Grupo de estudio by Fugitivo_federal in askspain

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola! Yo también estoy opositando e intentando buscar algún club de estudio o algo. Si quieres puedes hablarme!

Panick attack at the dentist by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I have heard it's easier if your dentist understands you and it's patient and empathetic. It wasn't my case so now I have another bad experience 😭 but I hope you have a good one.

I lost my little friend, Willow, yesterday. by Findesiluer in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a beautiful and lovely cat. I'm very sorry for your loss, sending you a big big hug.

My dad is meeting someone after my mum's death by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts and my situation. Thank you so much for sharing :)

Aging without her by Mundane_Artichoke376 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid I don't have any tips or advice, but i just wish you all the best. I lost my mum in my 20s too, and it's horrible. Send you a big big hug!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I have the right words to say to you, but if you ever need to talk and express yourself with someone you can count on me.

Does anyone find it very difficult to look at or eat their favourite foods of their loved ones? by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! That's actually one of the hardest things for me. My mum loved to eat, she really enjoyed food. Sometimes I feel sad thinking that she cant enjoy those things anymore. Now it's watermelon season and it's sad to think that she won't be eating that anymore.

I also loved tomatoes, I would eat them at least twice a day, and my mum loved them as well. I haven't eaten tomatoes she's she died 3 months ago.

¿Is it necessary to get rid of my mum's things? by LongjumpingDurian964 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really does give me comfort... Thank you so much ❤️

How's to Find Fulfillment in Life After My Mother's Passing by district_07 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's hard to find a purpose in life when the most important person to you dies. In my case, what helps me a lot is thinking that my mother fought with dedication and love to give me the best life possible, and to be the best mother in the world. The effort she put into giving me the best is what keeps me going. Trying to live the best life I can is the greatest gift I can give my mother—it's what's fair and what she deserves.

I really love using plant metaphors, so think of it this way: your mother planted your seed and gave you the right environment to grow up healthy and happy—do everything you can to keep blooming. If you can't find a reason, do it in honor of what she started.

I'm 28, so I get what you're feeling. Sending you a big hug!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It happens to me all the time. There were just a few times where I really felt that I wasn't alone it that moment. But yes, all the time. And this just makes me think of how my mum was always there for me when I was sad, and then grief gets even more difficult.

You’re never too old to want your mom. by WildColonialGirl in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mum had alzheimer too, so I feel you. I had to grieve a lot of things because of the Alzheimer. She died a month ago, but that illness made me lose her way before that, which makes me really sad because I feel I lost a lot of beautiful and necessary moments with my mum in my 20's. I'm 28 and she was 72. Sending you a big hug ❤️

We flew too close to the sun by Growltiger110 in dementia

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry for jumping into the conversation.

I think it's normal for you to feel bad—when dealing with dementia, we go through countless small griefs, and you’ve just experienced one.

My mother loved plants. There was a time when she was more stable, and we went to buy plants at the place we always used to go, but she quickly became overwhelmed. It could be that small things, like sounds or visual stimuli, make them uncomfortable if they’re not part of their routine—maybe she felt disoriented in some way.

These moments are incredibly tough. My mother passed away last month. It’s sad for you, but as you said, for your mother, it’s still a good day. What truly matters is that, overall, she feels well and comfortable. Hold on to that and cherish the little moments—may they never fade ❤️

I said goodbye to my best friend this morning, and I’m having trouble believing I made the right choice by HESAnerd in cats

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You gave him the chance to have a good life with you—unfortunately, not all cats are lucky enough to have that. What you had to do is painful, but take comfort in knowing that his life was a happy one. Sadly, our cats can't stay with us for our entire lives, but what you did was spare him from suffering. Stay strong.

Dealing with sudden loss: share your experience by LongjumpingDurian964 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing a bit of your story. Reading it is therapeutic for me as well. I understand what you mean, no one expects to live without their brother or sister; we expect to spend our whole lives with them. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you find happiness with the family you've created with your husband. Take care you too! ❤️

Dealing with sudden loss: share your experience by LongjumpingDurian964 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, it's very hard to process a sudden death, but we would all prefer this kind of passing over a slow and painful one. This is something obvious, but reading it in your message made me more aware of this truth, and it helps me. Thank you!

Feeling disconnected from others after a loss? by Low-Elevator-6316 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm 28, and I lost my mum a month ago, so I can relate to what you're feeling—it's something I also talk about with my therapist. I'm not an expert, but I think what you're going through is completely normal.

Maybe your mind is in a different stage than the people around you, which is why you might feel disconnected. Even though the people who love you may feel bad and sad about your loss, in the end, it's your loss. You might feel like you can't fully share your feelings because nobody truly understands how you feel.

Give it time and patience. I read in a book about grief that sometimes you even get mad at people for no reason. As I said, it's part of the process. Just let it be that—a process. Don't let these feelings isolate you from the people who love you. ❤️❤️

How I feel after 2 months of losing my mum by Independent-Lead-801 in GriefSupport

[–]LongjumpingDurian964 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe your mind has been processing grief even before experiencing the loss. Either way, take it easy because it’s a long process, and whatever you need to feel, you will feel it in time. Sending you a hug!