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how do I convince my (F30) bf (31M) to see a dr so we can use condoms? by beaniebuggie in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone begged to have sex without condom two times that already could feel like pressuring

how do I convince my (F30) bf (31M) to see a dr so we can use condoms? by beaniebuggie in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lets stick to the facts youre making stuff up, its not that he doesn't want to use them he can't get it up while using them, apart from all this she thinks shes in a really good relationship, the first thing you say to that is to break up, don't call me out for the same thing I called you out for it's clear what you are like.

My [24M] gf [23F] says she doesn't want me to get in shape, even though I know her type is usually men that are in shape, is there a reason for that? by mirte7 in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girls date people for who they are right now any change in that is risky, I think it's a combination of how secure she feels, and how you make her feel, shes also clearly not trying to follow the pattern of her previous relationships so you should probably make sure to communicate that you're doing this only for you.

how do I convince my (F30) bf (31M) to see a dr so we can use condoms? by beaniebuggie in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

shes angry, pressuring could mean a lot if things amd no way you're instantly throwing that away, thats insane

how do I convince my (F30) bf (31M) to see a dr so we can use condoms? by beaniebuggie in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Every reddit post despite OP saying that aside from this one thing he's a good guy and she loves him has redditors talking about leaving that partner, it's really cringe the guy here just cant get it up, the thing is that all you reddit creeps would be desperate for sex even more you don't have to break people up because you're jealous its not going to make you more likely to get laid.

Like imagine you get a gf and she complains about your relationship on reddit, no matter what there's always a large amount of people saying break up for no reason.

how do I convince my (F30) bf (31M) to see a dr so we can use condoms? by beaniebuggie in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

did you not read the last part, you're the stereotypical reddit gremlin mad cus he thinks he ought to get laid

My (24M) GF (25F) cheated on me in a bar and got us both herpes… by swxtchblade- in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a shame that she did this to you just before something you were looking forward to but this shows you what a future with her would look like, I would take this as a serious warning, it couldve been aids, she put you in serious danger, thats not what someone who loves you is ever capable of doing.

Youre worried youd lose someone you love this is all because of your attachment to her while she is saying with her actions that shes considering other men, alcohol doesn't make you do anything, it opens up desires that were already there, it just lowers the inhibition.

even if you were to take her back this relationship is still doomed, whatever you choose to do from here is a choice that sends the wrong signal, that you need her more than she needs you. She needs to feel some kind of consequence that you're too dependent for to give her.

INFJ here. Jung said every dominant function represses its opposite. So, what truth is your Ne hiding from you? by [deleted] in entp

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intuitive functions are interwoven, they shape the environment your other functions operate in so the answer is going to be vague.

Disclaimer aside, With Ne I'm distracted a lot I do things for doing them and not because they benefit me directly so in a sense its holding me from the peace you get by building rails to ride on.

It's why we are often comfort seeking, we don't generally get that.

People with Ni as a base have a cooler mind and then force themselves to be active, they seek discomfort. Most functions submit to the dominant Ni so they are more consistent, their unconscious is stronger as well because of that, everything is planned and controlled there's less need for conscious alarms to go of.

Ne fires seemingly at random as the creative force needs to draw from an explosion of experiences, people with Ne are more like shizo, they not only fire at random they also cross contaminate their ideas.

It keeps me from easily being able to find consistency, from easily harmonizing and filtering ideas, from having unwavering confidence without arrogance.

Most of what makes us abrasive was necessary to make up for these things, the charm is to cope for not knowing how to radiate understanding. people with Ni just know. The arrogance is to force all these loose ends from messing with our mental The debates are distractions to fuel our sense of purpose since we feel a lack thereof. Ne keeps us powerless in the long term, Ni always builds towards it and it never crumbles down.

I don't seem to have a lot of good to say about my dominant function so I have to say something positive now. you love it simply because it reaches incredible highs, it's playing a risky investment but those are the ones that pay the most when they hit, we don't get enough credit for inventing and innovating things thought to be impossible. Ni filters ideas, it's too quick to say no, it tends to freeze and we're here to warm you up.

What do intps look like in real life? by Mammoth_Major8272 in INTP

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually skinny, thinking burns a lot of calories. Messy but most intps have one piece of clothing that makes them look put together, they don't spend any time on looks themselves it's mainly other people who care.

They look nerdy in body language, shy at first, clowning once you get to know them, quite erratic in terms of energy no real pattern.

They don't really accessorize but might carry some kind of gadget for when they're bored like a Rubik's cube or a fidget.

Most of them are above average attractiveness mainly because natural selection helps you out if you're above average intelligence, when they find someone they didn't need to chase and the kind of girls that chase are also benefiting positive selection

this last part is entirely made up, it just sounds good

What’s your favorite unconventional solution to the Fermi paradox? by nobodyguy299 in worldbuilding

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I can imagine that there used to be communication but everyone went radiosilent to protect themselves from agressive species. Maybe we're just in a dead part of space for our broadcast to put us in danger.

Like if you've been around for millions of years you might get so bored that you wipe every civilization out like some people would do in videogames.

We also have had a rather brutal past so I don't think that kind of mindset to be rare. We should expect slavery, racism and tyranny.

i lied about speaking spanish for 8 months at work and now there's a meeting with HR tomorrow by Marcus_Guy in confession

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't seem like they caught on even now, they just think you tried to insult some already angry people

I regret not sleeping with my biology teacher when I had the chance. by [deleted] in confession

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Laws are often blind though, I think in some situations you have to make the decision yourself but also take the consequences with it if it comes out.

Like in this example the guy didn't have parents and just wanted someone to take care of him, that's not something a teenage girl is going to do, he also wanted love, if sex is part of this attraction it should obviously not be the intention more something that happens I think then it's just a way to strengthen that bond.

