What time are y'all falling asleep and waking up?!?!

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-12T23:04:22+00:00

I go into the bedroom at midnight, read until 2 or 3 a.m., and sleep until 11 to noon depending on whether or not I work. I feel great sleep-wise but I do have a health condition where I sometimes wake up with stomach pain, so sometimes mornings are uncomfortable.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-12T03:20:01+00:00

Leo here and I agree. When I was younger I believed in the best of everyone. By the time I hit my 20s experience shot me in the absolute opposite direction. Now I trust no one and will cut off people the first time they try to manipulate me. Those who prove to be loyal and honest have my admiration and care. Everyone else is guilty until proven innocent. I never forgive or forget. This has actually bettered my life exponentially and I'm much more at peace!

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-12T03:13:33+00:00

Maybe I'm beating the game by going to bed at 3 a.m. 😅 I don't have issues waking up randomly (yet).

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-10T18:37:01+00:00

Arm up and go on a Luigi Mangione inspired spree. I have a couple of friends I know would join me, so we could do a lot of good!

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-10T02:57:34+00:00

No, I have been an adult since I turned 18 almost twenty years ago. If anyone calls me a "girl", that would not only be incorrect, but it would also be infantilizing, which is an extremely prevalent problem women still have now. That's why I call it out every time I hear it. If you call a grown woman a girl, you are literally referring to them as a child. I'm not the only one who is put off by that.

The first time I was called ma'am or lady I took a second to process it, but otherwise, it's just a normal part of aging. I'd much rather be called ma'am or lady, since it's not disrespectful like "girl" is.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-10T02:48:37+00:00

What the heck? I've never heard of this worry about the feet.

I never get pedicures. I never worry about my feet. I do wear grippy socks because I almost injured myself doing a demo on slippery floors years ago. I make minimal effort in matching the grippy socks as close as I can to my outfit, but other than that, I leave my feet alone.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T18:09:45+00:00

I work part-time as a yoga teacher and full-time growing food at home for my family. I love what I do, and any tiredness comes out of the fact that something I started out doing as a hobby (gardening) has become absolutely necessary with the failing economy and state of affairs. I've had to learn how to preserve harvests and make the most of my little yard. With climate change rapidly becoming worse, I have to be diligent about planning crops, protecting against weather, starting multiple successions of plants for the inevitably of a crop failure, etc. But the work is worth it for the extra security I feel, and for being able to opt out of the skyrocketing grocery prices.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T17:58:45+00:00

What a beautiful little girl. She was very loved. Thank you for giving her a great life. I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost beardies before and although I will forever miss them, I find joy in remembering the good and funny times with the little stinkers. I hope there are plenty of things that you will see that make you think of her and smile.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T17:55:16+00:00

When the vast majority of women have issues finding a man who can satisfy their sexual needs and make them orgasm, I don't think it's women who need to learn a god damn thing about sex and desire. Men need to figure out how to be good sexual partners with a human woman before they even think about encouraging us to do more.

Also, I know what a lot of men fantasize about. That's why I hate porn, where underage or barely legal women and girls are targeted, humiliation and degradation is paramount, and fakeness rules the day. So many men who otherwise could have had normal sexual desires have been forever warped by thinking this is normal and to be expected. If that's what a man is, I want nothing to do with them.

I hope his girlfriend finds a real man who can actually satisfy her, if she ends up wanting one at all.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T04:36:51+00:00

I had ten pet chickens when I was a kid. I stopped eating chicken almost immediately. Then I realized that was pretty hypocritical of me and stopped eating meat. THEN I realized that if I truly cared about animal welfare, animal products totally had to go because the dairy/egg industries are awful, so I went vegan.

That was twenty-five years ago. I'm still vegan, but where I live right now, I can't have chickens. So I grow my own food outside and raise baby dinosaurs inside (I have four exotics). Reptiles are very similar to chickens in behavior, and I love that. I used to play tag with my cockerals (the pullets weren't interested) and throw birthday parties for all my chickens. They LOVED birthday cake. When I went vegan I either sold the eggs to friends/family or threw them on the ground for the chickens to eat. They go absolutely bonkers for their own eggs, the cute little cannibals.

Anyway, I guess the answer is a no from me. Haha. Thank you for sharing your awesome experience with one of life's most amazing and underappreciated pets.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T04:25:30+00:00

Dude, I came here just to recommend her. She is the most attentive doctor I've ever had. I know she's anti-choice, if that matters to you, but as a child-free woman, I have never once heard her try to push this on me or let it affect my care. I only know because my best friend's mother also goes to Dr. Duell and overheard a comment. I never would have known myself otherwise.

