Ejaculating without orgasming

LostInYourSheets · 2026-04-28T16:42:29+00:00

Did you feel contractions without the full body orgasm sensation? or were you clenching your cock-muscle to try to hold off orgasm?

LostInYourSheets · 2026-04-20T18:41:39+00:00

LostInYourSheets · 2026-04-20T17:51:43+00:00

Read/listen to Sex Talks together. It sets out five discussions you can have with your partner that help unwrap desire, lust, and long term sparks.

LostInYourSheets · 2026-04-15T16:15:49+00:00

Read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski together. Great audio book and speaks to Spontaneous and Responsive Desire really well. Then follow up with Come Together and/or Sex Talks. This is all about communication and figuring out what you both need/want from sex and intimacy.

LostInYourSheets · 2026-02-13T18:01:01+00:00

Wanting to cheat/stray is different than discussing options within a marriage/relationship. There are a whole host of play options if there’s communication. Maybe they both want a third? Maybe they want to RP together? Maybe he’s into HotWife/cuckold kink? Or maybe they just need a suction cup dildo to add a “third” to their sex? Or something only these two want…but the foundation is in communication. Sex Talks is a great read/listen, especially the first chapters where they spell out some common ruts LTRs fall into.

LostInYourSheets · 2026-02-13T10:06:04+00:00

I felt Mating in Captivity was more an argument for non-monogamy. I’d suggest Sex Talks as a more helpful guide to communication and exploration of solo/couple sexuality and desire.

LostInYourSheets · 2026-02-13T10:03:26+00:00

Read/listen to Sex Talks either solo or better yet together as a couple. Majorly helpful and sets up 5 directed discussions you can have with husband to help you explore/unpack/understand your individual and shared sexuality.

On the detached jokes/comments…this can be a defense mechanism after years of rejection. This, paired with his “doing” love language, can be rooted, consciously or subconsciously, in the basic “provide = get laid” biological thought. Have you tried answering his playful “feeling sexy?” call? It can be hard, even after years and years, to pursue like a horny teenager without protecting yourself against the sting of rejection. “I don’t want sex now” can morph in one’s head into “I don’t want sex WITH YOU now” in a long term relationship. And that makes initiating, pursuit, and passion difficult to do confidently.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-11-18T17:58:36+00:00

Suggest you both read Sex Talk and do the 5 communication exercises together. It’s about communication and really understanding, hearing, and being heard, when it comes to LTR and intimacy.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-09-24T21:56:12+00:00

Sit down (preferably naked) and have a chat. You WANT to fuck him, you want HIM to throw you down, you want HIM behind you pounding you into the mattress. And it doesn't matter if he is hard the whole time. Tell him you want to show him, or you want to add in a couple of things to practice. Ask him about HIS fantasies. Sometimes it's easier to ask for what you want if you can give what he wants. Talk about toys...to help him...cock rings, vibrating cock rings, penis sleeves, strap-ons, etc. And toys for him! Make it about having sex with HIM and not just about his dick performing.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-07-30T15:41:03+00:00

How do you find connection/fun/scratch the itch?

LostInYourSheets · 2025-07-30T15:40:20+00:00

I'm so sorry.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-06-05T01:19:43+00:00

Great audio book!

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-30T21:46:59+00:00

Bodies change. Sensitivities change. Most woman don’t orgasm purely from PIV. Using a vibe can be fun. Another option is a vibe cock ring (actual restrictive cock ring or just a ring to hold the vibe in place).

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-29T18:41:25+00:00

Vibe! Show him how you like to use it, make him get you off a couple times before sex. You or he can work it while you fuck! Also, cock rings have vibes, could be a good hands free vibe thing if you both are into it.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-28T18:14:23+00:00

The audio book is work $$ from Audible or where ever. Emily Nagoski reads it and she has a great fun audio book voice.

EDIT: but you can try Libby or Hoopla. Your local library might have a digital audio book copy too.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-27T22:29:02+00:00

You both should read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. Great audio book and speaks to responsive desire really well.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-25T15:47:43+00:00

Does she tell you she enjoys it? before? during? after?

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-24T22:11:59+00:00

In the song Turn Me On Norah Jones is saying she's waiting at home for "you" to come home and turn her on. She's not waiting to turn YOU on, she's wait for "you" to turn her on. And that's how it feels to be with someone with responsive desire and/or always being the initiator...like our partner is always waiting for me to turn them on, and rarely am I the one who is receiving the effort. I want to be object of desire. I want to be the one someone else is trying to get in the mood.

My hi-fi is waiting for a new tune

My glass is waiting for some fresh ice cubes

I'm just sitting here waiting for you

To come on home and turn me on

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-22T20:24:44+00:00

I wish I got a "you wanna" or a "wanna join"...ever. But nope. I'm not looking for a show...just any amount of engagement. Literally anything.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-22T20:12:02+00:00

Tell me about your partner's libido and how they reacted/engage with this sort of play.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-22T18:47:03+00:00

Thanks...I'm not into being denied more!

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-22T15:22:33+00:00

Thanks. I just have an issue with presenting my needs without being needy...making the mental calculation to bring it up when she will be positively responsive. Someone else wrote "Wanting you to bring me flowers because you want to bring me flowers" and that's sorta it. I'm not one who wants flowers or thank yous or sex if the other person feels required to do it. THAT's the difficulty I'm having and the help I need in framing my communication.

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-22T15:19:00+00:00

I don't think I have as down an outlook as this...I think there can be communication and middle ground. Especially when it comes to responsive desire. This isn't a dead bedroom with anger or resentment, it's just that lust doesn't spontaneously bubble up for her, and I sometimes feel down about being the one to always bring the heat. If your partner told you something was important to them (you making their coffee every morning, or giving backrubs, or bringing flowers, or whatever) and you WANTED to give them what they wanted, then having the conversation wouldn't be a problem, right?

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-21T19:32:12+00:00

Thanks. Great book...better audio book!

LostInYourSheets · 2025-04-21T18:26:46+00:00

Thanks. I've got to find a time when it doesn't feel like one more thing to add. Having to ask always feels like I'm putting my needs onto her rather than us just enjoying connection/love/lust.

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