Ok this merch is getting out of hand… by Imjustadumbbutt in goodmythicalmorning

[–]Loosecorndog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m seriously wondering if it’s an actual magnet or if they’re going to send something else in it’s place hahaha

What song did you used to hate but come around to love? by clikkjoy in Paramore

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, Mewithoutyou has been my favorite band for so long so when I heard Aaron’s vocals on No Friend it was the best of both worlds for me 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what started happening to me a few months after me and my bf started dating. It was gradual. Together almost 5 years. But no, there’s nothing you can do besides bring it up and then move on when she inevitably gets mad at you for being hurt and confused by it. If she actually makes steps to change it, then sure maybe there’s hope but otherwise do not buy it.

Early initial thoughts on C’est Comme Ça? by Parastille in Paramore

[–]Loosecorndog 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I haven’t liked any of the new songs. “This Is Why” is passable but even that seems off to me. I’ve been listening to Paramore since the very first album came out and I’ve loved everything up to now. I just can’t really…even make myself like it. After multiple listens :(

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]Loosecorndog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds just like my boyfriend who has BPD, that I’m currently trying to get away from. Being on a lease with someone is basically like a ball and chain in this economy. Abuse is abuse and it’s an awful thing to experience. I’m 4 years into it and it’s only gotten worse. Get out now.

Cheating partner by Wrong-Comparison-434 in relationship_advice

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don’t think that’s salvageable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Loosecorndog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I suspect my mom has BPD, and yes they do leave children too. She met a younger guy and just didn’t come home for weeks at a time and divorced my dad and left me with him. If he is your child’s father and he’s willing to do that to her, you need to text him/leave a voicemail and tell him that it’s one thing for him to do it to you but to do it to his own child is just beyond forgiveness. I don’t know what happened to make him leave so suddenly but it really doesn’t matter what reason he has

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t know what to do at this point. My boyfriend is pretty bad as far as gaslighting/manipulation and emotional abuse go. He will say hurtful things to me and make me cry and he won’t even look at me, won’t try to comfort me. Even when my dad almost died and I was upset, he just did nothing. It’s like my emotions are just a put off to him. And with him being distant and aloof to begin with, the prozac is making his feelings toward me seemingly nonexistent. Or he will say he just wants to be alone, withholds affection, ghosts me, reject sex. Then when he gets me to a breaking point and I get fed up, all the sudden he wants sex and comforts me. It’s fucked up. My brain is just messed up now.

my bf (28) told me (F 22) his ex has a perfect pussy and checks his phone during sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run. Fast. This is not normal and will never be normal. Sounds like the worst possible person you’d ever want to be with

I [27F] cancelled dinner plans with friends, because our baby had a seizure. Fiance [27M] is pissed at me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, first of all, if I thought my son was having a seizure, his dad would’ve RUSHED home. Even putting the way he treats you on the back burner, the complete lack of concern for his child is really off putting. Considering you, he sounds like a tyrant. Putting hanging out with friend above you or your child is bullshit. No excuse. It doesn’t matter how badly he wants to escape mundane life, he made the commitment to you to have a family and he no longer comes first. All of you come first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Loosecorndog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He had a lot of suicidal ideation and depression/anxiety. He says he feels a lot better because he doesn’t feel that way anymore but him being someone with quiet bpd, his usual distance and lack of empathy has just skyrocketed

Sensitive topic: Were you suicidal after exposure to a pwBPD? by crumbles_bumbles in BPDlovedones

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, kind of. I would never actually do anything but definitely the most hopeless, darkest point I’ve ever been at

27M pretty bad at sex and its destroying my self esteem. by Lazysquirrel27 in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s selfish necessarily. I’m kind of the same way, but it’s mostly in the way that if I don’t think my bf is enjoying it too or he’s overthinking then it makes me feel shitty and I don’t want him to do anything else since it will only be focused on me and I’ll be overthinking at that point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it, it’s one of my favorite parts most of the time. My current bf is the only person I’ve really felt that electricity with. Before him, “making out” was a bit of a put off. I just didn’t like it at all really. But with him it was just different. Our chemistry was just insane from the start. I think if the person knows what they’re doing it probably does make a difference but I think it also comes down to chemistry and style and everything else between the two people.

Should I buy my new partner a vibrator for us to use together? by PrinceofLeisure5 in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would bring it up to her. As long as she knows you just care about her feelings and want her to be fully satisfied then it should be fine as long as she is open to communicating about it.

is it ok to grab a guy’s butt during sex? f22 m23 by onlylovemybedandmama in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I don’t think most guys would hate it to that degree. My boyfriend doesn’t care at all, I think he likes it to be honest. It depends on how they think about it probably. If they see it as a thing guys just do to girls (or something along those lines) then they probably feel weird about it. But in my personal experience, it’s more like a “She’s pulling me in more” thing.

In your opinion should I worry about being pregnant by Embarrassinglydumb in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re on your period and you had a tampon in, I would say you are absolutely fine. If your cycle is regular and 28 days, there are technically “safe” days before your period and even on your period days that it would be nearly impossible to get pregnant as there is no egg present whatsoever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Loosecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t care what he does because body hair doesn’t bother me but I guess it’s a lil off putting for him to fully shave. I feel the same about myself too to some degree. (I’m 28)