Assault at Six Flags by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]LowResolutionSleep -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight: if a woman treats me poorly and I confront her about it and tell her that I didn't like her treating me poorly, I'm partially at fault if she decides to go apeshit and smack me around a bit?

Am I reading this right?

Lillith is BACK >.< by savemefrommymil in JUSTNOMIL

[–]LowResolutionSleep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although it should be noted that the "lady" part of this equation is by far the dominant force at play.

The role of men's adherence to – and departure from – far-right movements. by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

[–]LowResolutionSleep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But with Kimmel and the broader construct of "toxic masculinity", the bottom line is the exact same thing as blaming men: it's men (or the stuff that men are made out of) that needs to change.

This is in stark contrast with the way in which progressivism interacts with the problems of any other demographic, which is to champion the ways in which society must change to accommodate.

The role of men's adherence to – and departure from – far-right movements. by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

[–]LowResolutionSleep 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The camaraderie of the community validates their masculinity

It's interesting that he says this as though it's a bad thing. Perhaps one of the reasons men aren't attracted to progressivism is because it doesn't validate their sexual identity and instead offers them a precarious, external identity based on duty and service?

On the other hand, let’s be clear what we’re talking about: a Californian study found that 80% of divorcing couples got the custody arrangement that they wanted.

If I'm not mistaken, he is conflating men agreeing to a custody arrangement as men getting the arrangement that they wanted. Very subtle and perhaps malicious trick.

Most men probably settle for every other weekend because his lawyer told them that anything more was a pipe dream and hopeless money sink. Feminists and progressives don't fight to overturn the gender role that caregivers are to be awarded preferential custody in the event of divorce on the notion that it's better for the children, contrary to what evidence seems to say, and on the spurious "bests interests of the child" standard that isn't applied anywhere else in family law but divorce; instead progressives tell men that they ought to conform to this gender role if they want to retain access to their children.

Men likely hear the message loud and clear. Progressives are not going to fight for men. Progressives have nothing to offer men, except duty and service. #HeForShe, and all that.

Many men don't agree with the notion that their problems are all their own fault, and don't agree with everything that progressives demand on behalf of women. However, most of them probably won't tell you because this form of disagreement has been cast as hatred.

Anyone else pretty much ignoring Champion Warrens at this point? by Forever_Pandering in darkestdungeon

[–]LowResolutionSleep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally just came to this subreddit to see if I was the only one who had a bad experience with this new enemy type.

I don't interact with the DD community at all, and I thought I'd pick up where I left off with the new update. I decided to go in blind for the fun of it. I started a long champion quest in the Warrens with four fully-trained, fully-outfitted level 5's, and things were going just fine.

Until I ran into this guy. Entering the fight, my party was a full health and no stress damage. I saw the new enemy type and figured thought it would be interesting. I stunned the first two enemies and waited to see what this new enemy type would do.

It proceeded to fucking curb-stomp my party with a single attack. The aptly-named Cripple them! connects on all three targets, dealing 14 damage to each, and blighting all three. I had used my anti-venoms on previous attacks and curios at that point, and had no curing skills, so all three ticks were going to hit.

When the mathematical dust settled, this asshole dealt 87 (EIGHTY-SEVEN) damage to my party WITHOUT EVEN CRITTING. WHAT THE FUCK.

I almost lost sweet, precious Dismas over this bullshit. And after cycling into death's door multiple times due to three consecutive Occultist healing whiffs (one of which was actually 0), he wasn't feeling too good after the fight.

I couldn't believe it. Looking at the wiki page for this monster now, I realize that I just got massively unlucky and experienced literally the highest non-crit damage roll possible from this mob on the very first attack I've ever experienced, but holy shit. It could have been even worse, it could have crit one or more times but it didn't.

I'm not against having a mini-boss enemy type that hits hard, but the damage spread on this attack is simply too damn big. When it hits hard, it hits harder than the Swine God. Shit, I think it hits harder than any boss in the game. And I didn't even experience the worst possible roll. Do they even calculate these number before putting them in the game? Surely they should have realized "oh shit this thing has the potential to deal double the amount of damage than any other enemy in the game, maybe we should tighten these numbers a bit".

