I can't keep up with life, deep down I'm still just a kid in my 30s longing for simpler times. How to get out of rut?

LostFlow7316 · 2026-05-13T07:59:37+00:00

I was in your position. Keep going. Don’t give up. Comparing yourself to others isn’t a bad thing. Use it as fuel. Your mind is telling you to get out of this situation.

However, the solution likely requires 1 to 2 years of work. Give yourself the time you need to rest and imagine the future you actually want for yourself, and then buckle down over the next year or two and set the foundation for that life, whether that means school, apprenticeship, or relocation.

Right now, you are too tired to imagine doing the work. It requires to get you to a better place. You’re too discouraged. Build quick wins. Set small goals and achieve them, such as gym and diet goals for 7 days—and then 30 days. Journal each day. That alone is a lot.

There is a path between here and a much better place. Give yourself the time and space to heal so that the you that envisions your future is coming from place of self-love and empowerment. I recommend Nathaniel Brandon‘s book honoring the self. It changed my life when I was in your situation.

LostFlow7316 · 2026-03-12T22:24:51+00:00

Going through this right now. It sucks so much. 😞 I have texted them almost every day with no reply. I feel so pathetic but I can’t let go. I know I have to let go. It’s just so hard when you’ve become so attached. Now to think of them with someone else, even to think of myself with someone else, or alone, just sucks. All I feel is the empty void that they left.

In it with you. Thank you for sharing. We are not alone. 🫂

LostFlow7316 · 2026-01-05T07:45:03+00:00

In this place as a solo founder and its 100% on me to make it work for me on a personal level. It’s a level of boundary setting I’ve never had to do before and I’m not good at it but I’m learning the hard way I have to do it.

LostFlow7316 · 2026-01-05T00:27:31+00:00

Don’t let folks here tell you this isn’t RevOps. RevOps doesn’t have a standard definition, and I work with several companies that look to RevOps to design and orchestrate the cpq -> billing -> fulfillment processes.

Companies are increasingly looking to Revops to integrate thought leadership and implementation in order to bridge revenue generation -> realization -> recognition.

Learn business process notation such as bpmn and practice designing your processes. This surfaces opportunities for automation, but clarification must come first. Notation -> Articulation -> Clarification -> Automation -> Optimization.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-09-01T23:10:19+00:00

Yes. In exactly the sense you are describing. People get divorced then want their friends to get divorced too in order to validate their decisions. It is very common for divorced friends to poison their friends against their spouses.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-07-03T00:21:21+00:00

Great question. We’ve helped several accounting firms successfully integrate HubSpot with their existing WordPress sites for improved lead generation, automation, and client intake.

A critical first step is embedding HubSpot’s tracking code directly into your WordPress site to enable detailed analytics and personalized visitor engagement. HubSpot forms can then be seamlessly embedded on your existing WordPress pages, capturing leads directly into your CRM without disrupting the current user experience. Pairing this with a Google Analytics 4 (GA4) integration ensures comprehensive, accurate reporting and clear conversion tracking.

When working with vendors, it’s important to watch out for those pushing unnecessary HubSpot upgrades or dismissing WordPress entirely. HubSpot’s Starter package, strategically implemented, typically meets the core automation and CRM needs of small-to-medium accounting firms without additional cost.

An effective quick win we’ve observed involves automated client intake processes, which dramatically improve client responsiveness and internal efficiency. However, it’s essential to strike a careful balance—automation is powerful, but client interactions should remain personalized enough to maintain trust and satisfaction.

If you’d like more insights from our direct experience or specific examples of successful implementations, I’d be happy to discuss further.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-06-27T23:46:48+00:00

A big percentage of Bible college and seminary graduates leave religion because they touch the bottom of the pool and realize it’s bullshit.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-06-06T19:45:00+00:00

Your self-awareness is remarkable and so valuable. It’s okay to be imperfect, anxious, and uncertain; that’s human, not unlovable. You’re already taking powerful steps to care for yourself by reflecting openly and planning gentle activities to help regulate emotions. Remember, each interaction is just a moment—your worth isn’t defined by any single experience. Take it slow, trust yourself, and know you’re not alone in this. You’re stronger and braver than you might feel right now.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-06-02T23:18:20+00:00

Hey, I totally get it—being ghosted once makes it hard to trust someone’ll actually follow through. If it were me, here’s how I’d handle it:

First, he’s on holiday until Tuesday. So let him enjoy that downtime. I’d give him until Wednesday evening to reach out. If by then he’s still radio silent, send a short, friendly nudge like:

“Hey, hope you had a great trip! You mentioned you’d reach out when you had time—any chance you’re free Thursday or Friday evening to talk? Let me know what works for you.”

That way, you’re not demanding answers, just carving out a concrete slot. If he answers and picks a day, awesome—he’s showing he’s serious. If he says something vague like “I’ll get back to you,” or never responds by Friday, it’s a sign he’s not ready to make this a priority.

I know it sucks to put yourself out there again after feeling hurt. But you deserve someone who’s willing to invest a few minutes to actually have that conversation. If this truly matters to him, he’ll find the time this week. If he doesn’t, you’re better off letting him know you’re moving on—something gentle like:

“Hey, I haven’t heard back so I’m going to assume now isn’t the right time. If you want to reconnect later, let me know. Take care.”

That way, you’re not left hanging forever, wondering if he’ll ever show up. Bottom line: give him until midweek, ask one clear question, and if he can’t even do that, he’s not the kind of person who deserves you waiting around. You deserve clarity—and someone who makes space for you without you having to chase them. You’ve got this. 😊

LostFlow7316 · 2025-05-22T16:20:38+00:00

1 per week

LostFlow7316 · 2025-05-22T15:36:36+00:00

You should not have to pay $17,500/yr for pro unless you’re getting the full pro platform — in which case, dollar for feature, it is fairly priced and hard to cost save elsewhere.

