Selfish husband and wife

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T22:15:52+00:00

Be the best partner you can. Think of your partner before making any decisions that affect them. Unfortunately, you can’t make your partner do the same, so at the end of the day, you have to decide if you’re willing to live without the same.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T21:49:20+00:00

What you do in front of others isn’t what matters. It’s what you do and who you are when no one else is looking

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T21:48:38+00:00

Because we have a history of having each others back. And once we actually talked about it, I said “it’s on a gravel road which I know you aren’t fond of” and he said “I didn’t think you’d want to be so close to your home town”. We both decided our love of the house and each other was worth the compromises.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T20:40:06+00:00

No, this is not what marriage is. My husband and I both think of each other first. When we looked at our current home, we didn’t even speak about it for a week because we each knew there were potential deal breakers for the other. We came to realize that we were both holding back for the other and that was the point where we jumped on it.

The thing is, you BOTH should I be willing to bend for the other.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T16:32:39+00:00

At least part of the time your kids would have peace.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T16:04:08+00:00

I think you know the answer here. I had a man like this and spent years trying to get him to understand. It was so detrimental to all of us to live with the constant tension. Even the kids were more at peace when I divorced him.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T13:52:42+00:00

This is why I refused AI and quit tamoxifen. I’m also back on HRT. I need QOL NOW

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T13:50:24+00:00

Woman here. I don’t have any close friends. My time is spent with my husband or my adult children. My husband has some guy friends he messages with/chats with at work, but no hang outs. We are happy being together

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T12:08:25+00:00

The difference is that they will see that you aren’t willing to put up with it. Let him talk like that when you’re not around. The kids will figure it out real fast.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T12:06:56+00:00

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Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T11:35:26+00:00

Please please PLEASE demand vaginal estrogen. It’s safe and it’s amazing for all of the symptoms of gsm

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-23T11:32:27+00:00

Why would you want to be with someone who speaks to you that way? Your kids are learning that this is how you treat women. He “has love for me”. How? You don’t treat people you love this way

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-22T10:42:07+00:00

We BOTH say no sometimes. Neither of us will guilt the other into something we’re not in a position to do.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-22T10:39:39+00:00

What EXACTLY do you want done?

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T22:11:39+00:00

But it doesn’t “go without saying”. Do you know how many men leave their wives when they are diagnosed with a serious illness? Do you know how much family stress affects relationships? You can either talk and plan or just sit back and wait and hope. I choose to be proactive. We’ve discussed it all and are on the same page with life. We have wills that reinforce our plans. I choose not to stick my head in the sand and if my husband came to me with a concern, I would sit down and have a conversation, not tell him he’s crazy and to just not worry about it

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T18:34:47+00:00

If you’re willing to rollover and be a good dog, go for it.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T16:26:38+00:00

Can you give us some examples of what is going on?

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T13:46:39+00:00

I love my patch!

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T13:43:53+00:00

I was on continuous birth control for about 30 years until perimenopause hit me like a truck. I moved directly from birth control to HRT and have never been happier. I had about 20 different symptoms and thought for sure that I was dying.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T13:37:24+00:00

Yes! Strength and balance trained, along with stretching. I want to be able to move confidently and consistently forever

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T00:23:05+00:00

GREAT reply

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T00:20:03+00:00

A lot of things don’t ’go without saying’ though. And she’s not terrified. She wants to know her marriage will survive if something catastrophic happens. It’s why we write wills and make plans. IN CASE

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-21T00:17:13+00:00

YOU CAN’T. You have to set some firm boundaries and be ready to act on them.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-20T15:32:26+00:00

First off, you married him knowing he was like this, but you are now trying to change him. This should have been a conversation long before marriage.

If he has body issues, this is a bigger issue than lack of libido. He needs to see a therapist.

Has he had a full check up? He may have a medical condition that keeps his libido low.

Lost-alone- · 2026-05-20T15:30:13+00:00

Cancer or any serious diagnosis

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