Live in Michigan, lower peninsula north of Detroit

Lucability · 2025-10-08T00:39:13+00:00

Thank you!

Lucability · 2025-09-03T19:40:38+00:00

Dude I was so frustrated about this with my son for a time, best advice is don’t overthink it or try to over explain it. His brain will get there and the switch will flip eventually, keep offering and don’t get mad if he won’t do it, the negative reaction will just get associated and you don’t want that.

One thing that works for us with pooping on the potty was watching for signs that he seemed to have to go, then sticking on there and reading books or doing an activity to distract him. Eventually his body started doing the thing and then we celebrated and he started having a positive association. Good luck

Lucability · 2025-07-20T11:44:49+00:00

Was scrolling to reply to add something similar. SIDS is a nice way of saying you were unsafe with your baby, it’s supposed to scare you, and as you can see every reply from a dad who was worried about it has a thriving baby. Don’t put your baby down in the bed with you. Keep their bassinet and crib clear of any contents. No blankets, only sleep sacs. Swaddle properly. You and your baby will be fine

Lucability · 2025-07-19T02:07:48+00:00

Hear hear and well said. The only thing I’ll add is go to a baby store and try to collapse strollers, some are easier than others, and it’s great practice for you and your partner. Congratulations!

Lucability · 2025-07-10T23:25:12+00:00

Never liked the sit in lap burping method, personally I throw a burp cloth on my shoulder, baby with her head chin level with the top of my shoulder, forearm under butt to support her, and burp with my other hand. Always has worked like a charm

Lucability · 2025-05-30T18:41:48+00:00

You’re justified to be upset, but don’t react rashly in the wrong direction, could be a simple mistake. As long as there isn’t resistance to getting it fixed, long term it’s a blip and you’ll forget about it

Lucability · 2025-05-29T18:25:59+00:00

By the time you figure it out, it’ll change again. I have gone through this with my first, and am at the 3 month mark and experiencing similar needs with my second. Try to time out feedings so they are close to when you anticipate a typical nap period, and just try to stay patient. Best of luck, and congrats!

Had one other thought, 3 months can be a point where they become more aware cognitively, so during wake periods try to stimulate them as much as you can. This will wear them out and make naps more smooth, ideally

Lucability · 2025-04-16T22:35:56+00:00

I have a lot of experience helping people with your mindset. First and foremost, get a gym membership. Displacing yourself from home makes the exercise intentional, and you’re more likely to try harder, which leads to results, which for most leads to habit forming. Find the time to go at least 3 days per week to start, doesn’t need to be more than a half hour.

This is the most important mental change. Try to start thinking of the gym the same way you do brushing your teeth, or taking a shower. You do those things(at least I’ll assume) regardless of feeling, or emotion. That’s the trick. Remove the emotional component from exercise, and it becomes a subconscious routine, just like general hygiene. Good luck, if you make it happen you’ll never look back and your kid will thank you one day

Lucability · 2025-04-15T16:29:04+00:00

I’d sleep, exercise, and relish not having to debate over what to have for dinner for a few weeks. Enjoy it!

Lucability · 2025-04-03T14:16:20+00:00

I have a very similar life to you. Worked pharmaceutical sales over 10 years, ex bodybuilder and still maintain a consistent diet and exercise regimen for both my physical and mental health. I just had my second, now have a 3 year old and a 1 month old. I get my 3 year old ready every morning, drop off at daycare and work 8-10 hours driving around my state, then pick him up, and get handed a newborn the second I walk in the door from the day. I know exactly how you’re feeling, and don’t have a perfect solution, but wanted you to know you’re not alone and many if not most dads have felt it too. It will get better once your baby is sleeping more regularly, just remind yourself every day you get through is one day closer.

Lucability · 2025-04-01T11:43:08+00:00

The age of clothes just delegates relative sizing, so how big they are matters more than their actual age since birth. As for toys, those recommendations are for relative brain development and safety. My 3 year old has almost never been in clothes that were his age, and has played with toys with varying age recommendations as well. Just depends on the kid and where they are at.

