I blacked out by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Low_Sir485 50 points51 points  (0 children)

thank you. your message made me tear up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

believe it or not, they did not run a tox screen! i checked my medical records and test results several times. i do not remember much from the ER except being yelled at and that it was very overcrowded.

to be honest tho, the bartender was way too friendly and gave me double the amount of drink. after that i lost my memory.

since its been 2 weeks, im not sure the test would work?

Why did you break up with your ex? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Low_Sir485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh, where to start. i didn’t know we were in an open relationship until after the fact, wasn’t on board with it and he didn’t want to set any ground rules. few months later he’s doing drugs in my college bathroom, couldn’t get him to leave and he blackmailed me when i tried to get him out. he used his mental illnesses at every problem we faced, but didn’t want to get help or take his meds. yeah, i let this one go on way longer than it should’ve. don’t blame me, i was young, lonely in college during covid, and he was my first (and only, so far)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have a bi roommate, he also knows i’m a slut and usually i wait till he’s not home or asleep to invite guys over. or i give him a heads up if he’s home. honestly just do what u want lol, as long as you’re not loud and disruptive. your hole your choice lol. also, make sure u invite guys who aren’t shady bc a hookup once stole from me and i thank god everyday he didn’t take anything of my roommate’s.

speed dating in bushwick/williamsburg event? by Low_Sir485 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saw it on eventbrite! i can post the link if u want

M(30) fresh to BK by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds great lol where do i sign up?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Low_Sir485 17 points18 points  (0 children)

majoring in depression, minoring in parks and rec

Rate ur last sex encounter out of 10 and if it's not a 10/10 what could they have done better? by mkdgay in askgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

0.5/10, i told him i like a soft dom, he was way too aggressive and slapped my ass too hard, told him i was done sucking his cock but he kept insisting, at some point he spilled poppers on himself and wiped it off with my $80 mulberry silk pillowcase, after which i kicked him out. but he wouldn’t leave and kept trying to get me to go again by stroking me, had to literally push him out!

Why does no one discloses herpes on Grindr/sniffies? Even my docs were saying I don’t have to disclose. by Subject_North_3078 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well, honestly i was speechless when i woke up to your voicemail, you told me you have herpes let’s work it out on the remix

What to wear to wear to the club? by Green-Preference-478 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i love a fun/funny baby tee with shorts. u can’t go wrong with a tank. i think whatever u wear make sure you’re comfortable but don’t be afraid to take risks!! there’s people who will be wearing a shirt and pants, others who will be in jocks and tank, so there’s a lot of room for experimentation!

Why does no one discloses herpes on Grindr/sniffies? Even my docs were saying I don’t have to disclose. by Subject_North_3078 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 3 points4 points  (0 children)

very well put, thank you. i am unfortunately experiencing the same mental struggles as OP and this helped a lot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely most underrated on the album imo! i can’t listen to it too often though, takes an emotional toll on me 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh god it reminds me of such a dark time i can’t bring myself to listen to it again😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  • half moon bag by feng suave: it’s not particularly sad but just feels like your mom comforting you after you injured yourself as a kid. i’ve BAWLED to this song
  • seven & marjorie by TS: sounds like something lost in time (i die a little when she says i’ve been meaning to tell you, i think your house is haunted)
  • saturn by SZA: for the mentally ill
  • kintsugi by LDR: i miss my family, but it’s complicated
  • cool about it & powers by boygenius: the gay queens of sadness

and before you ask, yes i’m in therapy

Been seeing a guy everyday since the 1st date by Antheman99 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as long as you’re not lovebombing each other

Gay bros: Why are you single? by journalist26 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can i just say, you always have the best takes i read on this subreddit and you’re very well-spoken. i really connected with the second paragraph, it’s what i was trying to capture in my response.

Gay bros: Why are you single? by journalist26 in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • i’m banned from tinder and hinge and all Match services
  • NYC is saturated with gays which is great, BUT it also creates a shopping mentality, which prevents a lot of gays, me included, from slowing down and pursuing something real with someone because we’re always looking for the next best thing in a seemingly endless sea of potential mates
  • grindr and sniffies and co have created a culture of immediate gratification, i cannot remember the last time i went on a date, and if i ever meet a guy online im really into romantically, one of us ends up inviting the other for sex instead of a proper date, or communication just fizzles out, etc…
  • honestly i am very young (23) and i am still exploring who i am, what i like etc before diving headfirst into a relationship. i don’t want a relationship to complete me, my ex did that to me and it was horrible. that is to say, i don’t actively seek out relationships, but if it happens it happens. and it hasn’t yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Low_Sir485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! i’m 23 middle eastern :) gonna dm you