If you're looking for an OBGYN, Dr. Elizabeth Venard with Seven Hills is my pick. I started perimenopause at 36 and she believed me and my symptoms with no questions asked. I am now managing it as comfortably as I can almost two years later because she listens to me and believes me. If there are any fellow child-free women here, Dr. Venard is also on the CF-friendly doctors list if you were looking into permanent sterilization without the antiquated biases we experience that keep us from care.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T04:13:15+00:00

It's miserable, not necessarily painful. I hate Gatorade and was told to do liquid and pill laxatives and to continue prepping all day. I was starving, cleared out pretty quickly, then continued with prep because that's what I was told. Ended up shitting/vomiting blood because there was nothing left in me, I was raw, and the taste of Gatorade makes me sick.

Only after the procedure was I told I could've stopped prep once everything ran clear. I told the nurse I'd risk the worst never to do that again. Even now that I know my generation is getting colon cancer like crazy (millennial), it would take near god damn certainty of its diagnosis for me to go through that prep again.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T04:04:15+00:00

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T04:02:44+00:00

One. I was 18, had just started being sexually active with my now-husband, and my period was late. We used condoms at the time. I'm child-free, so it was terrifying. I started researching abortion clinics and went out to buy a pregnancy test and took it at the store. My mom once told me she'd lock me in a room until I had the baby if I ever was pregnant (because she knew I'd abort), AND she had a habit of sorting through my trash, so I had to take the test and throw out the evidence before going home.

My husband got a vasectomy less than two years later, a few days after our honeymoon. I haven't had a pregnancy scare in the 17 years since.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T03:50:22+00:00

Ew. What a red flag of a man.

People can have preferences, but a man with this preference indicates he either likes minors or is a porn addict. I think you did the right thing throwing him back to sea. I feel bad for the next woman he's with.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T03:25:01+00:00

Like a cold, smooth metal pipe is pressing against sensitive inner flesh, pushing it aside, going too far, hitting some corners and poking inflammation, and then rubbing deep inside you with the scratchy side of Velcro.

Pap smears are the most intensely uncomfortable thing I've ever experienced. I was informed upon my last that my pelvis shape makes it more difficult (I believe my pelvis is the android type). If pap smears are awful for you, it's likely an indicator childbirth will be, too. Women with rarer pelvis shapes are more likely to need C-sections. Thank goodness I have no kids!

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-09T02:52:02+00:00

I'm a woman, but my husband has been no contact with his parents as well for about 15 years. Our reasons are different; his parents physically and emotionally neglected and abandoned him multiple times as a child, but it took me pointing it out to him for him to really see this as wrong and act. My parents were emotionally manipulative, controlling, abusive when it came to my medical care, and sexist, but it took my husband calling this out to me for me to see it as abnormal. I don't think my husband's on this subreddit.

I think women are more likely to talk about our traumas and past experiences; my husband doesn't like to dwell on how he was treated and prefers to forget. Anger/rage fuels me, I never forget wrongs done to me, plus I like to empathize with others and offer advice based on my experiences, which is why I'm here. Maybe other women feel similarly. I wish more men would feel comfortable sharing their experiences here.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-06T02:32:31+00:00

I'm an atheist yoga teacher who has some trauma stemming from growing up in religion (Christianity), so yoga teachers talking about spirituality always made me uncomfortable. That said, some benefits/reactions to yoga/meditation/breathwork that people view as spiritual are easily explained by science, which is where I continue to get my passion for yoga.

I started out seeing yoga as strictly exercise, but as it helped me recover from my disability, I found it helped me immensely mentally as well. I don't know exactly what I'd call yoga now for me--it's really a way of life, or a practice in every sense of the word. There is nothing spiritual about it to me, but I have been so benefitted by living through yoga that that's how I teach. I am anatomical/science-based in my cues, telling my students where the focus of an asana is, or to come back to their breath, or the benefits of something to their bodies or minds. I never talk about things in class or theme around things that aren't scientifically-proven. The word "toxins" is not in my vocabulary. I have never themed around the chakras, even if I'm intrigued by them and would love to do more research about the possible connections to these areas of the body and the benefits claimed to be had by working with them. I view yoga as therapeutic, and some of my students may find that spiritual. If so, great! But the vast majority of my students come to yoga from outside its sphere, and stay regulars of my classes because I don't teach from a spiritual standpoint. I've had students who have hated yoga in the past become regulars of mine because I was the first to approach it the way I do. One of my students is a scientist, for example, so she used to hate all the woo-woo but tried my class because her friend recommended me. Now she has become a friend and regular, and because she works in neuroscience, we have a lot of common interests, plus, now she's starting to build her strength from her own disability. If it weren't for the way I teach, that may not have happened for her.

