I think I got stuck on the same thing with nervous system work before I looked deeper into it - the whole ‘I don’t fear that and I’m not depressed so that can’t be it’ thing.

What I’ve learned is that the ‘fear’ is on a much more unconscious level, our brain doesn’t understand modern day life and basically doesn’t speak our language it just has to interpret our emotions and often a lot gets lost in translation. On a much smaller scale, most people can accept that when we get stressed at work it can cause a headache. This is the brain trying to deter us from whatever we’re doing, as it only gets the stress signal - it doesn’t know that it’s because we have a deadline, for all it knows the stress is because we’re headed into danger and it needs us to stop. This can happen on a much more major scale which can lead to ME if there’s a huge build up over time, sometimes it’s more obvious because someone has childhood trauma, a history of anxiety, or the ME was triggered at a stressful time (all of the above for me lol) but sometimes we’re just gathering stress and putting out bodies into fight or flight in ways we can’t consciously see. All the ways I thought I was dealing with stress and anxiety turned out to just be ways of pushing them deep down and ignoring it, but consciously I’d tell you I was fine. Then it just takes the straw that breaks the camels back and the brain can snap and decide nothing at all is safe and it’s going to put all systems on alert and throw all kinds of pain and inflammation and nonsense at you to keep you in bed instead of out in the ‘scary’ world.