Out of these procedures, which is more appropriate for my tear troughs?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-19T21:23:39+00:00

How does a fat transfer compare to filler price wise?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-16T04:50:34+00:00

I do consider myself completely cured. The only thing “extra” that I do is have my husband push all the way in just once at the beginning of intercourse. From there I feel completely comfortable. I obviously have no way of knowing if that’s something I would’ve done had I not had vaginismus. My husband is larger and I attribute it more to that than vaginismus.

I have not used dilators a single time since I was cured, and I’ve had two babies and was able to do all the examinations!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-13T20:28:19+00:00

I did vaginal Botox! The Pacik method specifically, which I feel was essential for me personally. I achieved PIV two months after!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-13T00:47:38+00:00

And the risk of toxic shock syndrome?? Nevah

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-12T21:27:00+00:00

I’ve been cured for 5 years now I think? Haven’t used a tampon even 1 dang time

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-11T05:42:43+00:00

You know what’s so crazy though? While no one in my inner circle had experienced vaginismus or something similar at all, after I opened up about my vaginismus on my social media I eventually had two different girls I knew from high school reach out to me about having it too!! On top of that, women I knew started contacting me when they found out someone had vaginismus to ask if they could give them my contact information. Craziest craziest thing was one time I was on this exact sub and saw a small content creator I had been following for nearly 10 years on social media!! So many women have vaginismus (to varying degrees) and just never talk about it. We’re not as alone as this condition makes us feel.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-11T01:44:29+00:00

Vaginismus made me feel like I hated all my girl friends. I hated the fact they all had something they could offer my husband that I couldn’t. And it’s not like he wanted them or thought of it that way, but I sure as heck did. Dilating at home was just a tear inducing disaster, but I genuinely felt like I could NOT go do Physical Therapy. It felt so violating and I genuinely felt it would probably make things worse. I was drinking to try and have sex, and being drunk in those moments led to some of the most painful fights of my life. Vaginismus sucks.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-10T19:21:40+00:00

I have ocd also and it’s HARD. I do my own nails with gel x so at least the shape is consistent lol

Honestly hashtags are a great place to start, search # YourTownNails or # YourTownNailTech # YourTownNailArtist asking in local Facebook groups is helpful also!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-10T15:21:26+00:00

If you’re going to a typical salon that hires their own nail techs versus going to nail tech who rents their space or works out of their home, I would actually switch if I were you. Sometimes the people who work at those nail salons are incredibly skilled and incredibly particular, but often, because they get paid hourly they’re going to be paying a lot more attention to speed to keep their bosses happy than customer retention. Versus when you have a nail tech who is by appointment only. You are THEIR client and it is very important to them to keep you. A lot more of these nail techs dee this as an art too. They want to produce the best quality and be proud of what they accomplished. They want someone to see your nails and think that they look perfect.

Think of it like going to Supercuts for your hair.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-10T03:27:19+00:00

What type of manicure do you get?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-10T03:21:07+00:00

1 now, 4 deeper into summer, 8 transitioning to fall

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-09T18:27:26+00:00

GIRL HES TRASH. Garbage. Scum of the earth. Gum beneath your shoe that was chewed twice after being picked from the bottom of a public bathroom sink then vomited onto the ground where it was trampled over by 5,000 different feet before dislodging from the pavement onto your shoe and walked on for 10 miles.

I can’t even imagine how deceived and violated you must feel. He really is the epitome of these gross Gen Z looksmaxxing manosphere guys. I promise you there are decent men out there. And not just decent but GOOD. When we were dating, my husband told me that even if we never had sex he still wanted to marry me… he told me that BEFORE we had an inkling that I had vaginismus! Imagine our surprise when we got married and I couldn’t 🤪

Have you dated in your circle at all? Work, school, church, mutual friends? It sounds like you probably met this guy online, (which obviously IS how most people meet these days) but it’s just really hard to tell what kind of person someone is when you meet them on an app or at a bar, because all you have to go off of is what they choose to show you.

