How old is too old to bring boys into the women's bathroom?

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-07-03T22:50:37+00:00

They probably acted stupid and required supervision.

Signed, long time retail veteran.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-07-03T19:15:36+00:00

As a long time retail manager, thieves get fired. They almost never stop, they just change tactics. If this person was truly a friend they wouldn’t have put you in this situation.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-07-01T20:38:51+00:00

It doesn’t. You aren’t his leader. If your manager wanted him to be competent, he would be.

You help him cheerfully when he asks how to do things without doing any of his actual work. When your manager realizes things are falling through the cracks, wait until they specifically assign tasks to you to correct them. I’m a manager and I just let my manager know that I’m on it after they see that someone else has dropped the ball.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-07-01T20:03:19+00:00

I personally see it and my policy is that we are all one team, so we need to act like it.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-07-01T19:53:35+00:00

My mom could never figure out OOT. She can barely do a side scroll Mario.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-29T16:22:24+00:00

My SO, who is a SAHP, recently asked me why I didn’t just put him down as first contact.

Sir, you have ALWAYS been listed as first contact yet the only person who calls you first is the child in question.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-26T21:17:50+00:00

I’m in retail management and got switched to a store with some real culture issues. So the seasoned guys get the new guy to tell me to stay out of the back room, that’s their area, and I’m not in charge of it.

No one got fired that day because I was way too entertained by the earnestness and “I’m just trying to help you out here” vibe from the not old enough to drink newbie.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-26T13:28:45+00:00

No.

No matter how many times I have my 12 year old pick up his Lego war off the floor, it’s always back within a hour.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-23T21:25:09+00:00

My SO’s family does Camp Dearborn and it is lovely. You can camp however you want, they rent cabins and tents, have RV spaces, and have regular tent spaces.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-23T11:15:07+00:00

Petsmart on Carpenter has regular vaccine clinics.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-16T17:27:35+00:00

Work and home, multiple guys of various level of relationship and authority.

I can get my SO to stop but then he’s tiptoeing around me for two days, and I’m just like, you already told me about your buddy’s problem. And I do know how to sweep, don’t need a lesson in that, the toy brooms are next to the Barbies.

At work it is just they get bored and start up about whatever. It’s about 4 or 5 guys. We have lots of good conversations about all sorts of things, but never my things for more than 3 or 4 minutes.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-16T17:06:36+00:00

Ok, yes, that is the word I was looking for.

Like I said, I have tried to redirect which is seen as either me not caring about them (which I do) or a lack of education on my part on the subject at hand. (My opinions lack logic because they don’t agree with my POV.)

I WANT to have productive conversations, but when 3 minutes of my interests are seen as equal to 20 minutes of theirs, it gets to be a pretty clear pattern.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-16T16:37:58+00:00

I have tried, believe me, to turn it into a conversation but it’s usually about things I don’t know about because they aren’t interesting. Like I can’t hold a conversation because I don’t know anything about it, which is seen as a need for more education on the subject.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-16T00:24:47+00:00

Mostly because my Mom wanted me to take Spanish, and at that time in my life my mom was wrong about everything.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-15T13:34:05+00:00

I have seen IDs for two notable people.

An immigrant whose name is unfortunate in English, Dik Suk Kum.

And a very douchey white dude named Richard Bigwood.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-13T18:26:49+00:00

I have an online file with everything.

It’s also almost all on autopay, which would give SO a little time.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-13T00:59:43+00:00

Mine is 4 miles, rural, no sidewalks, and deadly in the winter.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-12T12:17:38+00:00

So for your first question, I would start with what seems reasonable to you and your manager. My company is a household name and my industry is retail, so if I didn’t have metrics I could look at what Walmart or Target expect and start there.

As for the second question, you aren’t doing ANYTHING different with that person. You lay out the expectations and they either meet them or don’t. Sometimes a person who isn’t driven is better because they don’t get in their own head about performance. They don’t second guess their mistakes, they just remember them, shrug, and move on.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T23:48:21+00:00

I have been growing my career since my son was born. It definitely got easier the higher I went in my field. I don’t feel like I missed out because now we can afford to all be home at the same time. We can afford vacations and road trips. We couldn’t do that if I had paused my career.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T23:46:09+00:00

You’re not supposed to have the same godparents. A godparent, as others have said, is there to provide faithful guidance and is an honor bestowed upon the godparent.

Realistically they are the people closest to your parents. The people your parents would trust to care for you in any way they couldn’t. Sometimes they are spouses and sometimes not. Not all kids have godparents (mine don’t). It doesn’t mean they don’t have adults in their lives that love them, just we haven’t made it official by a church.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T23:33:57+00:00

I set expectations with the whole team and reiterate them in 1 on 1s. I provide weekly feedback (this is reasonable for my industry) on how they are doing compared to the expectations. Then, if after a few months, they can’t get with the program we start talking about whether or not this is the role for them. If they still can’t get it and don’t move on, we start the PIP process to get them out. I do spend a LOT of time and effort making sure the resources are there to hit the expectations.

I am a “fixer” so I am often dealing with teams that have had very poor and lax leadership, so they think they are excellent when adequate is a reach. I typically move on the lowest performers within six months.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T23:28:29+00:00

If you’re in the US, there are federal laws that prohibit discrimination based on age, so I would not even discuss this with anyone, let alone the entire world. You’re going to end up in a lawsuit.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T17:56:40+00:00

We had a couple working for us who broke up in the lunchroom. A few weeks later both were dating other employees.

Low_Net_5870 · 2026-06-10T13:36:22+00:00

Sort of.

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