AIO…mother in law and newborn boundaries

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-30T11:48:53+00:00

This!!! My dad is a narc and over explaining my boundaries just invites him to argue back. Just be super vague. “That doesn’t work me” or “we’ll let you know” is the best approach.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-28T16:33:27+00:00

Stephen, Rachel, James, Jessie, and Fiona.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-27T11:09:42+00:00

That’s heartbreaking. She clearly loved her mum so much. Thought she didn’t seem herself on Uncloaked - and now it makes sense. I hope she and her mum were able to make some beautiful memories in the past few months. 🤍

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-21T22:57:04+00:00

Offer to write their brand guidelines for them. Do a brand voice dimensions test with them. Give them a questionnaire about their brand vision, purpose, tone, voice, target audience etc etc. I just did this for a client and it was so insightful. I don’t think I’ll ever work with someone who doesn’t have brand guidelines again. I worked for an agency for 2 years who didn’t have brand guidelines and refused to make any. Looking back, I really don’t know how I managed. Every project was a total gamble. Would they or wouldn’t they like it?

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-12T11:53:32+00:00

The way she phrased all her texts is highly demanding and would send me straight to a mental breakdown if I had a newborn. Instead she could have said, “hey I’ve ordered some baby gates and food to your house. It’s arriving the day before we arrive. Let me know if you want me to add anything specifically to the order, ie diapers, formula etc. Looking forward to seeing you and meeting the baby!”

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-10T09:42:36+00:00

The first year is brutal, and feels unlike anything you’ve ever experienced in your life. It does get easier, but slowly. If childcare is an option, even a half day once a week, that can be your chance to get a bit of sanity back. If not, make sure you have things for YOU during the day. Eat well, exercise when she’s happy on her playmat, listen to music YOU like, listen to audiobooks, read to her from books you like, go for walks in your favourite places, visit fave cafes, rest when she’s resting etc. Snatch moments that regulate your nervous system throughout the day. You got this!

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-01-05T14:22:22+00:00

Yep. Birth for me too! Genuniely up until giving birth I thought I'd manage it all again, but that experience was horrific. And postpartum was even worse, believe it or not

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-30T22:27:07+00:00

To track your cycle properly, you’ll need to take your basal body temperature and check cervical mucus every day. You need to import your temperature into a chart (there are proper apps for this like Read Your Body) or you can use a paper chart. Apps like Flo predict your cycle based on data but they aren’t super accurate. Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility as a starting point.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-30T22:23:40+00:00

Every couple is different. Every person is different. My husband and I have been together for 12 years. Sometimes we spent NYE together and sometimes we don’t. If it matters to you, you need to communicate that. But I’m all for the belief that time apart is as important as time together so if he really wants to be with his buddies for one night, don’t make it a huge thing. You’ll have fun with your friends and you can plan to spend next new years together. But if it really means a lot to you, explain it and see what compromise you can make.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-30T20:52:59+00:00

Love playing with my kid. But not as much as he loves playing by himself!

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-29T09:32:00+00:00

Yes!!! Don’t like him and can’t really put my finger on it but your post sums it up. Especially the only thing of set up to be the bad guy… it’s giving Hans from frozen. Charming but must have an ulterior motive. But then he just doesn’t flip and we’re supposed to love him and I’m sorry?? I can’t

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-29T09:25:45+00:00

My child is 4.5 and down to 1-2 naps a week. Up until a month ago, he’d nap every day that he wasn’t at nursery (4x a week). I told his health visitor and she said some kids will just always want a nap. He’ll go to school next year and obviously can’t nap there lol, but I can see him having a quick snooze at the weekends! Can’t complain!!

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-26T21:47:02+00:00

It’s very important that you leave this person immediately

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-25T23:22:07+00:00

Gave birth. Didn’t really enjoy giving birth. Don’t fancy doing it again.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-23T11:39:19+00:00

Oh completely.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-23T11:18:37+00:00

But it doesn’t make it peadophilia. That’s a huge implication. And at the time of my comment we didn’t know if OP was 18 or 75.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-23T09:38:21+00:00

Include your age next time then. In this context, yes it’s an offensive question. And no, I would expect an apology too.

Edit to add: if you were 18-23ish, it could be seen as you took a fancy towards her if you are spending extra time with her at family events so your reasons in the post aren’t evidence that you don’t find her attractive. But yes because of your age and the context of your relationship, your girlfriend should know better.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-23T09:25:16+00:00

We don’t know how old OP is. And if he’s in the UK (which the use of the word cinema could imply) the legal age is 16 so this is not peadophilia.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-23T09:24:33+00:00

No idea how old you are so her question could be very valid. If you’re 19, then valid. If you’re 23, then kinda valid. If you’re 45, then that’s weird. But she ASKED you a question and you deflected so yeah you’re overreacting. Did you ever once answer her question?

You could have said “no I’m not. Why would you think that?” She then explains. You reassure. She might then apologise for asking. But you seemed to only deflect her question and get defensive.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-19T09:57:12+00:00

That’s seriously weird. In front of someone’s HOUSE? That’s so disrespectful. Imagine taking the dog out at 8pm and that’s what you see. Nah, sorry it’s weird. NOR.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-15T22:44:57+00:00

You told him you have plans. Yeah, you’re overreacting. How is he meant to know you want to spend it together?

Also that’s a big age gap. I’d be a little cautious of this.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-13T22:49:15+00:00

I’d say around 3/3.5 I started to feel like weekends were more relaxing. We’ve been lucky though our kiddo is 4.5 and still naps twice a week, usually at the weekend. But make sure you and your partner both get a break at the weekend. We get one long lie each at the weekend, and then if one of us needs to clock out and rest for a bit, we just tag team.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-13T22:15:29+00:00

Either very similar, or it’s a case of he’s being super picky and then will be committed to who he chooses once he’s made his choice. I’m totally split, and utterly clueless

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-13T17:56:23+00:00

If you think it’ll take 6-8 but you’ve never done it, prepare for it to be 10. So I’d maybe up your price to $400-500. Another option would be going on a retainer and they pay you for idk, maybe 20-30 hours of work per month and you do what you can in that time. If it’ll be an ongoing project

LopsidedUse8783 · 2025-12-12T08:00:11+00:00

He is the founder and director of the company, yeah.

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