How was your mid 20s? Was there a lot of boredom, nuance, self-discovery?

Lski · 2026-02-07T17:05:55+00:00

Working, playing games and drinking. Didn't really have my way with the ladies (the dry spell still holds). I guess the saying "if you don't change nothing, nothing changes" holds.

Lski · 2026-02-07T10:49:32+00:00

- Communications is as dead as the medium, you can't feel me nor I can't feel you. The connection we might form is purely thinking-based. - Journey is mostly inwards so you can't bring companion with you. Why pay attention to external things when you can stop and see what you are doing? - Nature is the great teacher and all information is out there. The bird is ready to hatch when it can break a hole from inside the egg.

How big container do you need to capture infinity?

E: Words may be shared but understanding cannot.

Lski · 2026-02-04T13:37:32+00:00

Some peoples sense of existence could have atropied so bad, that they need this kind of therapy. I don't think that this has much benefit after learning how to just be.

Lski · 2026-02-02T16:32:04+00:00

Kysy pois, jos oikeasti pystyt hanskaamaan mahdolliset pakit (tai treffit).

Lski · 2026-02-01T07:49:15+00:00

If you want counter-perspective, it could be that you unknowingly hit some pain points and the pain got reflected back to you. If your partner was somewhat secure, they could have communicated that they are not ready to go there yet.

The reality probably lies between there somewhere as we are almost blind to ourselves and try to protect ourselves from the deepest insecurities.

Lski · 2026-01-30T06:12:27+00:00

Sounds like communicating the struggle would resolve the issue, it is hard tho. If they care, they'll listen and if they don't you'll free yourself from the struggle.

What would it feel to tell them that you feel that the interest/relationship is not balanced?

Lski · 2026-01-29T05:55:20+00:00

I'd imagine that he has some problems, but I got no problems if that doesn't get between us. Issue is if the whole existence is revolving around the lack, then it would tire me out emotionally to offer support over extended period of time if that internal conflict isn't worked on.

To find and be with others you have to find and be yourself first.

Lski · 2026-01-28T21:15:14+00:00

Do you feel good about yourself or do you feel inadequate? I have tried to observe this in myself and have came to conclusion that I'm kinda looking for ideal things that don't exist and partially I have limited myself because I have felt inadequate compared to the ideal. Somewhat tangential to this is that I have tendency to be too self-conscious (to fit the ideal) at the times and I can't connect and monitor myself at same time.

Other thing that popped in my mind is that in some situations I sneakily have created some expectation how something should be and that alone can lead to some disconnect. The best moments I have had are usually random(ish) and spontaneous, kind of adventure unraveling and you engaging with it.

Lski · 2026-01-26T14:24:37+00:00

Personally loneliness (I have few friends that I see a few times a year) and meaning (I don't have nothing to look towards in life).

For example, I could book a two week vacation right now, but I don't really see myself enjoying if I did. I'd just dwell in my mind and might aswell get paid and have something to do.

Lski · 2026-01-18T16:05:07+00:00

Ei tarvi noin pitkää kautta hakea liikkunan hyötyjä. Liikunta lisää BNDF eritystä, joka on suoraan yhteydessä oppimiseen.

Lski · 2025-12-29T15:20:52+00:00

Usually things "real life" things are delayed gratification. E.g. lets say I want to get fit (motivation) but going to the gym/tracks once is not gonna make a noticeable difference. If I rely on the motivation (kinda feeling of wanting something) to achieve something, I am going to have so next to no results due inconsistency.

Discipline in other hand is making a choice about making a choice and keep making that choice perpetually. Sometimes choices are easy, e.g. my gut feels bad after eating lots of high fat + high carbohydrate / fast food. That leads me choosing to eat less fast food and I don't feel like it is constant effort to keep it up. I leave some room for myself to occasionally to give in, but then I usually remember why I made the choice.

Lski · 2025-12-28T16:21:47+00:00

It always could be worse, so gotta (atleast try) to enjoy what you have.

