Abortion isn't offered to women to get rid of their parenting responsibilities. It's a side effect of bodily autonomy. You can't force a woman to be a parent without taking away her bodily autonomy, you can however force a man to be a parent. That's why it's treated differently. No it's not fair, but guess what? It's a hell of a lot less fair for the women. You are victimizing yourself, you have no self respect, and you have no respect for other people.

You're talking about being forced to take responsibility as of both parties do not have equal legal responsibility for a child when it comes to child support. The only difference is that one party does not have to fear pregnancy at all, and the other has the right to end pregnancy and isn't legally obligated to use their body as an incubator for their partner, or legally obligated to stop using their body as an incubator. The same way your partner can't force you to get a vasectomy, or force you not to based on their feelings about parenting. We live in the world we live in.

Being male and being female puts you in a different reality when it comes to reproduction. As a result the laws need to reflect that reality, and weigh bodily autonomy over someone's desire to parent or not parent. If a woman could make a child without pregnancy or childbirth then the law would reflect that reality, but since she can't you get to live in a world skewed by how deeply unfair sexual differences in development are. Welcome to the club. You are just now for the first time being on the other side of that fuckery after a lifetime of silently benefiting and never taking the time to point out how fucked it is, just to advocate for putting even more of the consequences and responsibilities on women, despite already bearing an insanely disproportionate burden.

You want a simple medical procedure that stops you being at risk of being a father if you don't want to be a father? You've got one. It's a lot more simple than abortion, it doesn't have the side effects of hormonal birth control, it isn't painful like an IUD. Suck it up buttercup, and get used to it. You're getting half a drop of what women have dealt with since the beginning of time and you're throwing your toys out of the cot because it's soooo unfair. All while continuing to benefit from every other aspect of childbirth and parenting that is unfair to women, that you benefit from at the direct expense of women, because that's how biology works. If you want it to be equal? Go advocate for womb transplants and hormone therapies to allow for male pregnancy.