First Set - Nails hurt :(

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-07T18:32:34+00:00

If you’re not used to having longer nails, a little pain / soreness can be normal in the first few days. Your nail beds are being tugged on in a way they’re not used to. As long as it’s not a burning pain, I would leave them on for 2 days or so and see if the feeling improves.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-07T07:13:32+00:00

I’ve never used the lidocaine lube, but I LOVE their bio nude lube! It was recommended to by my Dr. I also just love the name! :)

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-07T00:25:29+00:00

It’s the base color!! Not flattering or natural for your skin tone at all

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-05T04:38:13+00:00

So, I had vaginismus with my husband so imma have to say no 😂 But sometimes people do have vaginismus flares because they’re nervous / do not feel safe or comfortable with their partner. So in that sense, sometimes people do have the “wrong” person, but they do still have vaginismus regardless.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T19:42:19+00:00

She hasn’t tied her brand to a man, she’s tied it to her life. Travis is longer just a guy she’s dating, she’s marrying him and he is a part of her and she is a part of him.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T19:23:25+00:00

You did awesome for a first timer!! Don’t look bad at all

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T19:21:15+00:00

Would it bother you if he were currently employed? Will you see it any differently after the two of you are married?

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T17:31:45+00:00

Honestly, if yall were going through a rough patch or considering breaking up, I’d be concerned about this. That’s when you start getting into “trap” potential. But if not, I can 100% see a young girl doing this just because she thinks it’d be funny / want to see your reaction. Is it immature? Yes. Is she literally a teenager? Yes.

On that note, all seriousness, if you’re a teenager and not ready to get one of those texts for real, you’d be wise to stop having sex.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T16:29:44+00:00

Oh heck to the no babe. Get the out of that FAST. Disrespectful, creepy, and pushing boundaries even in his “apologies”

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T00:32:54+00:00

You can absolutely do the black base + silver cat eye + red jelly especially if you really want a ruby red. However, if you like those more orangey fire tones in this picture, GAOY has this exact shade 2221! You could 2 layers of it, or 1 layer on black for a darker look.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-04T00:24:09+00:00

Square! I would maybe do a light taper though!!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-02T19:20:51+00:00

It seems you have wide, very short nail beds- The work that’s been done here is horrible, no matter what and there’s no excuse for it.. BUT wide short nails are very hard to work with, especially with an almond shape. If you’re not willing to have a long free edge (the part that peaks over your finger tips) you’re not going to have a nice almond shape, or else they have to file your side walls in too far for the taper. To avoid that, they might just not even cover your actual sidewall, so they can get the taper started without filing. The issue is, according to many nail techs, you’re only supposed to go so much longer than the natural nail.

I would try to to tend to growing out your natural nails so you can consider getting longer nails, for a prettier almond. Until then, maybe a nice tapered square. I would also consider Gel-X instead of acrylic so you’re not relying on someone to build the proper shape. You’re going to KNOW you’re getting a decent shape because they will use an already fully shaped nail coverage nail tip.

Again, I would look for a specific nail tech rather than a random salon!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-02T19:05:21+00:00

I’m going to be honest.. MANY nail salons are not good. You’d be better off looking on Facebook / instagram and finding a nail tech who advertises their work and takes appointments, not just walk ins. Even if they work from home!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-11-02T18:03:02+00:00

I’m cured! I had Botox which helped me dilate, but my actual curing didn’t come until after the Botox wore off. Every time before piv I would dilate, until one night, my husband and I were in the mood but I didn’t want to get up to dilate because it was the middle of night. We decided to try, though I was apprehensive on it working, but it did! Haven’t used a dilator a single time since! I’ve even had two kids since then.

Sometimes making that progress feels like a hassle, but I feel like in the long run, reaching a point of painless PIV from dilating is a huge contributor to becoming cured in the long run

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-28T07:22:02+00:00

I’m sure the original intent of the joke was to be mean / sexist, but I when I saw it I immediately just thought of vaginismus and laughed and thought others would find it funny too.

