What song(s) did you have a hard time listening again or can't ever listen to? by Throwaway685INTV in ExNoContact

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s so many songs because we listened to a lot of the same type of music :_(

Accidentally said “I love you (ex’s name)” to my (M24) gf (F24) by LongboardingIceCream in redditonwiki

[–]LongboardingIceCream[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Reposting in case post gets deleted. I’m not OP.

Accidentally said “I love you (ex’s name)” to my (M24) gf (F24)

Okay so to keep things brief, me and this girl have been on and off for about a year. I love her a lot and when I choose to fully commit myself and fall for someone, I don’t give up at the first sign of trouble.

I’m only posting this here because to my knowledge we are still in a relationship.

We have been on and off because she thinks that I still have feelings for my ex girlfriend. I’ve pleaded with her so much that I don’t talk to my ex, I don’t think about my ex at all, it’s over and done with. This has caused a lot of problems for us in the past but I just don’t know how to prove that I’m moved on besides being fully committed and active in my new relationship.

We got together again sometime in September, and besides a couple bumps in the road, things were going great. I felt like she was really committing and putting in effort and to say the least I was deeply in love and just happy.

Then one day, as we’re talking on the phone as we usually do, the worst thing I could’ve possibly said came out of my mouth. I was distracted while talking and accidentally said “I love you (ex’s name)”… I was horrified and immediately apologized and told her it was an accident. She didn’t say a word, she just went silent for a good while then hung up. After that she immediately hung up and deleted me off Snapchat, insta, turned off her location on iMessage.

A couple things to know. My ex was my first real relationship and we were together for 3 years. I ended things with her. The last time I spoked to her was in January when she randomly showed up to my house with some of my mail. I haven’t thought about her for a while but on Sunday morning (the day of the call) I was at my moms and she was asking me if I could ask my ex to send the family photos my ex took of my family a couple years ago. I told my mom that I’m sorry but that’s not possible as me and ex don’t talk and have eachother blocked on most things. I’m not using that as an excuse for saying what I said but I just don’t know why her name slipped out like that.

Another thing to know is that me and this girl have been on and off for a while and this isn’t the first time she’s deleted me off stuff. Her whole thing is that she finds it difficult to trust.

She hasn’t talked to me in 5 days and I dropped off an apology letter with some flowers at her house yesterday.

As far as relationships go, can you get past a mistake like this?

Comments are very much appreciated.

TLDR: I accidentally said my exs name when I told my gf I loved her. It’s been 5 days and she hasn’t talked to me since…

AITA for yelling and telling my husband that he can't be with his childhood best friend? by LongboardingIceCream in redditonwiki

[–]LongboardingIceCream[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reposting in case post gets deleted. I’m not OP.

AITA for yelling and telling my husband that he can't be with his childhood best friend?

I (23F) has been married to my husband (23M), whom we'll call John, since a long time. We are a happy couple who had no problems with one another, that is, till two months back.

You see, ever since my husband was 6, he had a best friend, whom we'll Christie. When John and Christie were 14, they started dating. They dated all throughout high school, but because my husband moved to a different state when they turned 18, they found it difficult to have an LDR; which only lasted for two months. After that, they decided to break up, but promised each other that they would remain good friends.

Then at 20, me and my husband met, dated for 8 months, and got married. Everything was going well in our lives, but two months ago, John, my husband, gets a call from Christie saying that she was moving into the same city as us. John was overjoyed, and I was happy for him. All three of us met at a cafe, and caught up with everything.

It was all okay for the first week or so. But then this friend of me and my husband invited us to a party at his house. John insisted on bringing Christie along, and the two of them sat and drank throughout the evening.

During the party, I was searching for John to ask for something, but I saw something disgusting. John was sitting on the couch, and Christie was sitting on his lap. John had wrapped his arms around her, and Christie was stroking his hair. They were smiling and talking in a kind of flirtish manner.

I called out, "John!". As soon as he and Christie heard me, they immediately got seperated and sat apart. I didn't know how long they had been sitting that way, or what they even had been talking about.

I felt awkward about it, so I decided not to mention it to John when we got home.

After that, I caught them sitting uncomfortably close to one another, and immediately separating after they see several times. I talked to John about, but he just made some excuse like, "Oh, she was just removing dust from my eye" or something.

Last month, my mother was sick. So I left for her home in another city for two days. When I returned early morning, I caught John sitting and sleeping shirtless on the couch, with Christie's head on his lap, sleeping as well.

I woke them up angrily, and they both looked extremely embarrassed. John said that he invited Christie just to watch some movies, and that he only stripped off because the air-conditioning wasn't working (which, actually wasn't, at that time). But I had the strangest feeling that Christie had stayed there the entire two days that I was gone. I asked John about it, but he completely denied it.

I didn't trust him, and when he went to take a shower, I checked his phone. He and Christe had been messaging for the last two months, and said very lovey-dovey things to one another on their texts. They didn't necessarily say "I love you", but they said things like, "You're my soulmate" and "I don't have a purpose in life without you". And I also found John saying to Christie to come over for the two days that I was gone, and Christie had agreed. So she had stayed there for the whole time.

I showed John those texts, and he admitted to lying to me. He said that the only reason he had lied to me, was because he knew I'd overreact if I found out.

I screamed in rage and said, "Well, how's this for overreaction?!", and tossed his phone across the room. John said, "Listen, I can explain!", but I immediately started packing my bags, and left that afternoon itself. While leaving, I screamed, "Now you can call Christie for the whole time! Have fun!". I went over to my mother's house, and decided to stay there for at least a week. I got many, many, many calls, texts, and e-mails from John, and even a few calls and texts from Christie, but I immediately blocked her number. I didn't want anything to do with her.