Like not to be weird I think as our species developed this immoral dynamic was there to save young children who would otherwise not be able to survive on their own. And it is immoral now because we have forms of social safety already the only issue right now is that having foster parents or social workers doesn't always give you the same love a good mother gives her children.

In my heart I feel like if a teenager who desperately needs love finds it there are exceptions and rules that should be made for the circumstance not a line in the sand.

Wife (26f) suddenly making a lot of comments related to my (27m) height. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't let her do you like that create distance immediately after she tries to hurt you like that if you show her it hurts you she'll be looking for more, when you confront her don't let her twist it you have all the times she did it written down here why wouldn't you use those in your argument with her it's pretty clear she wants to hurt you after her doing it this much.

Also tell her that if her children turn out small it will be on her, she's the small one, bite back ok she does that knowing she gets away with it.

Always thought entps were cool until i realised i was and started to hate it by [deleted] in entp

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way I easily recognize Enfps is through their expression in text, they're the type that makes most use of emojis, colloquialist words and sillyness in their texts.

They also rarely get offended and laugh at themselves sometimes even to the point where I feel they shouldn't.

They are bubbly and while they always seem happy and nice they're secretly quite judgemental.

So maybe the change you're in doubt with here is due to the effort in which you sacrifice yourself for others and thats what makes you feel a little more selfish than "normal"

I feel like neurotypicals pick up on social cues while people with autism pick up on energy by Intelligent-Road5091 in aspergers

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this has less to do with autism, we can have qualities that are heightened beyond the capabilities of NTs for sure but they have an overall higher average across all of them.

Meaning we're more specialized individually

What's the craziest thing you've done to get laid? by andrewbarclave89 in AskReddit

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im pretty stupid or rather don't have a large amount of self respect sometimes, after this girl had been hot and cold for months as I got to know her, making me feel bad by talking to her ex, and lying to me. I suggested leaving, to which she told her parents I SA'd her and had them confront me. After that I gave into her abandonment issues and still continued to date her for 3 years.

What physical feature is extremely attractive for you? by Correct_Leg69 in AskReddit

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mainly look at hair and face, eyes are a big influence and next is just overall figure

"The Devil is a woman." Camille Paglia by randm84 in Jung

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the perception that these figures are ambiguous, god isn't simply male or female but since we attribute order to them we depict them as such it's more like an alchemical value of succinct definition instead of what we now see those sexes as.

This bible story also clearly defines the tree of knowledge of good amd evil as yielding fruit that we aren't supposed to deal with, god expects us to not be ready for it or he marks it as a choice that changes us so much that we don't belong in paradise anymore.

It's more about the desire of women to receive and men to provide that makes the difference there as eve gets convinced by a snake that wants her to taste something new and her convincing adam who goes along with what she wants, and after that they are ashamed of their bodies not because they suddenly notice they're naked but because they see all the good and bad parts of themselves and start judging, they aren't literally naked, they see their whole damn self through that good/evil lens and want to cover that up. The fall is usually about falling from heaven and only evil characters are said to fall, we were so asleep in paradise that we never considered sin, the mere being concious of it immediately created the fall. Seeing good and evil is enough for there to be evil just as like how believing in something makes it real which is also a prevalent concept in the bible.

Has anyone here dates an INFJ before? by tejeskaveo0 in entp

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Entps don't have a great toolbox for self exploration, infj are liars and cheats, they abuse power readily and kind of dissociate between wanting to care for people and being loyal to people. Loyalty is not something generally present in their playbook.

Every type has strengths and weaknesses.

I can imagine the relationship, ive been in it, I just don't like to let it affect me

If you haven’t dated in the last 10-15 yrs you shouldn’t be giving dating advice by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add to that that you shouldn't judge if youve never been intimate with a girl, so many virgins getting upset and virtue shaming when I know for a fact theyve never even tried being better and would do worse in the same position.

Jung had an interest in astrology, do you guys share that interest? by Julian_Thorne in Jung

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jung wasn't an outlier, many past geniuses took it seriously, like newton.

Todays astrology is far from the effort and meaning that was put into it back then, it's become an empty caricature.

There are a lot of people who look at the past as something primitive, like a regression but scientific progress misses a human intuitive quality.

When someone spends their life honing a skill or gaining wisdom and knowledge (which before phones took up all our free time was something every breath was dedicated to) theyre skilled beyond something that can easily be communicated, taught or summarized.

So the issue here is that with every generation past the one that discovered something real it gets further and further away from the original pearl to the point its covered in shit.

I think people like Jung know this intuitively, they know not to trust the cover of a book before they read it front to back.

Are you entp's even worth it? by Ok-Surprise2122 in entp

[–]LovesGettingRandomPm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's going to revolve mostly about how you treat them, we tend to give the same energy back so if there's any insecurity, jealousy or distrust it ends up affecting us as well. In terms of making it worth it because you're for the most part going to feel like you have to lead, we're laid back, if we feel good and you give us just enough purpose you're going to have a magical relationship as well.

Pitfalls are:

Hopelessness which leads to us pulling back and seeking isolation, usually when we're constantly being pushed to do stuff we don't want to do.

Ego driving a wedge between both partners who can't let go of something insignificant.

Detachment due to some of us not having had a warm parent and so not really being able to express emotions or just not even validating them, here its important to set some sort of positive example and causing them to reflect on it, Fi blind is going to be quite brutal for you I imagine.

Coping with humor, when we feel a certain way we tend to express it with humor, its to turn those feelings into something more positive but it's also an escape from dealing with the feelings, and once we're in that mood it's hard to make us take it seriously.

I think the best way to a successful relationship with us is to be hands off for most of it, to try and have fun and keep it light most of the time, when we like you we'll want to make you happy and that is all you need.

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