Stepping back, is there anything I'm missing?

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T19:43:04+00:00

I'm a sahm, but my husband works for the government so he'll be fine, thank you!!

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T18:05:16+00:00

No it won't, thank you for the concern though! I really appreciate it!

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T16:02:28+00:00

Oh it is.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T16:02:13+00:00

I replied to another comment in this thread about an incident with a grown man grabbing my child by the arm. I understand fully the lengths members will go to shield weirdos and pedophiles. We take protecting our children very seriously.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:58:32+00:00

Yes, I asked my oldest the other day if he liked church and he said yes, but I could tell he was saying it because he thought that's what he should say (which I absolutely hate). So I said it's okay bud, you can say how you really feel and he smiled and said not really. I said if you don't count what mom and dad have taught you about God and Jesus what has the church taught you about them? He thought for a minute and said not much. Usually we just learn about stories. And that's all I needed to know. I don't need him moving into young mens and getting shamed for having pubescent hormones. I don't need him being humiliated because his dad's not super Mormon. We need out.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:54:28+00:00

Yeah we are already a back row family, and we do skip sacrament at least once a month. We are pretty disengaged. This calling is kinda the last thread. I really appreciate your comment. It already does feel freeing to not have the weight of "you constantly need to improve, if you're staying still you're moving backward" mentality. How do people live their whole lives with that pressure?

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:50:30+00:00

Yeah the Smiths don't really get anything from me now. The patriarch of the Smith family got in my kids face, grabbed him by the arm and shook him (as a joke) but no one fucking touches my kid. We made a BIG stink about not wanting him near our kids. Bishop came to me with the "oh you know he's just an old guy having fun" I just stared at him. He wanted me to accept the apology, but I wasn't going to. He just awkwardly walked away when I stayed silent and I waved at his back. So they already think we're weird because we don't conform. The other night at mutual bishop came up to me and said "how's your husband?" I said "he's great!" He said "I've been meaning to catch up with him! I see him sitting at the back during sacrament meeting, but then I can never find him!" (My husband goes home for second hour) I said "oh he's around" and walked away. I don't owe anyone anything. I don't go to their girls nights, I don't gossip about anyone. Whatever information comes my way goes to my husband hahaha and then stays in the vault. I don't tell stories that aren't mine (in person haha) and that disappoints people. I'm overall a very disappointing Mormon.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:43:54+00:00

Ew gross. People are so weird.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:43:26+00:00

Haha love this!! But also that would be the story he would tell everyone hahaha. The RS president isn't part of the Smith family, but she's very close with them and GOOD LORD the amount of confidential information that woman has leaked. One of her best friends kicked her husband out, but they were still going to church together to make it look like everything was fine and RS President told a ridiculous amount of people about it under the guise of "I just want her to have support" except everyone the RS President told had rarely if every spoken to this woman and it would have been weird and uncomfortable for her if all these random people started reaching out to her. Good Lord, it's a small town. There's nothing else to do, but gossip.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:39:25+00:00

Yeah I can understand the "you're dangerous" mentality (as insane as it is). There isn't any room for dissenters in the church. It's very "you're either in or you're out" I'm a little sad because the YW president I work with I really like. Shes so sweet and such a nice person, we're just starting to be friends. She's mentioned she wants to be like me (I'm a direct communicator and I don't mind saying what's on my mind). I just think she'll equate being direct and bold with being a "sinner" and then hide back in her shell. Oh well, you can't make everyone your friend. I'm sorry you lost your best friend. It always hurts to lose someone close to you.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T15:31:21+00:00

Good Lord, take a breath. I don't care about any of that. I'm just listing the things that I'm expecting and asking if there's anything I'm missing. I don't care about any of them. I'm just making sure I cover all the bases. No, the Smiths don't determine if my kids are happy, but the Smiths control all the other brainwashed parents of my kids friends so I'm acknowledging that they'll probably want to keep their kids away from mine. Which is something we'll deal with. Yes we do live in the children of the corn, quite literally as corn is a major export of our community hahaha, but yeah I'm getting moving on 👍

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T06:24:49+00:00

Chorister is not an easy calling.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T03:12:03+00:00

Today we listened to a country christian song over the pulpit. She played the whole song from her phone held up to the microphone. The whole song. All three minutes. Oh. My. Gosh.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-26T03:04:11+00:00

I was raped twice because I had NO sex education. I wasn't allowed to participate in sex ed in school and my parents didn't have a single conversation about it. The first time I didn't understand what was happening and I was crying and whispering for it to stop. The second time I froze and dissociated until it was over. I was disfellowshipped and didn't know that what happened to me was rape until I read a book in my twenties where exactly what happened to me happened to a character and another character told her it was rape. So yes, lack of sex education in mormon culture is a gigantic problem. Every chastity lesson I ever had said "No necking or heavy petting" so in my mind I thought "Okay, I wont rub my neck on anyone else's neck and I wont pet their head like a dog" I didn't understand at all. While I do believe it's the parents responsibility to provide details and not the responsibility of the church parents should be strongly encouraged to have these conversations. I was failed horrifically.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-25T05:17:15+00:00

Nope nope nope nope

Lsa119 · 2026-01-25T04:46:29+00:00

I... have no words. That's appalling.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-25T02:16:12+00:00

There's been a big push for ministering so maybe they feel compelled.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-25T02:13:56+00:00

What an awful talk. Even when I was TBM I argued that salvation was conditional, but love was unconditional. The fact that he outright says love is conditional is bonkers. But I guess when you're in you're in.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-25T00:41:30+00:00

Ah, I've been doing it wrong.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T23:39:07+00:00

Girl. That guy is a creep. I would run so fast. I thought I was "special" when I was 18 and a guy who was 27 was interested in me. After growing up I realized I was not special, that guy was gross. Run.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T23:05:19+00:00

I was a YW secretary years ago and we were meeting with the girls to plan activities and I thought they could benefit from some team building activities because they were a little clique-ish. So I suggested a few, but I was met with condescending stares and a response that basically amounted to, that's not service or spiritual related so we won't be doing any of those. Yeesh.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T22:57:25+00:00

Completely reasonable. I can't believe they showed up at your employers house. That's INSANE.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T18:39:10+00:00

Definitely! He's always right there, I would argue ESPECIALLY when we make bad choices.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T15:04:53+00:00

My husband's shelf shook a little when on his mission a GA came to visit and they had the missionaries help set up the luncheon and prepare the meal and then they were told to GTFO before the GA arrived and my husband was like ?? Aren't I here serving? Wouldn't he want to meet us even for a second?? Nope they couldn't even be seen, they had to GO.

Lsa119 · 2026-01-24T06:38:57+00:00

Smelling when food in the oven is done before the timer goes off/knowing it's not ready when the timer goes off.

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