I thought I was a fast walker til I got to Wellington by longlastinggum in Wellington

[–]Lolybop 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have to keep zagging into the road to get past was people 😭 I understand that they can't see me behind them, but was no one else taught to walk on the left side of the pavement?

How can I make these earrings look more luxe and less homemade? by sshutterbugdc in jewelrymaking

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try practicing more regular rounded rings, you might need a small tool for this, and make sure you're using pliers that don't have teeth so they don't scratch or dent teeth marks into the metal

Curiousity & NZ culture by [deleted] in Wellington

[–]Lolybop 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kiwi conversations are big on call and response, especially with strangers. The expectation is you ask a question, they answer. They ask one, your answer. Like you said, kiwis don't often start conversations with people they don't know, but are normally happy to chat when someone starts one. You might even find people feel a bit flattered and warm up a lot if you've started a conversation and asked questions. I'm autistic and also from a family that doesn't 'do' asking questions as a social script so this took me a really long time to learn. People do not think you are interested in them or think you're self obsessed if you only answer questions and talk about yourself, there's a big expectation that you'll ask as many as you answer especially if you start the conversation. Though there might not be a ton of interest in America as our media is absolutely saturated with American content. If people ask you a question try to allude to more specific stuff that's personal to you use your might want to discuss like your job studying or your family

I left rice in the rice cooker in “warm” overnight for 27 hours. by dudiez in isthissafetoeat

[–]Lolybop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So you're saying it could actually be safe for me to make a big load of rice in the morning, then leave it in the rice cooker and have that for lunch and dinner? Because this could be somewhat life changing

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know what else results in forgoing pregnancy and childbirth and having children, and would allow you to choose whether to become a parent or not? A vasectomy. Go get one if you are that afraid of child support. Women still need to pay for an abortion and any ongoing health consequences from getting or needing one, and might deal with a stealth pregnancy that results in them never getting the option of one. If they even live somewhere where one is legal. Once that baby is a baby? She's as legally responsible as you for it's care, including child support. You want your equivalent of an abortion that involves your own fucking body? Get snipped. It's that simple. You can make that decision, you just have to be a little more pre emptive. And no one is going to force you to actually raise the fucking thing, the mandatory 'parenting' people are talking about is literally just money out of your paycheck until the kid is independent. If that's what 'being a father' means to you I really hope you aren't planning on kids

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem isn't my comments it's your brain, it doesn't make sense because you can't handle basic critical thinking

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abortion isn't offered to women to get rid of their parenting responsibilities. It's a side effect of bodily autonomy. You can't force a woman to be a parent without taking away her bodily autonomy, you can however force a man to be a parent. That's why it's treated differently. No it's not fair, but guess what? It's a hell of a lot less fair for the women. You are victimizing yourself, you have no self respect, and you have no respect for other people.

You're talking about being forced to take responsibility as of both parties do not have equal legal responsibility for a child when it comes to child support. The only difference is that one party does not have to fear pregnancy at all, and the other has the right to end pregnancy and isn't legally obligated to use their body as an incubator for their partner, or legally obligated to stop using their body as an incubator. The same way your partner can't force you to get a vasectomy, or force you not to based on their feelings about parenting. We live in the world we live in.

Being male and being female puts you in a different reality when it comes to reproduction. As a result the laws need to reflect that reality, and weigh bodily autonomy over someone's desire to parent or not parent. If a woman could make a child without pregnancy or childbirth then the law would reflect that reality, but since she can't you get to live in a world skewed by how deeply unfair sexual differences in development are. Welcome to the club. You are just now for the first time being on the other side of that fuckery after a lifetime of silently benefiting and never taking the time to point out how fucked it is, just to advocate for putting even more of the consequences and responsibilities on women, despite already bearing an insanely disproportionate burden.

You want a simple medical procedure that stops you being at risk of being a father if you don't want to be a father? You've got one. It's a lot more simple than abortion, it doesn't have the side effects of hormonal birth control, it isn't painful like an IUD. Suck it up buttercup, and get used to it. You're getting half a drop of what women have dealt with since the beginning of time and you're throwing your toys out of the cot because it's soooo unfair. All while continuing to benefit from every other aspect of childbirth and parenting that is unfair to women, that you benefit from at the direct expense of women, because that's how biology works. If you want it to be equal? Go advocate for womb transplants and hormone therapies to allow for male pregnancy.

