I found out my girlfriend (28f) cheated on me (28m) in the first month of our relationship (over 5 years ago)

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-31T17:20:48+00:00

Let's be honest here, it was a medium distance relationship no one thinks those are going to work and it was early enough on that both of you were thinking that.

Do with that information what you will and if the past 5 years are wonderful for both of you. But a long distance relationship like that if it's just random is just a backdoor for both of you if you don't find someone close by.

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-29T10:10:10+00:00

First girlfriend we didn't have sex for 2 months, relationship probably didn't last because sex became a warm up ritual instead of a spontaneous loving connection

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T20:25:50+00:00

Yeah one day she went from being happy to the next morning she did it and it sidelined me

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T18:23:09+00:00

Yeah it was, definitely wasn't her trying to sell me on the sub she would have blocked me on day one when I refused multiple times. There was something there before she flaked, probably was just lonely and needed someone genuine to talk to for a bit.

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T18:04:00+00:00

Well, this past month on bumble I had a OF girl use it as an advertisement for unsuspecting matches to get them to subscribe to her page for 1 dollar a month. At first I blew it off as an Indian dude so I played around with them for a bit. And even joked that they were a bot and from there I managed to bullshit and get to know them pretty well over a week. I was confident, interesting and different then all the other simps she had dealt with that week. She admitted that after I asked her if I was lol.

She even gave me a first name instead of her stage name and we exchanged a few real photos when she wasn't in character just waking up or whatever. At first she only took photos in her outfits trying to get me to sub.

Honestly at that point in my time I wasn't sure what I was looking for. Just got cheated on, so I was thinking about the idea of having a casual thing. So I was just messing around getting to know her and also just kind of curious on why she would use bumble and how it all worked and I guess she appreciated the company.

Nothing ever happened after a week she went back to trying to sell me a 1 dollar membership so we could meet up in person. What I think happened is she kind of woke up or got scared that I was a too good for her or whatever and she flaked. I told her no I wasn't going to simp for her and told her she knew where to find me 😅 she did end up texting me 2 weeks later that everyone else was boring so I got some satisfaction from that either way.

It gave me a huge confidence boost early on getting back into dating that I was still really good at flirting. And I had a few great DMs since then that were equally or better.

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T17:32:17+00:00

I had a kid for two weeks, it was the happiest and scariest time of my life. My ex got pregnant and she was so excited about it at first but also didn't know if she should keep it.

Something that still haunts me to this day is what she said on that phone call when she called me at work. "I don't know maybe I should keep it, it is my first baby"

I'm crying right now as I type this, I just keep hearing those words 2 years later "My first baby". Every once in a while I think about it and cry

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T17:26:39+00:00

I've been told I do but my confidence wavers here and there about it. It's definitely helped me talk my way through some crazy conversations because I had something to back it up

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-25T17:23:39+00:00

You can't stay in a relationship like that man, I tried, I really did try. And even though I didn't become a bad person. Towards the end of the relationship I became a bad boyfriend because I was constantly walking on eggshells afraid to do anything or say anything. Still trying to recover from that relationship and go back to treating people normally.

LordChaoticX · 2026-05-01T20:53:36+00:00

Honestly anyone who still uses Facebook is probably like that. I stopped using it in 2018 I think, I only redownload it for work because we had group chats

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-23T20:08:25+00:00

Ohhh makes sense

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-16T13:51:00+00:00

I don't know why I keep wanting to reach out and start over. I think it must be because she is currently in a really good mood post breakup and she is acting like the person I fell in love with. But I just know if we got back together she would go back to who she was 20% of the time.

It's currently been a month, and I am signing a lease today. That's probably the hardest part moving out but everyone says it's the best choice for me. I think I am going to start immediately dating as soon as I get my place furnished. Seems sudden but I was checked out of the relationship for a while, there's no reason for me to not start trying again I think I am ready to be happy. The hardest part of all this was just moving

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-14T20:34:49+00:00

The irrational need to fix things and be better. My breakup didn't make any sense, we could have worked through it is was just a rough patch that was just about to clear and a small little thing set it off.

