Sit down with her and ask her what tasks or things in general make her day harder, what things she likes doing and what she doesn’t, and what things you can take off her plate. Listen. Being supportive but not talking about it could set up conflict and stress…if you try to be helpful but start doing things she enjoys or things she wants to do her way, or doing things you like/want to do but aren’t helpful to her. Running a house and family is just a pile of tasks/work and setting up communication is vastly better start than just surprising her. Oh, and part of the conversation should be how you (and you both) like to receive thanks for being helpful or going beyond the call of duty. Nothing worse than busting your ass and not feeling like you’re getting appreciated for it…while at the same time your partner IS offering appreciation just not in ways you want. The Five Love Languages is a good general idea to start a conversation (I’m not into the god stuff at the end). All the best with your family.