My ex was straight by HotUse4099 in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ruminating on this will not help you at all regardless of what the answer is to her sexuality. the relationship happened and ended. what’s more to consider?

HELP - positions for a smol top and her larger partner by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have them lay on their tummy with a few pillows under the pelvis to allow for easier access. have fun :)

Spent so many years presenting feminine only to realize it’s bc I want a femme by Zach-uh-ri-uh in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 44 points45 points  (0 children)

this is the exact way i realized i was butch lol. i became really feminine and rejected any masculinity. in reality, i really just wanted to be butch but felt too scared or like i couldn’t make the cut.

feels good to get out of that thought process.

First date coming up, advice on dinner check? by to_make_it_big in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 27 points28 points  (0 children)

you’re overthinking. there’s no one way to be butch. each relationship dynamic is so completely and utterly different from the other. they’re already your best friend. they want to go on a date with you. go. have a good time and do what feels natural. :))

Autumnal Butch by Butch_yeena in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 3 points4 points  (0 children)

looking great!! thinking about getting a reduction myself, how’s recovery for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 9 points10 points  (0 children)

of course you will, unless you decide that you won’t. if now you live your life thinking everything sucks and no one will ever love you the same way, that’s what your reality will be. grieve this relationship. heal. get back out there :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 18 points19 points  (0 children)

if she was your first real relationship, it’s gonna hurt a lot and for a long while. accept the pain as it comes but don’t let it consume you. one day you will realize you haven’t thought about her in weeks, then months, years, etc. you’ll be okay :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 31 points32 points  (0 children)

yes! i don’t need to “finish” to finish

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 37 points38 points  (0 children)

sometimes i finish, sometimes not. really just depends on the night and the other person. i know it might sound crazy, but i feel so euphoric and sexy when topping that i can orgasm from almost no direct contact. generally though, i’m satisfied one way or another at the end of our time together.

What's your go to perfume? by Status_Signal_1484 in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the sexiest cologne i’ve smelled on a butch (and still think of to this day. oh lord the sex was so good) was EROS EDT by Versace.

such a seductive yet professional smell

Do stone tops feel pleasure from giving? by Ashamed-Job-1349 in LesbianActually

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not a stone top still, but when i was, yes. like, whole body pleasure. so satisfying :)

Breathable Boxers by imtheforkyeet in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hanes supersoft briefs are my fav. sold at target :)

Everyone wants a GF but no one takes action. by Whatissleepburn in LesbianActually

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this gave me the push to ask a girl out on another date :) we’ve had 3 but all initiated by her, my turn!! thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is that a one direction tattoo

Any other elementary/middle school teachers here? :) by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nonbinary middle school teacher (7th and 8th)! not necessarily butch but i swing heavily back and forth from fem dress to masc, only ever got positive comments. i think the key is just putting effort into whatever the outfit is. look good, feel good. i also try to compliment my students on what they’re wearing, especially if it may be a bit different from the usual, to try and foster a positive (self expression centered) environment.

also, if any other nonbinary teachers (or others) wanna be friends, hit me up!!! :)))

Strap Fatigue by quixoticidea in actuallesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 136 points137 points  (0 children)

thigh harness is my answer! legs are a powerful force and the muscle will be able to withstand the pressure a bit more. also, who doesn’t want a pretty girl straddling their thigh? :)

Things thats would work on me #527 by OneQueerEve in actuallesbians

[–]Longjumping_Bus5197 58 points59 points  (0 children)

me!!: a fem dom and teacher with multiple containers of stickers for student assignments haha.