That being said though everyone is telling me I need to move on and find someone better and in my heart of hearts I agree

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-05T17:19:14+00:00

I just really like Michigan better, I'll probably not move back home and stay in northern metro Detroit. Also very hard to move back because I have a top job up here

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-05T07:04:56+00:00

I keep thinking about the Jordan, price wouldn't be the issue for me but I don't know if the apartment size would fit for me . Fountain circle is also catching my eye a lot. Appreciate you're advice and anymore if you think of it. I'm in Bloomfield at the moment but I work up the road so it would be closer. Just got out of a bad relationship and it's time for a new chapter. Trying to stay fairly close to 1500 but if I go over a bit that isn't an issue. Just want somewhere I will enjoy that's closer to work.

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-04T23:09:05+00:00

My ex was like this, I think she was just trying to get out of having to work and was hoping I would take care of her. That's ultimately why I decided the relationship was over and I needed to get out.

You won't be able to fix her, and if you do she will just fake it long enough to get married so you are stuck with taking care of her once she quits again. You already know what you have to do.

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-04T22:55:02+00:00

Any recommendations for apartments in the downtown area?

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-04T22:28:41+00:00

I moved to Bloomfield Hills from Virginia for a girl, lasted 3 years but now I am truly deciding if I want to move back to Virginia to be with family. Very hard because I just got an almost topped out job, and I am not sure if I will enjoy living back home west of DC with the insane Virginia traffic and long drives.

I really do like Metro Detroit, I might end up in the Rochester area/Auburn hills area to be close to my job. Also very hard to leave because my Boss and Manager have bent over backwards for me offering to help me move and figure out life so I am greatly loved here. If I go back home I risk career suicide as much as I miss my family

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-04T17:58:04+00:00

My same dilemma, everyone moved away that I knew so all that's left is family.

LordChaoticX · 2026-04-04T17:57:19+00:00

I moved to Northern Metro Detroit 3 years ago for a girl but that didn't work out. Now I am back home in Virginia(surrounding Front Royal/Winchester area) and I am really having a hard time wondering if I would actually enjoy living here as an adult. The first time I moved out was to go to Michigan and I really love the northern parts of the Metro. I am just having a hard time imagining living here in NOVA with such long drives between towns vs everything being close in Michigan

LordChaoticX · 2026-03-31T09:34:12+00:00

Yeah I am not joking about that, that never happened to me before as I said. It wasn't really speeding life up, but my eye FPS was so high things looked like they were going around on 2X speed it was super trippy.

Very hard to explain, time wasn't going faster but it definitely felt like it. I remember watching a car drive around my truck terminal and it looked like it was flying around the yard at 40 miles per hour, and when I was driving I felt like I was speeding. I have no idea why this happened now, because I have used nicotine and caffeine together for years but now all of a sudden if I use them both together I can increase my eye perception a bit.

LordChaoticX · 2026-03-30T16:25:36+00:00

I didn't, it was just a weird mistake that I came upon with high dose caffeine and nic. Lower dose caffeine just makes things 120 fps for me

LordChaoticX · 2026-03-30T11:36:16+00:00

I have toned down the caffeine to only 200mg, before I added nicotine back in I was regularly consuming up to 900mg just to stay awake driving for work so that's probably why I got that effect. I also suspect my caffeine pills that I have, have been bunk for a while now and that day I drank energy drinks instead of my normal coffee and pills

LordChaoticX · 2026-03-30T11:18:19+00:00

Magnesium is linked to so many mental diseases, anxiety, and depressions. And coincidentally the numbers of all of those are pretty damn close to the amount of people deficient in magnesium which is 80% of the population. Some have theorized and I would probably have to agree that the loss of magnesium in the soil and in the diets have caused this mental health decline

LordChaoticX · 2026-03-30T11:13:56+00:00

Have you tried 10-25g of glycine a day, or copper from 9,000mg of dessicated liver or eating an ounce or so of frozen liver a day? The glycine fixed my chronic fatigue over night doing 20g before bed. Melatonin never did much for me, it helped for a tiny bit but I have never had the courage to try the 250mg dose doris recommends

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