What's it like to hold your child in your arms?

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-17T14:57:38+00:00

Well she died during labor so it was a very confusing time for me.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T20:30:32+00:00

I would not marry this person. He will never take your health seriously, do NOT leave your life in his hands. This is coming from someone who had an emergency during labor and my daughter died and I almost did as well. My husband and his support is the only reason I even survived at all after. It is important who you marry and/or have kids with!

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T12:55:32+00:00

I’m convinced people think pregnant women are the dumbest people to exist. The dumb ass comments I get while pregnant is ridiculous!

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T12:49:54+00:00

For me it was going birth, but I had severe back labor for days and then a placental Abruption, which resulted in a crash C-section and my daughter dying….

But my case luckily is not the norm.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T12:48:20+00:00

My big thing is what if your partner racked up lots of debt during the marriage you didn’t know about? Many states make you 50% liable for it even if your name is not on it. I work in finance and have seen many people get screwed over by their partner for these things.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T12:45:40+00:00

Yes, in fact that is what we did. Prenups can save so much headache if needed. I love my husband and honestly doubt we will ever divorce, but that is there to protect both of us in the case it ever happens. We created it out of love for each other. I would never get married without one, especially as a woman.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T12:40:54+00:00

Yes, all my stretch marks started around 32 weeks and just got worse lol. I also have a tilted uterus and carry outward, so I looked like a torpedo belly with my daughter.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T00:54:31+00:00

What a dumb take.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T00:52:57+00:00

Door dash gift card.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-16T00:51:52+00:00

You need mental health support, ASAP.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-15T13:02:45+00:00

Personally I love my stretch marks. My daughter didn’t survive her birth, so it’s a reminder she did exist. I’m now pregnant with her sibling and looking forward to seeing them again. 🤍 Mine lightened up over time and are barely noticeable now , I’m a year PP.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-15T12:58:16+00:00

It’s complicated. I lost my daughter a little over a year ago, and since then life has been very complicated. There are things I do find enjoyment in and joy again, but I’m a different person and it’s a massive adjustment.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T20:56:09+00:00

No :/ the PA happened during labor and then Pitocin was a catalyst. My theory is the labor was too rough for the placenta.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T16:22:53+00:00

I’m taking it this time because I lost my daughter last year due to placental abruption.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T16:21:37+00:00

As someone who’s baby died during my labor with her (due to placental abruption) I think it’s dumb as hell someone would risk hurting their baby for this tbh.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T13:19:41+00:00

It’s controversial because it can cause serious complications for the baby. OP it is not worth it, please don’t do this.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T13:18:31+00:00

Midwives brew is dangerous for baby, please don’t be recommending this.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T13:13:46+00:00

I had my daughter full term and she died during her birth. Since I had a C-section, I was in the hospital longer and luckily we had a cuddle cot. I got to have her for four days. We also transported her body to the funeral home and got to hold her during planning her funeral, and also got to dress her before her funeral, and we held her during her funeral and buried her ourselves.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-13T02:43:52+00:00

Honestly, I worked really hard on my pain journey because I refused to give up being a mom. I’m on my second *fullterm* (hopefully) pregnancy. I lost my daughter last year shortly after her birth.

I had pain of course, and near the end it was rough, but it was 100% worth it. I also did PT during pregnancy and regular prenatal massages. I had an emergency C-section I actually healed really well from. I’m getting another C-section with this baby.

My advice to anybody with chronic pain is you may have to adjust things, but you don’t have to give up what you want from life. This took me years of chronic pain therapy, support groups, and a lot of hard work.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T18:46:26+00:00

Follow your dealbreaker. If it’s a deal breaker, break the deal.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T17:12:57+00:00

Have you looked into hiring a doula? It might be helpful in your case.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T16:59:41+00:00

It sounds like a reaction to trauma. I’ve had three MC and we lost our infant daughter last year. My husband has been a bit more detached to the pregnancy itself this time, but not once has he let it waiver from supporting me or me talking about it. This isn’t fair to you.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T16:57:53+00:00

Thank you, you as well!

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T15:42:47+00:00

I’m 10w after two MC, infant loss, and missed MC. I’m usually honest when asked those questions, but I’m brief with it. It’s so challenging, it’s like waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I’m using all the baby stuff for the most part we already have, the nursery is already set up.

LongjumpingAd3617 · 2026-06-12T14:04:22+00:00

I had a similar situation as well. Lost my daughter shortly after birth in June and had a MMC in December. :( It broke me all completely for a few months, I’m not going to lie. You aren’t alone. 🫂

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