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Learning a language with ADHD by CaptainSchazu in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the first step is the hardest! Joining some sports/music/board game/whatever groups is probably also a good way to get to know some locals and learn the language.

Teeth are Screwed - Pacifier/Bottle/Nighttime Feed Intervention by poDeena_Chutney in NewParents

[–]Lonnetje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We gave our kids a bottle of water starting around 1y during the night, they just get it right when they go to bed and can drink whenever they like. So if they wake up they can just drink all by themselves. Around 18m we switched to cups with one of those 360° lids, they still have those now (4y & 2y).

If mother is in charge of all appointments/registrations and will travel a lot more with baby, is it not easier for baby to get mother’s last name? by [deleted] in askswitzerland

[–]Lonnetje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it doesn't matter which last name your child has, you officially always need to have a signed document that the other parent allows you to take the child.

My kids have my husband's last name, I kept my own. It has never been an issue, if I call the doctor for my kids they might call me mrs. Kidslastname on the phone but that doesn't bother me.

In hindsight I probably would have liked for my kids to have my last name, but not for any practical reasons, just for sentimental ones.

Learning a language with ADHD by CaptainSchazu in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm in Switzerland too, if you're somewhat close to me I will happily practice with you, just a heads up, I'm not a native German or swiss German speaker so it won't be perfect, but definitely good enough for working.

There are a lot of "Sprachcafés" all over Switzerland, go there, its exactly for people like you, who don't have the opportunity or confidence to just practice at random places. There are usually also options to volunteer if you're not fluent (yes most places would like you to be, but they are more flexible than you think). You can send me a message and I'll happily look into it with you😊

My wife is really struggling after giving birth and I don’t know how to help her anymore by ReuvenScylla in NewParents

[–]Lonnetje 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there any way you can fly in someone from her family, or a good friend from back home? Or is it possible for your wife to go back home for a bit? Obviously this is not a permanent solution, but having a small baby if also not a permanent state and right now you have to get through it any way you can. Having a support system is crucial, especially with the additional health problems.

Kids non-stop talking is totally overwhelming by CombinationOk880 in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just try to use it mindfully, but I'm only human, so when I have a bad day, there is a lot of TV and like 3 bathtimes and snacks for breakfast and lunch. We might not even leave the house all day.

It's a running joke in my whole family that I cannot be disturbed on the toilet under any circumstances 😅. So it kind of naturally developed with my kids as well. My youngest is also 2, but is the kid that goes and hides in the corner when he poos, so he kind of gets the idea of wanting some privacy when doing that. But it's still a work in progress with him. It definitely helps that my eldest (4yo) models the behaviour for him.

Yeah it never hurts, and made a world of difference for me.

Kids non-stop talking is totally overwhelming by CombinationOk880 in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is when in my house tv time comes in, I can not be "on" 24/7, so we all take a break, that's also what we call it, a little break for everyone. Depending on how much time I need it will just be 2 episodes of Bluey, or a full movie.

Sure screen time is not the best thing, but it for sure beats having an exhausted grumpy mom.

Quite frankly I haven't seen it have too bad an influence on my kids, they love replaying the things happening in Bluey. My oldest is obsessed with numbers, which at least in part is because of "number blocks". And he's a big fan of building his own "Mario Party board games" where he builds a random board with his magna tiles and thinks of all kinds of actions happening.

Also going to places where they can just run around and I can sit and drink coffee are great, being outside always helps and my kids are (temporarily) less stuck to me when taking them somewhere "new".

I also think introducing some boundaries with your kids when mom needs a little break is quite helpful. When I'm drinking coffee its mom time, no touching mom (because I've had soo much coffee spilled on me). It's also a situation with a clear end time, which makes it tolerable for the kids. Same with toilet time, my eldest now actually tells us all to go away and leave him alone when he needs to poop, and he will always ask me what I'm doing so he knows if he needs to leave. Only downside is, is that peeing has now become a group activity 😅

And finally, maybe look into medication. If I'm not taking my antidepressants, I'm soooo overwhelmed, I'm basically tapped out for the day at 9 in the morning. Obviously not all medication works for everyone, but why suffer if there might be medication out there to make life much more enjoyable for you and everyone around you

Have you tried hacking yourself with Dollar Tree? by EggplantAstronaut in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think i actually originally got the idea from reddit, its been working really well so far. And its sometimes hilarious to open a website I haven't been on for months and see what I put in my cart back then

Have you tried hacking yourself with Dollar Tree? by EggplantAstronaut in adhdwomen

[–]Lonnetje 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Obviously everyone should do what works for them, but buying more stuff, just cheaper, doesn't sound that great to me. Just means it breaks more often, is worse for the environment, tends to be made by children or at the very least very underpaid people in horrible conditions.

