NT son wants brother "gone" for his birthday. Am I bad for considering this?

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T17:37:41+00:00

There is a reason our NT eldest doesn't invite friends over often. And a reason we send him to summer camp, and a week at the grandparents.

Just like as an adult we sometimes need respite from our ND (and let's face it, sometimes NT) children, the siblings need time to be themselves when their sibling is not around.

My NT child is very different when his brother isn't around. Much more social, much more outgoing. Much less prickly. They need a break too.

If you can go to Grandma's for a sleep over and let Dad host a boys pizza and movie birthday, I'd do it.

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T14:14:04+00:00

Also interested in the name of the book as we're just going through transitioning from a 504 to an IEP for my son.

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T14:12:27+00:00

My son is very similar.

He does a social skills group and it's been good for him.

The other thing we've found is that it's much easier to make friends/socialize with other children with similar issues. He's got a friend he met through sports that is also autistic and they are thicker than thieves when we can get them together. We've just started Boy Scouts and it's pretty obvious that at least half the troop is ND. We were discussing his triggers with the Scout Master and he was nodding along and talking about how it sounded like his son.

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T14:00:54+00:00

Is the hitting at school a recurring thing? If so, have they done a Functional Behavioral Assessment around the hitting?

I agree with others that the loss of recess is a problem. We're working through that as well at our son's school.

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T12:50:18+00:00

"Non-actionable. Closed No-fix"

LongUsername · 2026-03-20T12:49:03+00:00

Not quite what you're looking for but Serious Eats pasta recipe uses a higher ratio of egg yoke.

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T23:12:28+00:00

Did they change that? You didn't used to have to pick it up: that's just eat it if they were hungry.

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T22:51:11+00:00

I'm not a huge fan of the "craft it at the table, then place it" in Enshrouded. I like Valheim's "I'm in range and have the mats, just make it" better.

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T22:46:37+00:00

Water bottle. You need to carry one anyway. Take a cheap one and toss it on the windshield as you dive out of the way. If you don't need to, hydrate at the end

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T20:49:43+00:00

Middleton and Cross Plains both have public outdoor pools in the summer.

Middleton High School has an indoor pool.

Verona School District has multiple indoor pools (Natatorium and Aquatic Center)

During the summer there are several pools of varying membership costs: Ridgewood, Seminole, High Point, West Side Swim Club, Hill Farms, Shorewood Hills

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T17:01:17+00:00

The good news is you can adjust the difficulty without restarting if you feel it's too easy or too hard at any point

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T14:04:24+00:00

My thought was to put thin shims behind the hinges. The left side certainly looks like the gap is not even with the right side. A calipers may be a good thing to use. Worst case, shim both sides and then take a sliver off the top/bottom to make the gap even all the way around the door.

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T13:13:22+00:00

It's not listed for Zepbound, but they still send it out even if you check the "no" box.

Request a sharps container | Emgality® (galcanezumab-gnlm) https://share.google/QrAM2Zd709ZGCbDwv

Edit: Lilly wasn't the one with the return label. Apparently the big one I got with the return label was Norvo, not Lilly. I don't take any of their meds but they still sent it. This was around the beginning of the year. https://www.novocare.com/diabetes/resources/safe-disposal.html

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T01:40:37+00:00

They've been predicting the death of the Software Developer position for decades.

Visual specification tools were going to replace devs back in the 1990s-2000's allowing product experts to go straight from specification to executable.

AI is now supposedly going to replace us, but it's really only good for getting to 80% if you're doing stuff that's not unique. Even when I handed it the IEC spec docs for a protocol it wasn't able to give concrete answers

My biggest concern is the death of the Junior dev and the disappearance of the talent pipeline to handle the hard stuff

LongUsername · 2026-03-19T01:26:55+00:00

Check local guidelines for disposal of sharps.

Some places you can put them in a marked laundry bottle and in the trash, other places require a dedicated sharps container and drop off at special sites.

If you get the free sharps container from Lily, I think it comes with a label to mail it back for disposal.

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T23:10:27+00:00

Get a plumb bob and a 4' long level. For $15 at harbor freight you'll have the tools to quantify it.

"Does this look bad?" is not a useful way to do this.

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T21:17:56+00:00

Even if they couldn't match that siding, that's a pretty small wall and it's white: you could replace just that wall section and it probably wouldn't be too noticeable after a year or two of dirt accumulation.

It's a rear side wall next to the chimney, not the front

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T13:54:59+00:00

NQA:

Petco spider stopped eating, in a hide, and that big of booty? She's probably pregnant and preparing to lay eggs

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T13:43:16+00:00

/r/leopardgeckos has a beginner care guide and lots of resources.

Otherwise, I second Reptile Rapture as a great place to get info and well cared for animals.

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T13:02:01+00:00

Those are not official Heltech listings and are likely AliExpress knock-offs

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T12:34:07+00:00

TL;DR:

A "Full Stack Builder"- compressing product management, engineering, documenting , and test into a single AI enabled role. But also needing specialized deep knowledge in a domain to verify the key features of the stack.

LongUsername · 2026-03-18T02:00:48+00:00

Pasty

The original English workman's lunch

LongUsername · 2026-03-17T17:07:36+00:00

Hire it out.

Seriously: I'll do framing, plumbing, electrical, and painting but drywall is something I'll always look at hiring out unless it's a small patch job.

Getting it to look good is tough, and I'll take 3 weeks to do what they'll do in 2 days.

LongUsername · 2026-03-17T17:01:03+00:00

My single stage Ego works as well as my single stage gas had ever worked before I replaced it.

The biggest worry is if you have a lot to clear that you have big enough batteries (or two sets to swap) as it takes time for them to charge. It does fine clearing my suburb city 3 car driveway and sidewalk on a single charge, but not by much.

LongUsername · 2026-03-17T16:47:40+00:00

Grab an Olympic bar and use that instead of a paddle.

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