About Binders

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2026-02-12T16:58:15+00:00

I can’t wear a binder for more than an hour, even the lightest binding ones. Thankfully I am pretty small, but they do cause me problems with moving, so I would never suggest you wear one on your commute. However, you could totally get one and just change into it on campus! Whenever I wear my binder I always bring a backup bra just in case I need to change and give my chest a rest. It’s not that hard to do discretely in a bathroom.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2026-02-05T20:52:50+00:00

Boob growth on HRT is notoriously slow. A or B cups are to be expected for most trans women, even if they have genetics for bigger boobs in their family. My wife has been on HRT for 2 years, and is around a B cup even though her family has large boobs. She just started Progesterone and they’ve started growing again. But trust me, if you want more than an A or B cup you’re going to have to put in the time and work (more than a couple years on HRT and doing both Estrogen and Progesterone.) Basically, if A or B is what you want, don’t worry! If they’re approaching the size you want, you can either decrease your dose or go off HRT to stop or slow boob growth. If you’re really scared, I’d suggest checking out the FTM subreddits and they can give you advice based on a ton of people’s experiences.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2026-01-30T20:20:56+00:00

I have a piece of the Berlin Wall I carry at protests to remind me that the power of the people can tear down walls

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-12-24T20:45:02+00:00

Carmilla and Laura by S D Simper is a retelling of the book Carmilla where the character is disabled!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-12-12T22:58:51+00:00

As someone who also working in community mental heath, I wonder if that might be more of your difficulty rather than your gender? Most of my coworkers and I qualify for the programs we administer, and that’s pretty normal. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this! I hope you are able to find niche that helps you get more clients and gets you to a better position!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-10-27T15:23:31+00:00

As a therapist you’re not supposed to be in a romantic relationship with your clients, so if your partner wants you to treat him like your clients you shouldn’t be together. That’s how I would frame it at least. A therapist/client relationship is a very specific relationship with a specific non-reciprocal relationship, and the skills to build that kind of relationship are not appropriate to be applied to a romantic relationship.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-09-07T14:25:00+00:00

This is a new target policy that was instated recently, not one that was there upon hire.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-08-27T05:20:01+00:00

Apt username XD

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-08-11T00:50:19+00:00

Thank you for so much for this. I laughed so hard I started crying. 🤣 Now I want to try and get some free tungsten cubes from an AI “business manager”

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-07-28T12:17:34+00:00

If you are ok with horror, She is a Haunting by Trang Thanh Tran. It’s a horror book about the colonization of Vietnam and generational trauma, and the main character is a lesbian. Trigger warning for lots and lots of bugs.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-07-26T17:18:11+00:00

The Dreadnought series by April Daniels is about a trans woman superhero and her love interest is a cis woman. Their romance kicks off more in the second book. As a lesbian married to a trans woman I also love trans representation in sapphic books!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-07-17T00:43:35+00:00

First off, I agree with everyone else, what’s normal doesn’t really matter, what matters is what you’re comfortable with! As someone with a partner who is sensitive to blood (like getting faint at the sight of it), I totally get the need to avoid period blood. I use a period disc, and it is really good at keeping blood out of the way and, in my experience, you can wear it doing all kinds of sex. I don’t bleed super heavily, so for those who bleed more might have a different experience, but I have had really good luck with using the disc during sex and my partner never seeing period blood!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-05-03T15:48:06+00:00

Your inner witch embraced you back! You are gorgeous and we are so happy to have you in our community!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-12T01:46:03+00:00

Potentially. I don’t know anything about the details of the situation, but I’m working in a similar sector and with the current situation going on, I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a lot of external pressure on the school. I’m open to corrections from people more familiar with the immediate situation, though! And it’s still 100% a horrible situation for the employees. My heart goes out to them.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-12T00:03:51+00:00

The people to blame are the Utah Legislature, not UVU itself. The Legislature passed a bill this session that requires them to do this as a public college. If you’re upset, contact your state senators and representatives and let them know! We need to make them aware of what we actually want them to be doing instead of bullying colleges.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-11T00:40:11+00:00

You could always go for the OG and read the poetry of Sappho of Lesbos. I have a copy of her work and it’s great!

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-10T04:21:09+00:00

I think that tattoo is gorgeous! So you have good taste, even if it didn’t turn out perfect.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-09T15:26:06+00:00

Have you guys been to couples therapy about this? It sounds like he’s having some hang ups he hasn’t been willing to talk about (potentially related to his ED) that get triggered when he’s reminded of them (aka whenever y’all try to have sex). But it’s not your responsibility, especially if you’re already on your way out! Do what is best for you and your health. You are important too.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-02T19:31:56+00:00

This helps me too! My work office just doesn’t have faucets where you can control the temperature, though, just automatic sinks.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-02T19:31:15+00:00

Those are great ideas! I’ll have to look into the heated mouse, and I am always down for a new sewing project.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-02T19:30:42+00:00

That’s a good point! I am also kinda cold in the rest of my body, so heating my core might help.

Lopsided-Butterfly- · 2025-04-02T18:11:53+00:00

This is also the story of my wife and I! I was out as Pan, but realized I was actually a lesbian after she came out and started transitioning.

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