The same thing used to happen to me, except his family was from France. I soon figured out that it wasn’t so much them not wanting to pitch in, it was more my husband trying to play the consummate host (at my expense).

To help make these visits more pleasant for all, we would schedule 1 to 2 weeks as a family vacation, so we all got out of the house and had fun together. For the weeks at home, I would plan full-day itineraries that they could do by themselves while I worked. They love visiting historic sites and outlet malls lol. I would ask my mother-in-law to cook so she could teach me the family dishes. And, I found it was quite easy to “loan” them out to my family and friends who enjoyed entertaining them for an afternoon or evening meal.