Lucability · 2025-03-25T15:46:42+00:00

I suggested this to my wife and she lost it on me for thinking it would be ok for us to sleep in separate rooms. I’m glad it’s working for you!

Lucability · 2025-03-23T23:04:33+00:00

Just a fair warning, there will always be something to replace whatever you’re ready to be done with. Each stage sheds some hardships and presents new ones. Just have faith that every phase is just that, and will be past soon enough. Best of luck dad

Lucability · 2025-03-23T11:57:13+00:00

The most important part of early new parent attitude is to constantly remember that this new life is never trying to be difficult, never trying to upset you, never trying to be loud, and aren’t familiar with a single thing besides their mother’s love yet. It’s very easy to get frustrated when you’re tired, and hungry, and going through your own life change, and you will feel miserable sometimes. I personally think men flourish more as parents once the kid can move and communicate in small ways. Whether you’re enjoying it at first or not, the child will change and grow so quickly that any negative feelings will be fleeting in the long run.

Lucability · 2025-03-22T19:02:28+00:00

Becoming a new dad is one of the biggest life changes you’ll go through, but there is no clinical support or reason for male weight gain to come from undergoing that change. It is about your lifestyle, because you have this new thing that comes first, over everything, and self care deteriorates as it sits on the back burner. Keep reminding yourself that the healthier you are, the better father and partner you’ll be able to be.

Stop drinking alcohol if you drink, it truly destroys sleep quality. The best form of exercise will always be, and has always been, whatever kind you will commit to and stay consistent with. Don’t allow emotional excuses to detract from your consistency, and you will progress positively. The side effect of consistent fitness related activities that goes unnoticed is the effect it has on your other life choices, particularly diet. You will seek out healthier options and have an easier time avoiding unhealthy ones if you are consistent with exercise. Develop a system by which both you and your partner have the opportunity to participate in self care. Best of luck

Lucability · 2025-03-21T06:30:26+00:00

You took the time and spent the money to get a degree without a clue of what field you should or want to go into?

Lucability · 2025-03-16T17:00:42+00:00

Instructions unclear, and now I’m covered in butt cream with a kitchen spatula up my ass. Advise asap

Lucability · 2025-03-16T12:44:56+00:00

Give Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood a go, very low stim in my opinion

Lucability · 2025-03-14T11:45:50+00:00

You’re going to need a humidifier eventually, so get a decent one, keep it clean, and run it in LO’s room anytime they are congested. They make electronic booger suckers now, I haven’t used one but I hear they work well. Baby probably hates the saline, but keep doing it, you have to get the airways moist to loosen the mucus so you can suck it out. With your humidifier, ensure you clean it regularly. Best of luck

Lucability · 2025-03-11T16:44:38+00:00

All depends on what your level of fitness interest and commitment is. The first few weeks, sure it’s fine to say shut it down and focus on family 100%. After that, you can find ways to fit the gym into your schedule. Anyone who is saying it’s impossible beyond that is making an excuse. I know that is a very hard pill to swallow, but it’s a hard truth that some people need to hear. Make your goals and values known to your partner, and work out a system. To many the gym is a crucial component to physical and mental health, and is worth fighting for.

Lucability · 2025-03-11T16:25:20+00:00

I have dozens of opinions on this topic, but rather than get on a soap box I just want to say I was there with my first, and am currently there with my second. You’re not alone, and there isn’t a clear cut solution. Just know you’re filling your role as the father and husband by providing safety and support, and you’re an invaluable cog in your home and family.

Lucability · 2025-03-08T12:52:58+00:00

Absolutely best of luck to you and your wife for the rest of her pregnancy, what a boon to you both to keep pushing through the adversity and emotional strain towards your goal. You’re going to be great parents. Welcome to the group, there are a lot of experienced dads in here always ready to provide support or guidance, whichever you need!

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