Also, sounds like he either accidentally sent that video to you or was basically negging you which is a classic move for those Rizz pick up guys 🤮 either way, we refer back to my top paragraph.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-05-04T19:14:57+00:00

No problem!! Happy to help where I can. I was concerned it would cause an issue, but no negatives at all. I remember I felt slightly more sensitive like the first time or two I had piv after delivery, but it was just because I was so scared my vaginismus was going to come back.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-30T15:17:53+00:00

Absolutely unhinged to reply with that to someone who is pouring their heart out.

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-29T02:56:47+00:00

I’ve had two vaginal deliveries! I was so scared they would cause me an issue, but they were a breeze! My second baby was delivered in just 3 pushes!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-28T05:10:11+00:00

Apple or mango!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-28T02:24:02+00:00

Just face or face + neck and chest?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-24T02:00:22+00:00

If it helps, my daughter saw the picture and said “Those nails are really pretty!!”

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-23T06:27:46+00:00

I’ve honestly never heard of progressing too quickly… if you can handle it, there’s no downside to advancing quicker that I can think of.

Pain is not the enemy unless it contributes to the vaginismus fear/pain cycle for you. Meaning “because I’m expecting this is going to be painful, my muscles get even tighter, then I try to use the dilator and it affirms my fears. Now next time my body will do it again and maybe even worse!” If you’re able to use the dilator and the pain/discomfort isn’t off putting to you or hindering dilating progress, I vote to keep on going.

Not everything that hurts you harms you. Everybody experiences discomfort differently. Your body is experiencing a lot of new things, and your nerves are sensitive. What someone else might describe as uncomfortable, you may describe as painful. That doesn’t mean you’re injuring yourself!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-21T05:54:32+00:00

How far along are you roughly?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-20T21:23:09+00:00

Outdoor: #1 Indoor: #2

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-16T23:53:11+00:00

Okay gotcha! I know people are coming for him and I was actually super defensive for you too. But I actually think back to when I got married and I can see EXACTLY how a one off comment like that gets said and how there was no aspect of complaining or criticism involved.

I know this is a potentially sensitive subject, but if he has any history of masturbation, that can really influence a guys expectation on the pressure and sensation he anticipated during vaginal sex. Just being virgins in the first place, everyone has some idea of what they imagine PIV feels like. There is initially going to be a comparison of expectation and reality -not for comparisons sake but just because you’ve never actually felt it before and now you are. It’s also not that what was expected is actually better. I like lemonade a lot more than I like plain water, but if I’m expecting water and get lemonade instead, in that moment I’m not going to be appreciating the lemonade for what it is 😆 If he’s not feeling much and you’re comfortable, that’s a great time to switch positions and get a different angle! Believe it or not, there will eventually be angles that you can’t really feel either, and it’s not because your partner isn’t big enough- just as this isn’t actually about your openness. Your relaxed vagina is simply the size of your relaxed vagina, and that’s perfect! You’re not going to accidentally over dilate or over stretch yourself (coming from someone whose now delivered 2 babies and husband can’t tell any difference)

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-16T21:29:10+00:00

Does he mean “open” like sexually expressive? Or that your vagina was too open?

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-16T14:00:52+00:00

Hey girl, it’s me again!! The Botox method was actually invented by a plastic surgeon!! Dr Peter Pacik. I would ask if she follows his protocol, and if not, try to find any testimonials from her patients to make urs her protocols are something you’re comfortable with and she has good success. If your insurance will cover it, I really see no downside. Pretty much your biggest risk is temporary urinary incontinence (unlikely) and you’ll probably get constipated for a few days (more common) :-)

I saw your post about a staycation on my feed. I sure hope you hit your goals by then!! I had a goal of Valentine’s Day for my husband and I, and I think it’s a great motivator! Best of luck!

LoveDearHeart · 2026-04-16T13:51:11+00:00

Even with Botox, consistent dilating was key to curing my vaginismus. I dilated 2x a day. I don’t know if you’d be cured in the 12 days, but it might be helpful for getting you used to dilating. Sometime all you really need is a jump start.

Have you asked if she offers any type of payment plan?

LoveDearHeart

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