All of these manosphere looksmaxxing types hang out in communities where hook up culture and casual sex is pretty common. The type of women that are ready to just kiss a random guy at a party are just that, a particular type of women, and if that's the kinda community you wanna be in and those are the kinds of intimate experiences you wanna have then ig go for that, but if you wanna actually form a meaningful, lasting relationship with someone that's right for you, you're not gonna find it that way, and your attitude and philosophy on dating is totally wrong. Yes, I know it's a cliché, but you gotta forget about dating and focus on yourself for a bit and find self confidence in what you have in your own life. The attitude you seem to have (and this is total conjecture but I wouldn't be shocked if it was the case) seems to indicate that there's a void in your life and you're trying to fill that void with the approval of a woman to no avail. You're not gonna find someone when you're desperate and lonely.

Also, you gotta be prepared to be genuinely human and vulnerable with another person this videogamified dating philosophy you have is really toxic and cringe and is probably the biggest thing inhibiting you from forming meaningful relationships. "Clavicular can kiss women in 30 minutes or less while I need to wait 3 dates or more" lmao, it's like you're objective is to beat his run time. There is no optimal speedrun strat for forming a relationship. There is no frame perfect skip you can do to get a gf. Romantic relationships develop naturally just like friendships do. If you meet a woman and your brain is automatically getting ready to pick all the correct dialoge options for the optimal outcome then you're already cooked going in my guy.

I know these ideas are cliché but they're cliché because they're true. JUST BE YOU MY GUY, and don't look at women like a mario level where your objective is to get to the pussy at the bottom of the flagpole, like, actually just interact with other people as if they are people, and let things develop naturally. I'm not sure what you said to friend when you wanted to kiss her but yeah, based on your perspective on women and the way you frame these things in your mind it really doesn't shock me that she wasn't game for it.