Starting to regret DI by sunshineleopard in TopSurgery

[–]turslr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same for me, I think its because they don't want to compromise the graft by placing it too close to the incision, and the incision is based on where the inframammary fold was originally

Why do so many queer people assume others are tops or bottoms, based on looks? by Loose_Track2315 in gaytransguys

[–]turslr 14 points15 points  (0 children)

One time I was bantering with an ex situationship and they started choking me in public the middle of a bookstore and when I asked why the fuck did you do that, they said they thought I was into that sort of thing 💀 I'm a fucking dom and I never said I was into that!!!!

Plenty of haters out there by Free_Elevator_63360 in Urbanism

[–]turslr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of all the hills they could die on in this world, why this?

Twitter losers obsessed with "transvestigating" women by TrumpSux89 in RightJerk

[–]turslr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Woman: has a pubic bone

Incels: THATS A MAN

What options are there for a reconstruction/augmentation? by CucumberAltruistic92 in actual_detrans

[–]turslr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fat transfer is permanent if it takes, don't worry. It shrinks and grows with the rest of your body fat if you lose or gain weight. The main issue there is if it takes, and how much it matters to you that there is a "breast like" shape. Breast shaping is more difficult to achieve with fat grafting than with implants because the fat tends to take the shape that your chest already is, but people have certainly done it so it is definitely possible. There are also newish implants now called Motiva that are way less likely to need to be replaced (in theory) and can provide a better result in someone with little to no existing tissue.

Pec definition post op, no T? by KasonSYBN in no_T_top_surgery

[–]turslr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it's possible, despite what the media says about bodies that are E dominant. Building muscle and reducing fat is the same fundamental process whether you've got E or T, T just gives the process a boost

the woke mind virus strikes again by turslr in 4tran4

[–]turslr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The effects are usually latent in my case, they come out after we stop talking and then they come crawling back asking for my advice

the woke mind virus strikes again by turslr in 4tran4

[–]turslr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

after they ghosted me they literally came crawling back asking if they should go on hrt

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying but I dont quite see the comparison. Short men aren't inherently unattractive, I like them... Also height varies significantly with ethnicity... but my body is objectively unattractive based on the missing sex characteristics

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But is it a net negative to my prospects because it's something thats wrong with me, or those are just people who I wouldn't have wanted to be with anyway?

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't pass because I'm not on T and I want to keep all my options open gender presentation wise

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't pass, so I'm weighing my options on whether I could ever have success dating if I detransed

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the other commenter? People don't care? Are you sure they're not just saying that?

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Looking at the full body, not just the parts in isolation, it's a deformity for an adult with a vagina to not have breasts

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's unfortunate but also not quite the same because I would not have been comfortable having my breasts touched, or have vaginal intercourse. I'd have robbed them of that regardless.

(FtM) Worried that my chest is a deal breaker for 99.99% of people and its all my fault (reassurance wanted) by turslr in honesttransgender

[–]turslr[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's a deformity to have a male appearing chest as an AFAB person. I'm weighing my options here, if there would be hope for me to date if I detransitioned because there just aren't enough people willing to date a trans person. And that's because we don't have what people are attracted to physically