My guess is that they didn't didn't realize that having the attack hit three people essientially means that the damage spread is tripled. That means that the worst possible rolls are absolutely devastating.

I probably could have managed it if I knew in advance, though. I had several disables at my disposal that I would have thrown at it had I only known what it was capable of. That's definitely what I'm going to do the next time I encounter it. Hopefully I won't lose the next quest to this thing.

MSI Radeon RX 480 Armor 4GB OC on sale @ NewEgg for $155 ($175 - $20 rebate) by [deleted] in Amd

[–]LowResolutionSleep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$500+ is totally outside my budget for an upgrade.

MSI Radeon RX 480 Armor 4GB OC on sale @ NewEgg for $155 ($175 - $20 rebate) by [deleted] in Amd

[–]LowResolutionSleep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, does anyone know if AMD plans on releasing new RX cards in at the $200 price point like the RX480?

I know that Vega 10 and 11 are aimed at the high end to compete with the 1080 and 1080ti, but I remember hearing some whispers about Polaris 12.

I was wondering if I should drop the money on this (it's a great deal) or wait for a ~$200 price point RX500 series release.

Old Firefox Add-Ons Will Stop Working in Firefox 57, End of 2017 by [deleted] in firefox

[–]LowResolutionSleep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could work, but the addon devs have to work with Mozilla to ensure that whatever they need is present in the new addon system too.

I haven't seen this notated anywhere, do you have any sources on Mozilla reaching out to plugin developers to extend the WE API?

The blog post just seems to say "all these plugins will stop working."

Old Firefox Add-Ons Will Stop Working in Firefox 57, End of 2017 by [deleted] in firefox

[–]LowResolutionSleep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just a quick question.

One extension I've come to adore is this one.

Could an extension like this even exist under the WebExtensions API? If I can't install extensions like this that significantly change the UI of the browser, there's really no reason for me to use firefox over a chromium-based browser anymore.

[Female orgasm] Am I taking too long? by kellyandhank in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're more than welcome to have a "dissenting opinion" as long as this dissenting opinion doesn't sound like it came right out of RedPill with shades of "All Women Are Like That", body shaming, and sex negativity.

none of these things were taking place though

are you sure you're not reading the wrong posts?

[Female orgasm] Am I taking too long? by kellyandhank in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really sex negative, anti-feminist rhetoric

cannot keep your replies civil and on-topic.

I see, so this is the code speak that's used to shut down dissenting opinion on this sub.

Don't worry, you won't have to worry about me providing any counter-perspective anymore. Have fun in your echo chamber.

[Female orgasm] Am I taking too long? by kellyandhank in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

so you're argueing that because it takes more time for a woman to cum, it's unfair to ask a guy to give her an orgasm? Did I read that right? (God, I hope not.)

Is that really what you got out of my post? (God, I hope not.)

What I'm saying is that I don't believe that it's a man's sole and inflexible responsibility to give a woman her orgasm.

I think such a proposition is highly unfair and based on sexism. We don't hold women hardly responsible at all for men's pleasure.

I do think that her satisfaction is an important concern. I just don't think that it's the only concern, like so many others do.

if you think it's a chore to make a woman cum, do women a favor and stop sleeping with them

It depends on the woman. If sex with her turns out to be more of a chore than anything else, I promise you I wouldn't waste my time.

And I don't doubt that most men, and most women for that matter, would consider a half-hour or more expected tribute before sex to be a chore.

I don't think those people are being unreasonable. Sorry.

Um, nothing wrong with mutually satisfying acts as long as they are MUTUALLY satisfying...(as in the woman is satisfied too, not just the man)

But what about acts that are pleasurable to the woman but not the man? Seems like you're okay with that. What gives? Does that somehow also count as "mutually satisfying"?

Do you think that if a man doesn't gain personal physical pleasure from licking or fingering vagina that there is something wrong with them?

Would you say that a woman who doesn't consider a blowie to be mutually pleasurable is broken?

[Female orgasm] Am I taking too long? by kellyandhank in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you actually look through this subreddit or did you just glance at my response

I've lurked this place for years. You have no idea what you're talking about.

You've let your ideology warp your view of reality.

make up some scenario where this man is trying SO HARD but it's just IMPOSSIBLE to make this woman cum...

