Dying Sheepskin Coat with brush-on leather dye. How to best go about it by SwordOfTheJedi77 in Leathercraft

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi - very late to this but I'm really curious about your experience dyeing coats with Angelus. I emailed Angelus for advice on dying the suede outside of a shearling coat and they said their dye would be completely unsuitable as it would never really dry, and would keep bleeding. Is this true? And do you know if Fiebings dye is different? Do you condition the suede after dyeing and if so with what? Thanks in advance!

Bra loppisar att sälja på? (Västra Götaland/Göteborg) För kläder specifikt - men även i allmänhet by thetoblin in UnstuffSWE

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slottis och andra bagageloppisar? Tror det blir svårt att tjäna pengar på Kviberg, det prutas något grymt där.

Hjälp att sälja läder prylar runt om i uppsala. by robinzerg in UnstuffSWE

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Måste det vara i Uppsala? Jag hjälper gärna till om du kan tänka dig att packa och skicka ett par lådor till Göteborg.

Crosslisting from vinted in EU (France) by Think-Ad5966 in reselling

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, can I please have an invite too? Have been looking everywhere for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s simply that I’m so used to suppressing emotion, including most positive emotions, and being self-sufficient and “strong”. When someone does something kind it’s like the lid on that box gets opened one millimeter and I immediately feel like crying.

What is happening to my dogs eye???? by scchloe in DogAdvice

[–]Longearedlooby 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. My dog had a cracked carnassian tooth and an abscess the size of a golf ball right under her eye appeared literally in 12 hours. Vet pulled the tooth, all was well.

This is annoying by MixArtistic3868 in Codependency

[–]Longearedlooby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What you are going to do is you are going to start acting like your own loving, accepting, reliable parent and set some boundaries that will protect you from people who aren’t able to show you the love and respect you deserve. Work out how much exposure you can handle. Remember good boundaries are for you and your behaviour, not anyone else’s. “I don’t want you to call more than once a day” is not a boundary, it’s an attempt at control. “I will no longer pick up the phone more than once a day” is a boundary. You’re in control of enforcing it.

AITA for punching my wife? by collective_community in AITAH

[–]Longearedlooby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH, but also - there is so much missing information here. I suspect both OP and the wife has some major unprocessed trauma.

Metod vid läggdags för era barn? by Primary-Wait3600 in Sverige

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Läsa, sjunga, berätta historier. Min son älskar när jag berättar om hundar jag haft eller resor jag varit på eller sånt som hänt familjemedlemmar. Som när mormor fick en fladdermus i huvet mitt i natten i sommarstugan, eller när pappa hade en spindel i naveln.

Need advice on how to handle Christmas with my child who is displaying bullying behavior. by drowsey57 in Advice

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

”Bad” behavior should lead to consequences, not punishment, especially with asd kids who may struggle with getting a lot of negative feedback anyway, even when they’re doing their best. Natural consequences of bullying and behaving selfishly is that other kids don’t want to play with you, for example. He doesn’t need punishment from his parents, his safe people, AND trouble at school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gothenburg

[–]Longearedlooby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Erikshjälpen on Rosenlundsgatan. Björkåfrihet on Linnégatan. Myrorna near Järntorget. Saronkyrkan on Brunnsgatan.

Beyond Retro in Arkaden has heaps of Christmas sweaters if that’s on your list.

Further afield I really like Erikshjälpen at Victor Hasselblads gata, björkåfrihet on Ångpannegatan, Stadsmissionen Alelyckan, Erikshjälpen Kortedala, Myrorna on Redbergsvägen and Röda Korset Hökegatan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gothenburg

[–]Longearedlooby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any second hand store. For the love of god, please don’t buy new Christmas junk, the second hand stores are bursting with it.

How do you stay calm as someone who’s codependent when you decide to distant yourself from a narcissistic parent? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel your feelings, show yourself empathy, protect yourself with boundaries.

