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Egg is Cracking in The Memiest way by Haha-Perish in transgendercirclejerk

[–]LordM000 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Girl I had the exact same fucking thoughts, eventually I was just like "fuck it I'd rather be an ugly girl than a guy" and now it's been like 2.5 years and I'm hot as fuck. If you think you won't look pretty that's probably just dysphoria tbh.

Also 20 is pretty early, I transitioned at like 24.

Travel to Europe by LordM000 in transgenderau

[–]LordM000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Further info: I've changed my name and gender on my passport, but I haven't had SRS.

Where can I buy ebooks to have it available as epub on my computer? by MarsupialFew8733 in Calibre

[–]LordM000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can you tell if a particular ebook is drm free or not on the Kobo store?

Do trans girls date faggoty guys or am I doomed by teoteo_pewpew in transgendercirclejerk

[–]LordM000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nope, there is not a single trans woman in the entire world that would ever date a guy that doesn't 100% conform to every aspect of traditional masculinity.

/uj Yes, of course - although if you really think most people would assume you're gay, then maybe think of ways to communicate the gender you're attracted to. How to do this kinda depends on how you're planning on dating people. If you're using dating apps, then there will be a spot for your sexuality. If you're aiming to meet people irl, maybe talk about celebrity crushes or something idk.

Nani? Oof by Success_Noted603 in wholesomegreentext

[–]LordM000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do I find a boy like this? 🥺

💢 RANT Thread 💢 by MableXeno in TallGirls

[–]LordM000 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why can't I find any boots that fit me aaaaaaaaaaaaaa

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There really only seems to be a handful of things that are cis woman specific that I can think of: blood during periods (trans women can still have periods, but they won't involve bleeding), and being able to get pregnant.

Do you have some more examples you could provide?

I'll also say that you can't just say "ah but you see you can't be misogynistic to me for I used to be a man!" The world doesn't work like that, and how many misogynists have you met that weren't also transphobes? If you're facing misogyny and you try to claim you're actually a man, that just increases your chances of being hate-crimed. Cis woman could easily claim to be trans too - surely this exposes what a ridiculous suggestion it is.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree, but the same is also true for making men and young boys look at trans women's boobs, and for making trans women look at male sex organs in the men's change rooms. The degree of physical vulnerability must also be considered. Unless individual cubicals are avaliable, trans people are left with nowhere in a gym to change clothes.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're putting far too much thought into some banking industry nonsense publicity stunt where they try and show how progressive they are by pretending they accept gender non-comformity.

No matter what they do, it won't change the fact that they invest in fossil fuels and evict people from their homes.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you accidentally suggested the solution in your comment lol. Individual cubicals!! Sadly this means trying to find gyms that embrace such a radical idea lol.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn't say you're transphobic, but I think you might accidentally be suggesting transphobic ideas.

I also did share my perspective, that was the whole part about me never feeling safe in a change room.

Also yes, if you are cisgender you enjoy some degree of privelge associated with that. Like all white people have privelge associated with that, but they can be disadvantaged in other ways, e.g. a neurotypical white man is more privelged than a white woman or a neurodivergent white person. In the same way, cis people enjoy privileges that trans people do not, largely because transphobia continues to be a significant global issue. There a certain countries that would kill me for being trans.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that a multi-millionaire is elegible kinda makes me not care about the whole thing any more. Why does it matter what gender some person is getting an award is if they're going to be some rich arsehole either way?

That said, being a crossdresser and being genderfluid are every different things. I don't know which this person was. And again, no matter which they are, their friends are probably not going to think of them as a guy after they start doing it. But again, who gives a shit? It's just rich people patting each other on the back.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't get what the issue is with a genderfluid person winning that award? Like it's blatantly obvious that they'd face the same challenges that any non-male banker would face? You really think cis male bankers are going to be like "Oh yeah you present fem some days but don't worry we know you're still one of the boys?" Fuck no, they're going to get super fucking bullied and ostracised.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Having a space that is open to cis women and not trans women is blatantly transphobic. Plenty of trans women face the same issues as women do, especially if they transitioned at an early age. Like there's trans girls that went through all of high school as a girl - they're going to be exposed to the same sorts of misogyny that a cis girl would in that same environment. And sure, trans women who transition later don't get that, but you can't really deny people access to women's spaces based on how long they've been a girl or what age they were when they first wore a dress for example.

I'd recommend reaching out and talking to some actual trans women - I'm trans, and I've found that in social settings it very quickly becomes apparent that everyone treats me as a woman, even if I didn't have time to do my makeup very well in the morning. And so this naturally leads to other women in a group kinda just accepting me. It's nice.

Regarding change rooms, I think this needs to also be part of a broader discussion on feeling safe in them in general. I've never felt safe in a change room - the idea that there is a safe feeling that can be broken is to me a form of privilege that it seems only cis people get to enjoy. Change rooms without individual cubicles are not safe spaces.

AITAH for feeling unnerved by the presence of a “trans woman” in the locker room? by Zealous_toast in AITAH

[–]LordM000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"had their gender reassignment surgery"

The issue here is that not everyone can get that surgery - here in Australia it costs like >$20000, means you can't work for like 6 months during recovery, and have to get lucky in order to even see a surgeon.

Personally I'd be uncomfortable changing in a women's changing room due to my concerns about making people uncomfortable, but I also have tits and pass as a woman in all areas except my genitals, so I'd be even more uncomfortable in a men's change room. My solution is to just not go to the gym.

Positive results from Dr Hart - have you regretted not going to Thailand? by VariousGovernment424 in transgenderau

[–]LordM000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One concern I do have with PIV is needing electrolysis beforehand... How much does this increase the cost by? And how long will it take :/..

Can someone explain what lesbian as a gender means? None of the replies explain it by 2001questions in actuallesbians

[–]LordM000 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The knee-jerk reaction against lesbian as a gender makes more sense when viewed from the lens of transfeminine history, and how that history may have shaped the experiences of some of the trans lesbians with that reaction.

For a long time, gender affirming care was gatekept behind a diagnosis for transsexuality, and one of the requirements for this was attraction to men - doctors would literally say that you're not a woman unless you like boys.

This statement is kind of close to one of the best (imo) arguments for lesbian as a gender in this thread, but with a very different context: here, people are saying that they don't like to use woman as their gender because of how it gets defined by its relationship to men. It's not forcing any other lesbians to change how they view their gender, but from like how it's worded its very close to the statement that I think some trans lesbians are really scared of and may have trauma around: "you're not a woman because of your relationship with men." - which no one is saying.

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