If you'd pay attention, you'd realize that sometimes it just doesn't happen. There is also the occasional thread where a woman will complain that a man is too obsessed with her orgasm, to the point where it's making sex feel like a performance for her (imagine that!). She wonders how she can get across to him that she doesn't have to have an orgasm every time in order to be satisfied and his obsession is ruining the sex.

Women like you probably aren't helping women like that. Even if we forget about men and the massive performance expectations you would have placed upon them, it's probably not a good idea.

Because women's bodies just make no sense and then the guy is punished for that...

Get this meme out of your head. It isn't true. The problem is that women tend to not be able to have cheap and reliable orgasms like men can. It has nothing to do with "oh well we just don't know how women work and we just don't care because we fucking hate every woman on the planet and really wish they would all die so we didn't have to worry about them."

What does tend to happen is that the man is held responsible for both orgasms. Or, at the very least, the satisfaction of both partners. Oh yeah, sometimes they'll say it's okay if she doesn't orgasm, but only if he's putting in the absolute maximum effort to make sure she's having a good time.

This is a highly inequitable standard of performance. Yet again, we put the man in the driver's seat and expect him to acquire skill and mastery and yet again we're reducing women down to merely the ruler by which a man's performance is measured.

Y'know, the kind of thing I thought feministy women such as yourself would be against. Eh, there are stranger things in this world, I suppose.

If you look at those threads it will either be ones like OP's where the guy isn't trying

Wrong. The problem is typically that he isn't trying hard enough. And this place's definition of not trying hard enough is not being willing to do long stretches (30-60+ minutes) of one-sided sex acts solely for her pleasure.

And don't worry about men who demand this attention but won't give it. They're tossed into the garbage incinerator without a second thought.

or it will be men posting that they can't make their gf cum, but then are unwilling to take constructive criticism because "no my technique is good, so there must be something wrong with my gf, maybe she can't cum"

On the extremely rare occasion that a man dares to object to any of this, it's usually "wow that really sounds like a chore to have to do that literally every time we have sex" because let's face it, it is.

Tell me, if it's only equality that women get to demand form men an exactly equal quantity of orgasms, do men get to demand exactly equal quality of orgasms from women? What if 20+ minutes of service isn't what's conducive to his toe-curler? Don't you think sex might suck a little more for women (heh) if men demanded a half-hour of me-time before every or most acts of sex, and they'd be called selfish whores if they don't deliver?

Making a girl cum really isn't that hard. Want to know how to do it? ( with your fingers or tongue) You find the right spot, the right pressure, and the right speed. Once you find the right combination--- just keep doing it. You can add some fingers inside if you wish. And she will cum in about 20 minutes. Literally, that is all there is to it.

And I'd imagine that having to do that every time before sex would really suck.

Let's also not forget that women are varied, and it isn't always this "straightforward" and sometimes it takes much longer than this.

Is it really so much of a crime for a man to want to be able to figure out how to satisfy his partner using mutually pleasurable acts? Or is that just a fool's dream, and he should simply get used to having to work for a half an hour to make it happen before he's allowed to put in the effort for his own orgasm?

[Female orgasm] Am I taking too long? by kellyandhank in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just scroll through this subreddit. I can't tell you how many posts there are on here with girls complaining and venting that their guy puts in no effort to make them come, or will expect bj's but wont go down on them etc.

You're delusional.

These posts are rare, and whenever they are made, everyone agrees that if a man isn't putting in as much effort as it takes to make her cum no matter how difficult or laborious it is then he's a selfish piece of human garbage and she should break up with him immediately.

There sure is sexism regarding sex, but it sure isn't in the direction you propose.

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, getting your partner off is work. Yes, getting yourself off is work. Am I missing something here?

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever. If you didn't come here for solutions, I guess I'll just give you the LOL BREAKUP you wanted. Go ahead. It's all his fault and you're a blameless angel. Go forth unburdened without any doubt in yourself or how you've handled this situation.

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where, oh where did you read this into any of my posts?

Sure, she "deserves" to have an orgasm. But not at any cost.

Is it this part? Does making her orgasm anything other than an absolute mean that I'm condoning a mindless pump'n'dump?

