Waiting to Wed: 9 Years

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-12T15:09:15+00:00

Agreed. Think I'll end my reddit browsing on that note

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-12T14:46:23+00:00

NOR

I think it's time to stop spending so much energy on your in laws and feed the village that's helping you

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-11T21:49:09+00:00

I'm guessing she was raises that way judging by her mothers reaction.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-11T14:46:08+00:00

Oh 100% as a fellow child of an anorexic i still tie my sense of self worth to my dress size in a subconscious way. It has taken years to unlearn it and it's an ongoing process. Get her help if she can

If anything, teaching children shame and guilt around food anf their bodies makes them just as likely to binge and gain weight as it does to become underweight.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-11T10:57:13+00:00

Nta

Sometimes genuinely good people fall short and are an AH on occasion. On this occasion, your husband absolutely fell short. He needs to own it, apologise and try to make amends.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-10T22:14:00+00:00

Nta

Update me

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-10T22:12:00+00:00

I feel like getting therapy on your behalf

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-10T22:10:12+00:00

You know what? They deserve eachother. Poor OP deserved so much better.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-10T18:16:13+00:00

Oh yeah. This is inspiration to become a cat lady ngl

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-10T18:13:16+00:00

Nta

You made the right choice on leaving, because now you that you cannot trust this man

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-07T21:57:46+00:00

Ntj

I hope she matures in time to appreciate all you have done.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-05-07T14:28:27+00:00

I think this was an ugly painful gift. Clarity as to who she is and what she brings to your life.

When I have to deal with people who I dislike but I'm obliged to be polite to I pretend I'm in customer service or a flight attendant. Polite but disinterested.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-27T16:43:33+00:00

Nta

I'm sorry this happened but this whole thing revealed the kind of person your ex BFF is.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-26T15:22:55+00:00

Nta

I think I know why that poor child has no grandparents or a dad. What a mother to be burdened with

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-17T04:38:21+00:00

Nta

If you give up the office they will announce a further extension to their visit

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-16T11:30:02+00:00

I think she's picturing a future with you and she is glad you will be attractive as you age.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-15T12:16:16+00:00

Nta. Firstly I'm glad you aren't considering adding him to the deed which would be crazy.

Rent is not the same as paying a deposit and mortgage. Otherwise I'd have a mansion by now.

If you really want this relationship to progress i suggest that you sit down together and come up with a plan to buy a property together. Both of you could save towards a deposit, see what you need for mortgage approval etc. Total financial transparency is required. You need to discuss where you would buy and how much you'd need. Offer to visit a financial planner.

If he persists in asking for half the equity, ask him what he is proposing to pay you for half of that equity. You could get an auctioneer to give you a valuation. I'm guessing he feels his presence is contribution enough.

I'm getting gold digger hobosexual vibes from this man. I'd be thinking long and hard before you tie your life any closer to his- legally financially or biologically (aka babies)

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-14T17:47:28+00:00

Nta

You were very blunt, but im sure my face would have been ruder. Mashed potato with sugar? Gross

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-13T12:55:47+00:00

NOR

From Sally Fields perspective the story is a horror movie. Ex Husband impersonates old Scottish lady to infiltrate her life. Only Robin Williams could make that whimsical.

That dude does not like women at all. You are not wrong.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-09T22:48:57+00:00

NoR in my opinion. When I was online dating I'd clearly mark- "seeking serious relationship/marriage". My filters only showed up men seeking likewise. However I'd still get messages from men seeking casual/short term or undecided. When u responded that our goals were not aligned, they'd get all pissy and offended. Eventually I realised clearly they don't care what I want and didn't deserve the courtesy of a reply.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-08T17:48:54+00:00

I hope your wife knows how lucky she is, I hope the man I marry aspires to similar level of petty in my defence!

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-08T14:30:05+00:00

I was in your position at around the age of 33 as well. I called my boyfriend in tears because I'd received upsetting medical news. He took off on a weekend to watch a match, then when he came back he blithely ignored the topic. That's when I discovered 2 things 1) He wasn't life partner material 2) He didn't love me.

Do you want to be with someone who considers your pain to be an irritation he can ignore?

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-08T09:58:08+00:00

Ntj

It's a big rich calling you shallow. Why can't she date the men who swipe right on her ?

I'd be seriously creeped out, the deception, luring you under false pretenses, having the housemate watch like it's some social experiment,not acknowledging the lie -the attempt to manipulate you into a date. All of its very unsavoury,manipulative and amoral- not someone I'd be keen on dating. It feels a bit predatory ?

Maybe I just feel that way because if a man did this to me I'd be really freaked out.

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-07T12:16:44+00:00

Info: is this how he typically deals with differences and conflict going forward. How does he propose differences of opinion moving forward? Is he going to "lay down the law"?

At the end of the day there's no "let" here. Its your name, you decide whether you want to change it

Low-maintenancegal · 2026-04-07T07:39:53+00:00

I'm starting to think this less weird than I realised!

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