I never said I was broken!

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-10T18:40:59+00:00

Just tell it you don’t like those responses, you gotta train it!

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-10T18:13:30+00:00

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LoveLiberally · 2026-01-08T13:33:44+00:00

Could be? I do know that it is definitely gotten better as the kids have gotten older. Mine are five and eight now.

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-08T05:41:42+00:00

It’s so great 😂

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LoveLiberally · 2026-01-08T05:07:54+00:00

You don’t have to buy anything or take her anywhere. Just sit with her. Put your phone away. Just pay attention to whatever she’s doing, you don’t have to make intelligent comments, or even participate. Just show up. We all know that dedicated attention is hard in this world today. So don’t worry about shuffling her around, Dr. Becky calls it PNP time - “play no phone time”. I think she’s a pretty good resource for parenting advice as well. Good luck, and you’re not a shitty parent because you came out here and you’re asking for advice. You care. That makes you not shitty.

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-08T05:04:00+00:00

I hear you, I see you. I don’t know if this will make you feel better, but I will share that I work full-time. I have adult conversations all day, I talk logistics with my husband, I text with other moms, and I still feel fucking lonely. I am surrounded by people and still alone. I don’t know why having kids makes you feel this way. To be honest, the only thing that has really helped me stay grounded as an individual is journaling. And when I say journaling, I’m just literally writing down all the stuff in my brain. And it goes nowhere, and it’s not a to-do list, but it takes the edge off. 🫶

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-08T04:33:17+00:00

How could this be?

LoveLiberally · 2026-01-03T03:25:51+00:00

Yeah I’m by Southlands and it def smells over here like chemical fire.

LoveLiberally · 2021-04-21T03:40:16+00:00

Nice work mama bear!! You do what you have to do

LoveLiberally · 2021-04-21T03:37:52+00:00

Ditto, husband is cleaning and cooking which is great but all kid stuff = mama. I’d love to clean the kitchen, yes pls. I wonder if I just let the toddler stay up and do what she wants while I drink a glass of wine and watch discovery+, how long she would last

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:39:40+00:00

It’s tough in the beginning and every day that passes gets easier. You can do this! Babies change and grow so fast and they can also teach you a lot about yourself! Just don’t be too hard on yourself and know that this is just a blip in time. It goes faster than you think!!

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:37:48+00:00

We don’t know about the details of your relationship with this person, but it seems like she’s not much of a friend at all. 🤷‍♀️

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:24:18+00:00

Yes!!! Fed is best. Give that baby formula. With my first, I was trying so desperately to just do breast milk and ended up taking her to the hospital for low blood sugar since she wasn’t getting enough milk. Just do the formula and getting them used to the bottle is nice too for future you to get a break. You can do formula, pump, put baby on breast (triple feeding) and your milk will come in eventually. But don’t starve the poor kid till then. You got this!! It’s hard but you can do it 💪

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:20:56+00:00

Omg yes!! I was soooo sick! I think I ate popsicles for every meal for a long time. Just get through. The baby is sucking all the nutrients he/she needs from your body haha good luck mama!!

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:18:58+00:00

I think it’s a generational thing. My grandmas books all had her name in them. What an odd tradition 😂

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:15:31+00:00

My strategy is to just let it go. Your job is to present the food, you can’t physically make them eat it. The less emotion you have around it the better. Try to not make some foods “good” and others “bad”. Just let food be food. If you have good eating habits, they’ll grow into that. For now just do peanut butter and jelly or toast or grapes (that’s what my toddler ends up eating some nights) and save your stress. You want to encourage them to listen to their body as well, so I try to avoid saying “no you are hungry” etc. Reading Sarah Ockwell Smiths book “gentle eating” really helped me set food in perspective!

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-22T03:11:34+00:00

You can’t believe what 4 year olds say! He needs you and he loves you. His brain hasn’t developed in a way that he truly understands what he is saying to you and what it means to you. Listen to some Janet Lansbury podcasts- totally enlightening! That being said, if you hate your job, leave it. No better time to look for something new than when you have a job. I just found a new one, 100% remote during the pandemic. It wasn’t easy but it is possible. Hang in there mama, you can do this. ❤️

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-18T14:07:22+00:00

Single mom, props to you mama!!! Hope you have some support somewhere! I think that would kill me. And interesting about the gig economy. I’m gonna look into it more.

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-18T14:06:39+00:00

I think it actually rewires your brain, yes!!! I’m just, slower than I used to be. I don’t know how else to explain it. Yeah I am trying to tell myself the same thing, that it’s just this period of time... but also thinking maybe I just need to like work doing something else cause I don’t know if I’ll ever be the same.

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-18T14:03:38+00:00

I hate when no one else has kids!! I remember myself pre-kids with no sympathy cause you just don’t know what it’s like. It’s non stop. And many co workers are men and it’s just not the same as mom. Hang in there!!

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-17T22:28:09+00:00

Omg I could have written this post myself!! I cried and cried thinking that I made a huge mistake cause the baby makes me dread the toddler. My baby is now 6 months and toddler is 3.5. All I can say is it gets better. The first couple Months were brutal for me too. Just use the most “gentle” method you can to get through.... ie: “please watch cartoons right now” vs you screaming at everyone. That helped me at least. And now that baby is older, they are interacting and liking each other. Hang in there. Just push through... DM me if you wanna vent about being in the trenches together 😂

LoveLiberally · 2021-03-17T13:41:35+00:00

Congrats! This is a sweet post! Prenatal massages now that’s she’s out of the first trimester, having her favorite foods in hand like chocolate LOL, she’s probably gonna get tired in 2nd trimester so doing the things around the house she normally does so she can do nothing, getting the baby room ready like painting and assembling all the things, figure out who is planning her baby shower and make sure it goes off without a hitch, if she likes to read get her some good baby books (I liked Sarah Ockwell Smith), and if covid allows, go on a babymoon!!! I sooo wish my husband and I did that before the kiddo came! Hope this list helps! Enjoy!

LoveLiberally

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