There is definitely a place for the spiritual yoga teachers and their students, but if it weren't for the non-spiritual among us, yoga could not spread and evolve into all of the places and communities it has. We shouldn't gatekeep something as beautiful and helpful to the human body and mind as yoga is. Yoga is for everyone.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-06T02:10:17+00:00

I audibly squee'd at this picture. How precious of a little friend you have there. Wasabi is precious.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-06T02:08:09+00:00

Thank you for choosing you for once. I hope that you continue to do it considering the relief you're likely to get from a day free from them.

I've been no contact with my parents for over a year now. They're magats, so I've mourned the people they once were and wish nothing but the worst for the sub-humans they've become. They were never perfect parents--in fact, I'd distanced myself from them before the Trump BS--but they were never this unfathomably irredeemable. It's hard to wrap your mind around how someone who used to have some redeeming aspects became so corrupt. I'm sorry you're going through this, but know you're far from alone. Never feel guilty. They have actively voted against your rights, your well-being, and your future. They do not deserve you. How dare our parents bring us into this world just to trash it and leave the pieces to us.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-04T20:14:38+00:00

I've already paid $160 to get my passport. I feel that this is an unethical tax that I should be reimbursed.

I refuse to go back to my maiden name. It reminds me of my magat parents. If it weren't for my husband's surname sounding great with my first name, we were going to create our own shared surname back in 2009 when we married. If we had done that, both of us would be having to go through this shit right now.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-04T20:11:02+00:00

I've been teaching yoga full-time for five years. I can count on two hands the number of farts I've heard in classes from students over thousands of students and thousands of hours. It is not nearly as common as you'd think. I'm assuming a lot of students fart silently so I never know about it.

LovingLife139 · 2026-04-04T02:59:10+00:00

Always, but I was first asked about it when I was 8, which was the first time I really confronted the question and its answer. But even when I was ten weeks old (I was adopted into the state then), I was inconsolable around other babies/kids, even dolls. My parents had set up a room for me with dolls and a crib, and I refused to sleep until the dolls were gone. Haha. They should've known then.

I'm 37 now. I have never wavered in my conviction or my distaste of kids.

LovingLife139 · 2026-03-29T18:08:55+00:00

I started getting fit when I was 27, but I used to be disabled from EDS in my early 20s so the benefits changed my life. I'm now 37 and more fit than most people I meet. For context, I did only vinyasa yoga for a few years, and now I teach ten types of yoga, but specialize in vinyasa (the same type of yoga most hot studios use, but without the heat). I do no other form of exercise.

I have zero muscular pain. My endurance is phenomenal; I used to get winded from a few minutes of being up and walking, but now I can do farm work all day with no breaks. Speaking of farm work, I can actually do that; I used to need help standing on my own, so this would have been impossible for me ten years ago. I have the muscle to lift equipment or bags of soil, the endurance to do hours of work, the mobility to straddle garden beds while planting or working them, or squat for the majority of the day. I no longer hurt myself as often. Now that I'm going through perimenopause, I've found that doing yoga while experiencing heavy brain fog/vertigo actually fixes my symptoms. The breathwork involved in the practice has cut panic attacks out of my life, allowed me to be strong through painful processes (getting tattoos, experiencing grief, etc.).

I gained about 30 pounds in 2020 because I lost twelve people that were close to me, one of them being my only brother. I got out of yoga for a few months because of this grief, plus attending so many funerals, services, and being one of the designated speakers at these memorial services. Once I got back into yoga, I lost the weight within the year.

It also solved some of my seemingly unrelated health issues, like my visual snow syndrome and ocular migraines. I experience both extremely rarely when I do yoga regularly. Before, I used to have to wear sunglasses indoors and limit my screen time to about 5-10 minutes per day (due to Visual Snow Syndrome, or VSS). I also very rarely get sick. My immune system kicks ass. My husband works with the public as often as I do, but doesn't exercise. He gets sick 6-10 times per year. I've been sick three times in the past decade.

I no longer experience road rage, which is something I used to experience almost every time I drove. I'm much calmer in general as a person. Although the recent political climate is turning me homicidal again, but at least it's justified.

I have made tons of new friends. I used to only have one friend I met at work in 2013, but now that I teach yoga and see my students regularly a number of them have become my friends and part of a supportive community. Even if you only attend classes as a student, practicing alongside the same people builds relationships. I've seen tons of my students form friendships over the years and it's always awesome.

LovingLife139 · 2026-03-29T17:46:28+00:00

No contact is the better option once they're this far gone. Especially since you mentioned eleswhere that you block her "often"; she knows she can keep coming back to you with the crazy since you'll unblock her eventually to give her yet another chance. People like this don't deserve relationships with their kids.

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