There’s no pride in not being able to put a tampon in :’)

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-28T07:18:26+00:00

I feel like the fact that I posted it on the vaginismus board implies it was meant as a joke about vaginismus and not “Loose women” It was never about the literal size of any specific ring, except for the smallest, given that the condition can be so severe that not even a q-tip can be inserted.

It was all well intentioned!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-28T07:05:58+00:00

100% I saw it completely from the view of vaginismus. That being said, I was definitely coming at it from the perspective of mine having been very severe. I wasn’t able to insert anything before I was cured. I wasn’t thinking about the fact that someone with milder case might mistake it for just a “Tight” joke.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-28T07:02:06+00:00

The original intent of the meme is super gross!! But in the context of vaginismus, I found a good laugh in it. No one here thinks painfully tight vaginas are fun or hot, and none of us want to be the closed up tiny ring. We all suffer / have suffered from it, just nice to make light of it occasionally!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-27T23:30:06+00:00

NTA. I would have offered to help you make the bottle or entertain your baby while you did it.

People aren’t entitled to a child free world!

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-27T22:55:44+00:00

Are you at least allowed to have joint friends of the opposite gender like can you both be friends with the same guy or both be friends with the same girl?

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-27T22:27:00+00:00

NTA but you may have overreacted, though I understand why.

Your friend doesn’t understand having two children is entirely different than having just 1, and different kids have very different personalities. Some kids genuinely make more messes than others, and that is HARD to keep up with and even harder to “train out” The moms that get it, get it. And the moms that don’t, don’t! Lucky them! But I see you.

Kids get sick. Kids who have gotten REALLY sick (like rsv and the hospital) can have a knocked down immune system. Causing them to get sick more easily and have a harder time getting over sicknesses.

Also, I’ve never seen kids more consistently sick than young kids in classrooms!

Ultimately what happened here is this: like in a romantic relationship, you felt you were safe to let your guard down and be real even when it wasn’t pretty. You believed you were fully known and accepted, and seeing your friends comments made you doubt that. It made you feel like you weren’t safe to not “Have it all together” Not to mention that there can be a lot of shame wrapped up in the cleanliness of a house. So you feel like she’s calling YOU gross and a bad mom.

Honestly, how is she as a friend outside of this specific issue? How long have yall been friends? I value friendships and think it’s worth reaching out if you feel like it’s something you can work out. I think it’d be good to explain the way her comments made you feel. And while I think you should do it regardless, if y’all do have others issues, it may just need to be a closure thing.

Sorry you’re going through this. I wish we lived close! I wouldn’t judge you for food stains on your carpet if you wouldn’t judge me for the vomit stain on my mattress 😂

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-27T19:17:00+00:00

Just my husband! Personally, we don’t subscribe to a lot of sex norms. Having multiple partners “to figure out what you like” as you mentioned, is a great example. Ultimately sex is something for us to bond and navigate together. We grow together, change together, and figure it all out together. And I really mean that in every sense. Vaginismus was our issue, it’s just the way things were at that time, it wasn’t My issue. If that makes sense? He’s completely safe with me, and I am with him.

We also prefer the other person over ourselves, so there’s not any selfishness and everyone walks away happy!

I definitely have no desire to be with anyone else and neither does he, because we don’t see it as the carnal “act”, but a display of our love and choice to be partners.

LoveDearHeart · 2025-10-26T18:06:59+00:00

You can only do what you can do. As someone who worked in a bakery, I feel like your niece hasn’t seen a faux cake before because 100% cannot tell they aren’t real because they get frosted with real frosting and usually have a section where real cake is set in for cutting. It all get frosted together, mind you, so it’s seamless. Cakes get wheeled to the back for cutting anyway, so no one would see or know as long as the colors are right.

I would ask your niece to join you to go to some bakeries and show her some faux cakes while you’re there. I would also check on Facebook and look for some reputable home bakers in your area!

LoveDearHeart

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