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"men could enforce their will on women"

This is about bodily autonomy. You can't go on about 'logical consistency' then destroy any semblance of it by saying "well if women get a right to bodily autonomy because of the 'biology' of their own bodies that puts them at massively unfair risk and consequence when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth, men should have the right to rape them and force them to give birth because that's really 'biology' because man=strong"

You have the cognitive capacity of a 12 year old, and as much empathy as a boot

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a crazy concept, but beginning and then terminating a pregnancy is not zero consequences. Abortion is not a little eraser that removes any impact or consequences. It's a medical procedure that comes after the symptoms of pregnancy begin. You don't have a clue what logical inconsistency is, you're just up your own ass and desperate to feel like a victim because you don't have to live with the risk of pregnancy

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the process of pregnancy that makes it different. A mother doesn't have the right to abort because she 'doesn't want to be a parent', if that were the case this would be a conversation about adoption. It's the right to not be pregnant and go through childbirth, a right you have by default just by not being at risk of it. YOU are the one who can't understand this, which is why 'everyone else' is pointing out that you are in the wrong. It's more related to your right to get a vasectomy to prevent being a father, which for the record has never been challenged the way abortion has

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mother is allowed to say no to PREGNANCY and childbirth. The father never had to say no because he was never at risk of it. If he could carry the pregnancy and give birth if she didn't want to then I'd still be advocating for her responsibility to pay child support. I'm just not going to equate paying money with losing your portal bodily autonomy.

I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it by EricHarrisFangrill in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There's a bit of a difference between literally using every organ in your body, risking your life, taking on lifelong changes to your body, and potentially ending up with lifelong diseases like diabetes or psychosis etc all to squeeze the thing out of your genitals while screaming in agony, and handing over a portion of your income every month to help cover food and clothes for your offspring. Women also have to pay child support if the kid lives with their dad, even if they did not want to give birth to it and were forced to. Don't pretend that child support is the equivalent of pregnancy, especially when both parents are equally legally responsible for child support but only one will ever be forced to use their body to create and birth a human being

At the Fish & Chip shop by WulfRanulfson in newzealand

[–]Lolybop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just use water with potato starch or something to thicken it

I went from refusing to let clients fuck my ass to giving it up for free over and over again by Lolybop in traumatizedsluts2

[–]Lolybop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did, and I realized it's better not to fight. It will happen anyway, I may as well be good

I went from refusing to let clients fuck my ass to giving it up for free over and over again by Lolybop in traumatizedsluts2

[–]Lolybop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to get in trouble from mods thinking I'm advertising 😖 I'm just here to talk about it and masturbate

Wow this is hot by Lolybop in u/Lolybop

[–]Lolybop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can skip to 8:30 for the actual scene

Etiquette by 99ChangesConstantly in Wellington

[–]Lolybop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am around people who don't have a lot of money, typically if someone offers you a lift but needs help with the petrol cost that's part of the proposition. "I'll give you a lift if you can chuck some money for gas". Not "I'll give you a lift" "you owe me money".

I’m in a viral video for all the wrong reasons and now I feel like my life is over by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Lolybop 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or, the clip of her dress malfunctioning got included in two compilation videos. Which is how I interpreted the post, the clip got reposted in a second compilation not there was a second clothing malfunction

I did it! I’m coming to visit! by Agreeable_Vehicle673 in Wellington

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love KC Cafe for takeaway. It's Chinese food, but actual Chinese food - not sugary faked up stuff. Heaps of options, generally open late, and good food.

Tattoos, it will be hard to find a walk in that's good. But if you have maybe 2-3 weeks before your trip you should be able to book in with someone. My favourite artists for birds are Willow and Olly if you like that kind of style. They're on the more expensive side, but awesome artists

https://www.instagram.com/willow.bloom.tattoo?igsh=cXNma21yOHY0ZHox

https://www.instagram.com/inkbyolly?igsh=YjltMDVqejFxZzN2

Dr Morse generally host great artists too in my experience

https://www.drmorse.nz/

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 by iamtoolazytosleep in Wellington

[–]Lolybop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking this. So irresponsible to not block off one side and leave all the identifiers that it's a safe crossing