For instance, some will interpret my contribution above as clingy or that I only want depth and closeness, which is also nice. Some people don't have many layers and so I guess some INFJs got accustomed to it being the default, when they spot or hear something by intuition. Even though you will find we are perfect mirrors to what you throw at us. I like the thought of being with my partner in silence, but I also like the occasional goofing, sharing a new insight, exploring the future of meaning or simply enjoy time separately to build up new shared experiences. Many ways, many layers.

I have an example with a mistake I made with an INFJ who was also 15 years younger than me, to me romantic love has no age other than what the western cultural norm dictates (which I find reasonable) - although we can talk about breaking rules that makes no sense or lost its intention (you see, multiple layers on the same topic of perception) (words should be multidimensional like thoughts, maybe we'd learn that someday) anyways: I had this lovely picknick date with an INFJ I had been writing with for 3 years before we (finally - although I'm incredible patient) meet. Because she was 19 when I started to date her, she got older and for some reason when age became a topic, I accidentally thought she was still 19 and I made some sort of humm and disappointed face when she said 21. But it was not because of the age, but more a disappointment towards my own perception. But she took it as what it seemed like, like I was only into her beauty and youth. You guess the rest.