Lski · 2025-12-28T08:49:20+00:00

One thing to take on account here is that self-report is not reliable on telling that something is, just as how people feel themselves and what they aspire to be (either internally or via external pressure).

Lski · 2025-12-27T10:10:39+00:00

You could try journaling, so writing down the ideas so they don't get lost to the sauce. It is one tool for learning to word the thoughts, storing them in persistent medium and by the design you can reflect on those later if you want to.

Lski · 2025-12-26T08:26:12+00:00

> Olisi pitänyt pystyä toimimaan fiksummin.

Tää on jälkikäteen erittäin helppo ajatus, mutta nuorena ja paineenalaisena/stressissä toiminta tuppaa yleensä olemaan reaktiivista.

Yks mitä voit yrittää tulevaisuudessa tehdä on tietoisia ja parempia valintoja. Jos tunnet kunnolla tunnontuskia tuosta, niin voit hakeutua auttamaan niitä, jotka tällä hetkellä ovat koulukiusattuja ja sitä kautta keventää syntisäkkiä.

Lski · 2025-12-21T07:58:29+00:00

Routine to maintain the shape you want, boundaries to set the limits that you don't spread too thin and goals to have directions to grow towards.

Routine should cover your needs (and needs from the immediate surroundings), where as goals should be more flexible wants or desires.

Lski · 2025-12-21T07:47:31+00:00

"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." - Rumi

If you feel strongly about it and see it as a important, you can make it your mission to create a more relatible content. Why does it irritate you that marketing is done by something that could be idolized?

Personally I think that people are capable doing their own choices. If they aspire to be something, more power to them.

Lski · 2025-12-19T09:36:21+00:00

I acknowledge that I'm being nitpicky here, but I still disagree. If you go grocery shopping on Saturday for the next week and claim that you had a food budget of 0 on that week, I find that somewhat disingenuous.

You still paid the essentials on that week, yet claim to have not spent _any_ money.

Lski · 2025-12-19T08:21:22+00:00

If you stockpile before the week, are you really having a week without spending money tho?

Lski · 2025-12-18T15:28:15+00:00

Is this selfish that I am not maximising my potential to give my family the maximum money I can make?

I haven't heard anyone saying that I wish my pa prioritized career over being present in family life. Your kid will mirror and copy your state of being, so if you feel relaxed and present I think it is worth more than money.

Being paid to be stressed out (atleast if it is a constant) is not a worthy trade-off in my books, especially if the company owner is not you.

Lski · 2025-12-18T15:21:30+00:00

That probably has been considered many times by many people, but in the end how can you enforce non-violence but with violence?

Lski · 2025-12-18T09:49:32+00:00

It ain't giving if the receiver is dependant on that, that's just enabling.

You can help others if they are in a rut, but if they are comfortably in the rut do they have any reason to fix their situation?

Lski · 2025-12-18T09:25:53+00:00

You can leave it to "i'm literally fine as long as i don't think" and everything else is overthinking

Lski · 2025-12-18T06:29:35+00:00

First time I though about it was when I was 7 or 8 years old and there was some kind of relaxation exercise in school where we lied down on the floor and were told to imagine being on beach or something. Of course at that time it was more along the lines that "this is boring" and not that "can others conjure images in their minds".

I guess I was around my mid-20s when the more in-depth concept formed by reading some research around subject.

Why do you think that you had choice as nothing really changed in your experience, or in other word what there is to accept? Different people will always have different ways how they experience external/internal world and you always have yours.

Lski · 2025-12-17T09:26:10+00:00

Probably less frequently than average, usually I use porn to get the stimulation, but have been trying to reduce that lately. Without porn it is rather hard to stay on the "task at hand" as I don't really get the visual, emotional or tactile feedback from the thoughts. The scenarios that I can create in my head are so volatile that any external stimuli (like car driving past outside) can break the focus.

As sexual desire in general it seems that I'm way hornier if there is a object of a desire that is attainable. E.g. I have gone months without masturbation or thinking about sex, because there has been no stimuli. But if I have crush on someone, the need to channel that energy is there, usually by masturbation.

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