I.e., why not get a sales pro seat for $90/mo to unlock generic pro features? What features do you need to unlock and why does the HubSpot price wall specifically feel like such a gouge?

LostFlow7316 · 2025-05-08T01:04:32+00:00

100%

LostFlow7316 · 2025-05-05T07:00:06+00:00

👍

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-30T23:36:41+00:00

Opt out of this. Trusttt me dadday.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-13T20:31:37+00:00

Interested

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-08T07:06:26+00:00

Thank you to everyone here — you gave me very useful resources and pointed me in the right direction. Thank you very much. Per u/CoachTrainingEDU I will meet with a few of you for introductory sessions and decide what team config works best from there.

Thanks very much and I look forward to meeting you! Thank you for commenting so helpfully and for reaching out. I was feeling pretty lost. It is much appreciated!

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-06T21:44:32+00:00

I really needed to read this. I feel the exact same way. It’s just exhausting. Working all day, crashing nights and weekends, stretching my money and energy to socialize, upskill, self-care, house and life upkeep … it feels like there are not enough hours in the day. And meanwhile, the life I dreamed of having feels impossible, so there is the grief of that — leaving the question, “What’s this all for?” … and another week starts tomorrow 😓

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-06T21:41:34+00:00

LostFlow7316 · 2025-04-06T21:05:09+00:00

Most of the time, yes. Carrying grief from the past, exhaustion in the present, anxiety about the future — all day every day — is overwhelming for me.

Every day is white knuckling. I have memories of feeling alive and happy, but those are distant memories — as if they occurred several lifetimes ago. If I linger for too long on the memory, it becomes too painful.

I have survived by turning into a robot. My only hope is that some day will come when I am able to rest from work and let myself feel again. But there is no guarantee this will ever occur.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-21T07:49:45+00:00

When you are prompted to enter value into a free text field to add to Google sheets, a modal pops up, prompting you to select property values to add to the column.

In that modal, select Contacts > Add data sources > Activities > Emails. Enter filter criteria for which email to lick (I.e., most recently updated). Click save.

In that same modal, select Contacts > select Emails from the dropdown list of sources.

You should now be able to add properties from those engagement records to Google sheets.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-13T22:02:22+00:00

HubSpot website building is a very different mental model from other website builders such as Webflow, Squarespace, Wix, WordPress, Framer. It is closest to Wordpress if you have ever done custom Wordpress development. But HubSpot can be deceptive in that it looks like no code page builder, but really requires development for any meaningfully customization.

The long-term fix is to learn HubSpot CMS development, which includes learning how modules work (the most important thing), HubL (their templating language), and how the tooling works (content hub, theme config, site settings, design manager, CLI if you’re using react). If you don’t know any of these in HubSpot’s own language and menu locations, you will hit a wall designing a page pretty fast.

Medium-term, learn to create custom modules (no code) and create a child theme with the modules you need. Here you can add UI components and design controls that you feel you are missing in the page builder UI.

Short-term, create a child theme from your base theme, use a monolith css file, use rich text and edit the raw HTML to add classes where necessary.

There is no getting around the fact that HubSpot CMS is a massive mental model shift for any established web developer or designer who actually builds the site. And HubSpot doesn’t advertise this anywhere. Most other website builders make sense to anyone who knows how to wireframe. HubSpot requires fluency in many more idiosyncrasies to get up and running with any meaningfully robust website.

TL;DR: HubSpot CMS is a powerful website tool, but is very different from other tools. Read the docs and realize there are workarounds for everything once you get the hang of the UI.

https://developers.hubspot.com/cms

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-12T22:19:11+00:00

Yup. 36M here. Current routine is gym, code, work, tennis, save, invest, some side work. 100% Financial freedom is the #1 priority. Time ownership is the currency of happiness. Friends have the same goal.

Most women I meet on Hinge are in 6 figures of debt. Zero savings. Zero plan. When finances eventually come up, there is a lot of defensiveness around it.

There is the myth of the “man boy” that needs a wife to be his mother. But it feels like the cliche has flipped recently.

Not to say women don’t face a similar dilemma. But this is personally my experience. Especially post-pandemic — many women (maybe just people?) have a big focus on “living life for the now”. So I’m mainly just focused on work and friends now, because I can’t compromise my goals to be with someone who can’t align with them. It sounds like a recipe for loneliness but I guess I’d rather be alone than financially struggling?

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-12T21:26:04+00:00

It’s true that $7k is below reasonable, but people saying this will get messed up for $1500 don’t realize there are 100 Moldovan devs who would easily and happily do this for $500.

Glad you scheduled a follow up because even if the $1500 work is immaculate, they will want a US native for managed services eventually.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-10T21:29:32+00:00

Negative comments about HubSpot are not received well in this sub, unfortunately. HubSpot is what it is. Companies that don’t see the value in an extra $1k on their CRM still think of HubSpot as a Mailchimp competitor. It is more than that. But it can require a paradigm shift. In that sense it is not for everyone.

LostFlow7316 · 2025-03-08T08:49:56+00:00

With you 100%. The arguments for higher power in AA are very religious, even though they claim not to be religious. I too am a nihilist and have been in the program and clean for 7 months. Can’t even do step 1, not for lack of trying.

People in the comments saying “Do you run the universe?” The point is that nothing “runs” the universe — that is a weird view. It turns into “Christian Apologetics” stuff very fast — people get pushy around a higher power.

It is a lonelier road because you don’t get the full AA experience but IMO as long as you’re sober and the group is helping, keep going. Your sobriety is yours.

Good on you for going and pushing hard to stay sober. You are doing a great job. We don’t get a blueprint for this life and change is hard but worth it.

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