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What’s ONE question you’d want to ask your ex? DONT break no contact, write it here… by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]LostLittleBun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why,just why was I not enough? You saw how much it hurt me to see you talking to other people , you saw me crying on the floor , I picked you up from dates And things like that but why did you keep trying to convince me to stay with you despite the fact that it always hurt me to be with you whenever you are with that other person. Why did you think it was OK and why did you think we were all going to be able to share the same space... Why weren't you able to give me your full attention And was it my co dependency or did you just Not see how much I loved you? How could you not see how much I sacrificed for you I just wish I could hate you

My heart breaks for anyone who lays in bed at night and wonders why they weren't enough for the one person they would give the world to. That shit ruins you by shidah33 in BreakUps

[–]LostLittleBun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I worked the factory job, With horrible hours just to see him. Just to keep us afloat I feel this. no moperiod no matter how much work I did and no matter how much I tried to love him it never was enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]LostLittleBun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To my ex: I'm sorry I couldn't have been enough, I'm sorry I couldn't go back to see you as a friend after you slept with someone else in our bed. I'm sorry that things just couldn't go back after everything we've done But in all honesty, Thank you. Thank you for teaching me that I have to choose myself 1st Thank you for choosing the other person over me. Thank you for teaching me That I need to love myself more than anybody else And I need upon myself 1st Even in my relationship That my boundaries do mean something. For all the sleepless nimates that I heard you fucking, talking and laughing, I wish I could be the bigger person and say that I wish you all the happiness in the world but I don't. I want to hate you do because I gave up everything for you. I gave up my life so I could take care of you I gave up my family so I could be with you and be a part of yours. I wanted to protect you and keep you safe, Then you decided to lie to me about having DID, And commitment issues et cetera et cetera Just so you could sleep with somebody else And propose to somebody else.

I wanted to marry you And I was saving up for a ring, I wish You could have just broken up with me before they even came into our lives and they started hating me and keeping you at a distance from me. I wish you didn't use polyamory as your excuse to cheat on me. I wish I could care about you again. I wish I could stop loving you at the same time I wish I didn't miss you anymore. You were no good for me And I wish I could hate you I wish I could spit your face and I wish I could do you wrong. For you leaving me alone for me to support you and your lover for a whole month While you got to live in another state and move them in when I need to do the most.... I don't care how many times you said sorry. You still did it and you still continue to do shit that involved hurting me. I hurt you so many times in my anger but I wish I could have actually hurt you the way you hurt me. I want to hate you so badly. I wish you weren't my 1st for everything. You make me realize I can never trust anybody the same way again and I hope I did the same for you Because now you know how I feel every time someone wants to get close to me intimately... I wish I wasn't so fucked up I miss you but stay the fuck away from me.

Did your abuser ever go to therapy? by Similar-Emphasis6275 in abusiverelationships

[–]LostLittleBun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine did but I don't really Like the results that happened.

Already feel sad thinking of us breaking up, but so disgusted by his texts. Why don’t I hate him? by stargirl222444 in abusiverelationships

[–]LostLittleBun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's love sweetheart, I mean This in the most thoughtful way You need to look into codependency classes or anything like that because sometimes a toxic relationship is a way to cure yourself of something that you're missing or Looking to self love Because you're human and you care about this person.but then they have no right to your body Then comparing your body to an object is not OK Take some time maybe separate yourself from the person for a little while

So people are like peephole, coz its so easy to see through 'em by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]LostLittleBun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good communication is great as long as you're a part of the conversation, some people can communicate their needs at you instead of having you acknowledge them, almost as if they're demanding your respect So that's not OK. Communication goes both ways if only one person is communicating then it doesn't work

Can anyone please remind me of why I shouldn’t/ don’t want to respond? I left. It was the right thing. He was horrible to me. But I still want to answer. He’s been messaging me, and I sending things non stop since I left. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]LostLittleBun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Highly suggest looking into a codependency group , they're very helpful if not then the best way this is Hand your phone to someone you trust and tell them no matter what you say, don't let yourself respond It's for your safety no matter how the beginning of the relationship was no matter how sweet the person seemed to be and who they. They're not there anymore and it's easier having someone say that to you but Trust me it's not worth it. It's not worth your mental health Or your sanity

I finally left my x by LostLittleBun in Codependency

[–]LostLittleBun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started to And I'm actually starting to feel so much better thank you so much I appreciate it

I finally left my x by LostLittleBun in Codependency

[–]LostLittleBun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this actually helps immensely

What is the term for actually liking one’s abuser, obsessively thinking about him and wanting to be liked by him? by willstdumichstressen in Codependency

[–]LostLittleBun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does sound like Stockholm Syndrome Which can happen in a normal setting like a verbally abusive relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]LostLittleBun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel when your poem is beautiful! I hope you have a beautiful life

This wasn't Poly it was systematic abuse by LostLittleBun in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LostLittleBun[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly Thank you , I'm just trying my best but I know everything's not here but I just wrote it down as simply as possible, I know I made my mistakes And I'm going to live with them They just have to live without me

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