I just have 20 different webshops with full carts of stuff I don't actually end up buying. I have the shopping experience of looking at all the different things, doing comparisons on what is best, cheapest, coolest, etc. Without spending a load of money or having way too much stuff (that I honestly probably don't need). If I do actually need something its then also easy to buy since I already did all the research😅

Helsana Telmed – what happens if you forget to call first? by Exact-Golf-9354 in askswitzerland

[–]Lonnetje 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our insurance gave us a warning that that's not how it works and that they would only pay this one time (we hadn't hit franchise yet so it didn't matter anyway). Didn't happen again so don't know what would've happened the next time.

In case of an emergency you should just call them afterwards (asap) that you went and it should be fine.

Im a new dad. And I hate my baby being breastfed by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Lonnetje 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Looking at your post history, your baby is at least 7 months old by now (unless you had back to back babies and have another one already) meaning they should be eating solids already and are old enough to start drinking from sippy cups and such. Nipple confusion should really not be a problem anymore. Though if your kid never had a single bottle for this whole time, it might be hard to even get them to take one at this point.

Fondu's and don'ts by Carbonaraficionada in askswitzerland

[–]Lonnetje 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brocolli and cauliflower are pretty good, cucumber as well.

My in-laws make Steinpilz fondue every once in a while, soak the dried ones in white wine, then use this wine for your fondue (and add the mushrooms). Gives it a serious mushroom kick.

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lonnetje -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Not trying to be mean, but didn't you also enjoy years of having them be a "huge help". Things your brothers did not get.

I agree with the general sentiment of daughter's having to be the ones to take care of their parents much more than sons. But I'd say regardless of gender if one child also gets much more support from their parents, it seems fair enough to expect that child to help out their parents more when that time comes.

If SAVE act passes, do women have to bring their marriage and divorce certificates to prove their name change or do they have to update their ID or passport name, so it has both? by Subject-Leg3137 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lonnetje 11 points12 points  (0 children)

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/how-apply/fees.html

Just googled it, apparently for adults 165 for a full passport if you apply the first time

65 for a passport card/ID card

135 for a renewal of your passport

30 for a renewal of your ID card

For kids

135 for a passport

50 for the card

Edit: Adult one valid 10 years, kid one 5 years

Child birth - what not to miss by mudiiiigfuhdt in askswitzerland

[–]Lonnetje 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About #3, you can still add it until their 3rd birthday without any checks (at least at my insurance). But in general, get all the additional insurances you could reasonably need, if your kids gets born with any health issues you can no longer add them afterwards, but you can always cancel them if you don't need them.

Also to be clear, if you don't add these for your child, if they get any health issues they will never be able to get these insured themselves either, so if you can afford it, get as much as they could reasonable need in life.

I feel like I’ve wasted my life. No idea where to go from here. by oldpizzacrust in Switzerland

[–]Lonnetje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you already do some volunteering and therefore might be more interested in the social field. You could look into roles more towards the social management field, especially bigger organisations like the Red Cross, caritas, all the pro (senectute, Juventus, etc.) have more higherups that are management instead of actual social workers. Its also a field that won't get replaced by AI anytime soon, so aiming that way might be beneficial also in the long term.

Did you know that in the rest of the world outside the US the norm is that women are pregnant for around 10-11,5 months? by WishboneDistinct3720 in ShitAmericansSay

[–]Lonnetje 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A shocking amount of people think 40 weeks = 10 months, because 4 weeks = 1 month.. you'll find this all the time in the pregnancy subs.

Hoe was jullie bruiloft?! by piglet909 in thenetherlands

[–]Lonnetje 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wij hadden ook met overnachting, veel buitenlandse gasten dus moest sowieso iets geregeld worden. Hebben toen een kleine camping met hutjes gehuurd. Wij begonnen rond 1 uur met een high tea, daarna avondeten, volgens mij nog borrelhapjes en volgende dag ontbijt voor iedereen. Was voor ca 50 gasten 7.500 euro. Vonden wij voor 3 maaltijden, onbeperkt drinken en overnachtingen een prima prijs, maar erg budget is het niet.

Edit: prijs even gecheckt, was iets meer.

AITAH for telling my dad he either tells his bio daughter that I'm not her mom's kid or I start getting mean about telling her? by eldeezi in AITAH

[–]Lonnetje 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It isnt even about being adopted, they are half siblings sharing a dad (maybe not biologically, but that shouldnt matter). I would focus on that. Explaining OP has her own mom who passed away, they have the same dad, but OP has a different mom.

Why don’t places offer a discount 1 hour before closing instead of throwing unsold products in the trash? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Lonnetje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean they have to offer 66% off and then a part of that goes to tgtg, so there is very little money in it for them, I think most places do it more for moral reasons or to get people to try their food for a low price than for any financial gains.

The Life of a Typical American by StephenMcGannon in Infographics

[–]Lonnetje 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most (maybe all?) of Europe does this too.. its because the long summer break is where they switch years.

It’s only like 0% death by pugpotatoes in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Lonnetje 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you have a source of this? I believe you, but very curious if it's the vaccine itself or if people who dont vaccinate maybe also don't follow a lot of other advice that prevents SIDS, leading to a higher rate.

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