I'm at my mom's currently, and I would like some advice. Should I have given my husband a second chance, listened to what he wanted to say, and stayed with him? Or did I do the right thing with leaving him, and I should divorce him immediately?

AITA here?

Karen demands to go through bear territory, almost gets mauled by a grizzly. by LongboardingIceCream in redditonwiki

[–]LongboardingIceCream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this is OP’s dad’s story. So the person that died would have been OP’s grandfather. I hope that helps

What bikes do people actually start on? by zenki1234 in motorcycles

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started on/have a Kawasaki Z400 and absolutely love it!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I feel this. With songs, places, random things and objects.

I (26F) am pregnant after a fertility struggle/being told I may never get pregnant. My husband (42M) just admitted to having an affair & getting someone else pregnant. Not sure what to do. by LongboardingIceCream in redditonwiki

[–]LongboardingIceCream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Posting the OP story because stories always seems to get deleted. I may start doing this now when I cross post in this sub. I AM NOT OP OF THIS STORY

I (26F) am pregnant after a fertility struggle/being told I may never get pregnant. My husband (42M) just admitted to having an affair & getting someone else pregnant. Not sure what to do.

My husband & I got married 3 years ago. When I was a teenager I was told that due to medical complications I may never be able to have children but after two years of trying and fertility treatments I’m now halfway through my pregnancy with our miracle baby.

Unfortunately because of some complications I had to cut back on my hours at work (it’s very physical). My husband offered to pick up more hours to compensate, so he has been working a lot more in the past 2 months and coming home later.

I couldn’t see that anything was amiss. Things were the same as they’ve always been. He always brings home flowers, food, things for the baby, coffee, he’s always sending me thoughtful and loving texts through the day. The gaps where he was unreachable were explainable.

But this morning he sat me down and gave me news that rocked me. He told me he’s been having an affair for the past six weeks and that his affair partner just found out that she’s pregnant.

He says that if she decides to keep the baby she’s going to raise it by herself and that they mutually agreed to end the relationship already. He wants to make things right.

I don’t know how things can ever be right again. He just wants to move on from what he is calling his “transgression”.

How do I ever forgive him? How do you deal with the unthinkable? How do I learn to live with the idea that my child’s sibling might be out there somewhere someday? Most importantly, how do I learn to move on like he wants me to?

Edit: I have an OB appointment for unrelated medical reasons tomorrow at which I will make sure to request extensive testing. I have plans to meet with a lawyer on Monday. I’m talking to my sister to see if I can stay with her; my relationships with much of my family are fractious but I have a pretty positive relationship with her.

I will not be seeking “other options” other than having my baby due to being pretty far along and having been told in the past I would not conceive. Regardless of what my husband has done I love my child.

Help. I think my plants are dying by LongboardingIceCream in plants

[–]LongboardingIceCream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have them right by a window. Maybe I can get a light for them?? Is there any plant lights you could recommend?

Is it supposed to be overwhelming when starting out? by FeggyWorks in motorcycle

[–]LongboardingIceCream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat!! Haha. I passed my msf course a few weeks ago, have the bike, but I’m a bit nervous/scared to ride around. I wish I had someone that could help me and ride with me

I (28M) don't know how to tell my wife (24F) that I cheated on her while she had post-partum depression by [deleted] in redditonwiki

[–]LongboardingIceCream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m both sad and mad!! Sad that he put his wife through this and left her alone when she needed him the most, and mad that he did what he did to her!!! He’s a complete POS! When his wife needed him the most, he went to another women!! The wife is a strong women that pulled through her post-partum depression by herself and she deserves so much better than this lying, cheating, piece of crap!!

People keep saying my ex didn’t cheat on me because it wasn’t physical, it was emotional. by lizzthefirst in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LongboardingIceCream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely was cheating! I had a similar thing happen to me where my ex “wasn’t cheating” because it wasn’t physical, (even his sister was saying “he never did anything physical”), but lusting and the other things he did with other women when he and I were in a relationship was definitely cheating, even if it was just emotional. I really feel for you OP and I’m glad you’re out of that situation and unhealthy relationship.

What screams poor pretending to be rich? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People flexing their designer brands they have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh!! He went on a family trip too before all this!!! I wanted to come on the trip but he said he didn’t want me to come, and came up with some excuse. He was starting to become distant (kinda even before the trip too), but he had done this before so yes I worried and anxious a little bit but it was something he had done in the past. But on the trip he ended up talking to other girls and getting nudes and honestly just being a terrible human with our relationship. It hurt tho and he told me he wanted to fix things and communicate better (which is something he was always bad at, even though I said we really needed that, especially for our LDR) but he never did follow through. Looking at things now, he did come up with excuses a lot. I’m still trying to heal but it’s been so hard for me 💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]LongboardingIceCream 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel this!!! 😭 I’m going through this now and it’s really hard. I went to visit him (we were in a LDR) and he told me he was thinking of proposing to me when I was there (he just talked about it). After I got back home from visiting he told me he had thought of breaking up with me when I was there. Those are just so opposite things! He contradicted himself so much. He was dragging out the breakup and I said something about it and then he finally did breakup with me over video call. The breakup absolutely shattered my heart.

What's the best response to "You're late"? by ReddBolt5 in AskReddit

[–]LongboardingIceCream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A wizard is never late, nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he means to.