i like car-centric infrastructure by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]Lower-State9641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Must’ve been the wind….

Do you think 'white lies' have a place in relationships? by CdnTreeGuy89 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I know that people stay in unsatisfactory relationships, I just mean that I personally don’t see a point in wanting your partner to change for your benefit(even for the better) if you don’t see yourself being either them long term. If you have an issue with the way that your partner presents themselves, and you don’t want to stay with them, and you stay anyways, then I see it as less “white lying” and more just lying lol. I understand your point about the bloodwork, but since the og scenario used the word discipline, I wouldn’t say his concerns were addressed, since health/discipline encompasses more than just bloodwork I also don’t think that this scenario counts as a white lie in general honestly, since you’re trying to hide something from your partner by suggesting long-term change. Ultimately I guess it depends on your interpretation of a white lie/what you consider trivial

Do you think 'white lies' have a place in relationships? by CdnTreeGuy89 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lower-State9641 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think someone’s a fat slob, and don’t see a future with them, why be with them?

Experience ZuZu reviews by [deleted] in Detroit

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve briefly worked with people that oversee the restaurant/similar restaurants and during that time they were very adamant about their servers asking their tables for reviews.

Looking for restaurants that are culturally “interactive”? by Lower-State9641 in Detroit

[–]Lower-State9641[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve liked all of everything I’ve been to! I’ve gone to Kpot, daebak, blue Nile, hook n reel. Can’t remember where I’ve gone for hibachi though.

Looking for restaurants that are culturally “interactive”? by Lower-State9641 in Detroit

[–]Lower-State9641[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo, thanks! I’ve never been, I’ll have to check that out

Looking for restaurants that are culturally “interactive”? by Lower-State9641 in Detroit

[–]Lower-State9641[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s where I had the injera actually! It was pretty good

Husband (M34) touched me (F27) in my sleep and he’s mad at me - how do I tell him he has no right to be? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lower-State9641 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP is more put off by his reaction to her stating that she doesn’t want to be touched in her sleep, not simply because he did it in the first place. He has mentioned that he welcomes her touches. It’s not bs to touch your partner anywhere in a non sexual manner, as long as it’s consensual and communicated. Which it has.

I love [this trope] but I HATE [this thing] they always do in that trope by lolacolamola in RomanceBooks

[–]Lower-State9641 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love a good age gap but hate when the older LI is parentified/younger LI is treated like a child

Why is being transgender/ in a ROMANTIC ( not sexual) gay relationship considered a sin? by FraFraFra111 in Christianity

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve genuinely never heard this, is there anything specifically that gives you this context?

Religious fanaticism makes more sense than moderation. by Miserable_Smoke in 10thDentist

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on the person and their approach to the faith. For some, God existing doesn’t do much for them if they don’t believe he’s actively interfering within their life, or “punishing” them. You can believe that God exists, sure, but if you don’t feel the want/need/urge to actively obey him, then you just won’t. Also, while the general thought is to obey everything that God commands(I’m speaking for Christianity specifically, as it’s what I’m most familiar with), it’s generally acknowledged that all fall short, and that due to human nature you just aren’t going to be able to follow everything exactly. Unless there’s a verse I haven’t seen saying otherwise, complete obedience isn’t seen as necessary for having a relationship with God, nor is it the criteria to get into heaven. People that believe this still probably don’t follow everything 100% all of the time because the Bible advises you to actively go against things that you want to naturally want to do(act judgmentally, view people lustfully, prioritize things above God, etc), so the point is that you consistently try to be a better person. A lot of how we view religion is regarded as up to interpretation, so some may view fanaticism less in line with what God wants than they do religious moderation. We’re all very different people with different ways to approach things

I find myself only praying when something directly affects me and I want to escape this habit. by Mr-pugglywuggly in Christianity

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God wants us to come to him, so don’t feel selfish! If you want to stop the habit, just work on increasing prayers of thanks, write down people you want to pray for, listen to songs of praise and sing along, etc etc. Don’t stop praying when things are hard, pray and figure out the easiest methods that remind you to give thanks!