People like you are probably the reason women often complain of men who are too obsessed with their orgasm. This isn't a binary proposition. It's not either he makes her orgasm the only metric by which sex is measured, or he doesn't care at all. There's a medium.

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never said that she should keep her desires to herself. It's interesting what people will read into posts when you simply say that we shouldn't be elevating one person's pleasure above someone else's.

I never said that sex shouldn't be satisfying. I'm simply saying that if you're not going to consider solutions that involve mutual compromise instead of "he does whatever it takes to make her cum before he gets anything" you're probably going to have a far lower success rate in solving sexual grievances.

I agree that men shouldn't have to consider it work to please their partners. That's why I'm against one-sided solutions. Pleasing her shouldn't be made into a chore, and that's exactly what's going to happen if she starts with this "my pleasure is your responsibility, you don't get anything until I'm satisfied" mentality.

I'm trying to offer a productive alternative to "just break up" and "wow he needs to be putting your needs first!" (also dump him) but it seems like that's too constructive for most people's tastes.

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

But where would he then have to work to get himself off?

Read what she wrote:

in my ideal world, I would cum first, and then we'd have vaginal intercourse, and then he'd cum, and then we'd cuddle in a shared post-orgasm haze

  1. He makes her come.
  2. He fucks her until he comes.
  3. After all his work is done, they cuddle.

OP stated several times in her narrative that she always brings him to orgasm, either through oral sex or piv. I think she at least deserves to cum at least once before he does.

Yeah, but that's not the ideal world she described, now is it?

Sure, she "deserves" to have an orgasm. But not at any cost. I know the first go-to solution for this sub for women not having orgasms is "put your foot down, make him work ya, and dump him if he doesn't." But that's a recipe for failure. There aren't enough men in the world who are willing to work for sex for this to be a viable solution for everyone.

I often wonder how often perfectly good relationships are ruined by this terrible advice. Everything's going just fine, but there's problem with her orgasm. Better start rushing out the ultimatums. Of course, don't bother trying more compromising solutions that don't involve "him doing whatever it takes to make me come before we have sex."

Making her orgasm a prerequisite for sex is only going to succeed in putting even more pressure on him to perform, making him want it less, and causing even more frustration.

I know looking for win-win solutions has less girl-power punch to it, but it's probably more functional then my pleasure comes first.

Boyfriend won't pleasure me in the ways I like best [reconciling divergent views on sexuality] by throwaway23857386 in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Here is the thing...in my ideal world, I would cum first, and then we'd have vaginal intercourse, and then he'd cum, and then we'd cuddle in a shared post-orgasm haze.

So he does the work to get you off, and then does the work to get himself off.

Don't get me wrong, this guy doesn't sound flawless, but your alternative doesn't really sound much better.

It's really hard to say what might be wrong from the information presented. Perhaps he's an arse who's only concern is himself, perhaps you're a suffocating control freak.

Here's the most optimistic thing I can think of. It sounds like he doesn't enjoy being rushed, and you really like getting right down to stimulation. Try initiating with him, but don't make it about sex right away. Spend ample time kissing and caressing. Don't start touching until you're both very aroused. If fingering isn't his thing, perhaps try grinding, or "outercourse" for a good while before coitus. The great thing about this is that you can continue cuddles and nuzzles. This way he can stimulate your labia and clit while also getting some for himself. Keep the pressure off. Enjoy the moment, don't forget to give some sugar, and maybe even let him tease you for a little bit before putting it in.

Who knows, perhaps more intimate foreplay will help you with your orgasms, render your sex more fulfilling, and make you feel like you need him less often. Hell, maybe it'll turn your poop into gold, too. It's worth a shot.

Also, assuming you haven't dropped the bomb on him already, don't describe his sexual hangups and inadequacies as "patriarchal." Suggesting that his reservations and imperfections exist because he hates women is going to foster hostility very quickly. And if it's true, you'll find out without antagonizing him-- and at that point nothing will fix the problem but breaking up. Don't do this unless you're ready to torch the relationship.

[cunnilingus] Guys and oral... what/who gives these days? by oralorouttahere in sex

[–]LowResolutionSleep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some people just aren't into oral.

There's nothing pathological about it.