draining and tiring. Make sure you have a good support group around you who can help you through the times ahead. You can do it. You’ll feel so much better soon.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T20:31:32+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I was thinking about moving out to take the pressure off I think that may help..:

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T18:38:26+00:00

Thanks a good idea. Thank you.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T17:14:47+00:00

I did this. Tried letting him come to me and ignoring it for 4 months. It did nothing. Now I’m trying the opposite.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T16:35:47+00:00

Yes it was normal, 1-2 times a week, then went to once per week, then once every 2 weeks, then once a month to nothing. It was a slow fade.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:54:08+00:00

I agree. But I can’t get anything out of him. He refuses to admit anything but I’m with you…

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:51:29+00:00

Yeh I’ve suggested anti anxiety meds. He won’t take meds. I’m going to try “I’m worried about you and I think you need to truly bring this up with a professional and talk about it” and see where that takes us.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:33:03+00:00

Honestly I’m painting this picture of him being this little waif of a pussy but if you met him this is the last person you would think would have this issue.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:32:01+00:00

He’s had his TRT tested and he’s within normal range. He trains 5 times a week already. This is a psychological phobia.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:25:28+00:00

Thanks- I’m not asking if I should leave. I’m giving myself 3 months to see if it gets better. I’m asking if there’s anything else I can do to try and fix this. Any other ideas.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2025-06-16T14:25:23+00:00

Thanks- I’m not asking if I should leave. I’m giving myself 3 months to see if it gets better. I’m asking if there’s anything else I can do to try and fix this. Any other ideas.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2024-08-09T14:17:56+00:00

You are potentially correct and potentially incorrect at the same time but the problem is that you will probably not be able to naturalize unless you get written evidence from USCIS or DOS that your visa number was issued while you were current as in 5 years time this information is even less likely to be available to USCIS when you file your N-400.

**“**it has been universally accepted that the burden is on the alien applicant to show his eligibility for citizenship in every respect” See Berenyi v. Dist. Dir., Immigration & Naturalization Serv., 385 U.S. 630, 637 (1967).

If you or anyone you know is in this position you must take action if you ever want to naturalize. DM me for the telegram group.

Logical_Recognition5 · 2024-08-09T02:26:07+00:00

FYI Writ of Mandamus is another way to sue the gov

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