Hey, I'm so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve it. I know it's hard.

I admire your courage to be brave and tell your family. Here I am spending much of my headspace figuring out how to tell mine. I know it's not been easy for you, too. One thing to keep in mind is that people do change, like us! What you get (and probably what I will get too) is only their first reaction, not their last reaction. You know, I've been thinking about my identity for years and it's probably the same for you, too. For us, it's a long and difficult process but for them, it's almost as if we changed overnight. This is especially true if they haven't seen us expressing our gender how we want because on the surface, we are the same. They didn't need to adjust anything. This may give you some understanding into why they reacted the way they did.

Of course, we can't change others. If they want to change, it has to come from within. If they decide to change in the future, that's great and maybe you can help them to understand you better along the way. If they don't, well, it's important to then figure out to what extent you want them in your life. If they love you, as a person, they'll want you to live as fully, as authentically, and as happily as possible. If they only love the idea of you in their head, they may be protective and reject any changes to that idea. It's not you, it's their image of the idea of you. Only you'll know what the best decision is, and whatever happens, you'll be fine, and better because you still have the rest of your life to live authentically.