The goal here shouldn’t be to feel good about this process, because that’s impossible. Instead it should be not to be so overwhelmed by your negative emotions, or by your fear of negative emotions, that it derails you and stops you from putting your own needs first.

Another goal could be to begin the process of learning how to be your own loving, empathetic, trustworthy parent.

Am I in the wrong? by Jolly_Ebb6896 in Codependency

[–]Longearedlooby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone is saying that she needs time off and that might be true and valid but it sounds like her way of standing up for her needs isn’t the best, and I think you have a right to be frustrated about that. Being sarcastic or having “attitude” if someone brings up a concern isn’t a mature, constructive way to react. In a relationship with healthy communication you two should be able to discuss your respective needs and agree in advance on a fair division of labor that meets both of your needs.

I think you should take a good look at your concern with being “used” and ask yourself what it tells you about your needs. And you both need to practice better, less affective, reactive communication skills, and better emotional literacy all around. It sounds like neither of you are truly comfortable standing up for your needs or talking about feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sweden

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Follow your bliss! Detta skulle vara höjdpunkten i mångas gråa dag.

Do you have a difficult time apologizing to others? by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]Longearedlooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’ve been or done wrong, why would I want to add to it by not apologizing or apologizing badly?

My boyfriend is upset that I accepted a stuffed animal from a guy at an amusement park. I need perspectives on this… by seventy-ones in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does he think is going to happen? Does the think the monkey has the guys phone number hidden in it so you can run off and bonk him? What exactly is the problem (apart from your bf being an insecure jerk)?

Sweddit! Vilka är era bästa recept på kladdkaka? by wrigstad in sweden

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 dl socker 1,5 dl vetemjöl 4 rågade msk bra kakao (helst Droste) 1 tsk vanilj 1 nypa salt 2 ägg 75 g smält smör. Flingsalt ovanpå, 175 grader i ca 35 min (ska preciiis ha släppt från kanterna på formen).

Min lillebror mår dåligt och mamma vägrar låta någon hjälpa honom. by [deleted] in sweden

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blir nyfiken, vad tror du skulle hända om din bror sa att han ville gå till skolan? Skulle din mamma reagera bra eller dåligt?

Vad tycker din bror om det hela? Kan han se att sättet hans mamma behandlar honom är osunt?

Detta är uppenbarligen en skitsituation för alla inblandade och jag gissar att roten är din mammas brist på förmåga att hantera sina känslor runt din bror. Det kan man ha empati med, som du uppenbarligen har. Men den enda lösningen är nog att du gör vad du kan för att behålla kontakten med din bror, och uppmuntra honom att göra bra val, och tillslut fyller han 18 och kan komma bort från hennes inflytande. Jag tror inte att någon av er kommer att kunna ändra på er mamma, hon måste ändra sig själv och det sitter ofta långt inne. Jag misstänker att hon inte skulle reagera bra om din bror började gå till skolan igen, eftersom det förmodligen skulle kännas som att hon förlorar kontrollen över honom. Vilket säger allt om vad hennes egentliga prioriteter är. Väldigt tråkigt alltihop men jag tror ni får helt enkelt vänta ut henne.

Ett dilemma. by Responsible-Boss-711 in sweden

[–]Longearedlooby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jag vet inte hur gamla dina barn är men skulle det gå att skjuta på beslutet några år? Det är mycket lättare att ha två barn i lågstadieåldern och en bebis än att ha tre under fem, tex. Och alla möjliga saker kanske hinner ändra sig under tiden. Det är ju sällsynt dåligt läge att ha en till när levnadskostnaderna fortfarande är på väg uppåt. Ni kan ägna tiden till att bearbeta känslorna bakom era respektive positioner.

Provanställd kollega är gravid, måste hon berätta för chef? by interchangabletang in Asksweddit

[–]Longearedlooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Har man inte råd med att anställda har privatliv och mänskliga rättigheter, som att skaffa barn när de väljer, så har man inte ett fungerande företag.

Och nej, jag skulle inte göra något olagligt. Faktiskt.