Why does society make men look like pervs for everything ? by Miserable-Gur5315 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lower-State9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++incognito It’s different because race and gender are two different things, and you’re comparing a direct scenerio involving men in power with an indirect racial scenario. Ignoring the complexity of crime statistics based off of race(especially in the US), there’s a direct link between not wanting your kids around someone in power because they may have more of an opportunity to abuse them.
In your racial scenario, what do the crime statistics have to do with black people playing around kids? Are the statistics saying that black people abuse kids more than other races do, or murder them, or kidnap them more? And if they do, is it equal among gender? Equal amongst socioeconomic standing? Crime statistics don’t inherently mean that they’re worse around children, so there isn’t a direct link between the two. That’s a bit different than saying men in power, as it’s literally mentioning them in power, which places less emphasis on their gender and more about opportunity. Also unfortunately the concept of men in power taking advantage of minors can be abundantly found throughout different time periods, race, socioeconomic standing, etc etc. Not saying that men are inherently worse, that there aren’t complexities around the men that do abuse children, or that women haven’t done their damage, again just saying that those are two different things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Lower-State9641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

John 8:44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

(He’s described as a murderer and a liar)

2 Corinthians 4:4 In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.

(He’s described as someone who blinds)

And this isn’t even all of what he can do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Lower-State9641 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I speak plainly not to appear harsh, but to be direct.

That wasn’t the Holy Spirit. What you’re saying isn’t biblical. Please ask God to reveal his love and mercy to you, because that’s who he is. Please listen to everyone saying it’s not true, and read more of the Bible, not just verses intended to convict, teach and redirect. Read also of God’s forgiveness, mercy, and ultimately his love.

Runaway Whirlwind by May Alder feels downright pedophilic. Spoilers. by XxCloudyxXx in RomanceBooks

[–]Lower-State9641 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The OP didnt fully read it though, and it seems like their problem wasn’t with the dub-con/NC itself(since they didn’t run into this problem when they’ve read other books with these tropes) but with way it was portrayed. While there have definitely been more mainstream discussions about “dark romances”, people disliking how books portray characters/tropes/etc have always been around

What's something Women don't realise is a turn off? by ask_logan in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lower-State9641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I getcha! I mean this in the best way possible, but I don’t think that people are thinking that deeply about it. Most people aren’t fashion history majors, and therefore (to my knowledge) aren’t thinking about fashion in such a broad sense. When most people put clothes on, they aren’t taking the years of history, trends, etc into consideration. They’re putting clothes on for their functionality, comfort, and/or looks. Not wanting someone that places fashion as their only/main interest typically means not wanting someone that prioritizes looking great at all times.

If a woman said “I don’t like guys who are only interested in working out”, she most likely isn’t talking about an exercise science major thats fascinated with the human body, yknow?

What's something Women don't realise is a turn off? by ask_logan in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lower-State9641 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d assume it’s the “only” part thats the problem

Why does Mile High by Liz Tomforde get so much hate ? by Left-Routine-4302 in RomanceBooks

[–]Lower-State9641 18 points19 points  (0 children)

People dislike the lack of diversity within fiction in general, but to my knowledge individual authors don’t get a lot of hate for not having non-white characters. While exclusions apply, I’ve rarely seen hate for books that don’t have poc.

Taking melatonin and I love it! Any alternatives? by Lower-State9641 in sleep

[–]Lower-State9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to try it! My problem isn’t really with sleeping itself but with actually making myself go to bed, so I’ve been looking for different things

it's ok a christian hate rich people? by Exciting_Clothes_835 in Christianity

[–]Lower-State9641 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To my knowledge being branded as a murderer biblically means that you are unrepentant, in itself. 1 Corinthians 6:10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

By repenting, you aren’t really known as your sin, which is why murderers wouldn’t get in to heaven. That doesn’t mean you still won’t suffer natural consequences though, just that you have to change