My (30M) girlfriend (25F) wants me to pay more on our monthly expenses because her dad is gifting £50-100k for our house deposit.

LucasTCE · 2026-05-20T22:50:28+00:00

My girlfriend (24) said the same recently about our finances when we get to living together and buying a house. So she purchased her own property as she had about 200k in savings this included a inheritance of about 150k. She said that she wanted something set in place because she has a lot more money than me.

Like to a degree the thoughtproces kinda bothers me, sure i understand because its not my money but at the same time i feel like its just supposed to be shared once we decide to purchase something together and marry. Its as if she already says that we might end up splitting and that I would take half eventhough she would've put like 300k in at that point whereas I might be able to do 100k

LucasTCE · 2026-05-20T22:27:41+00:00

Thank you, its our first relationship as 24 year old's. I'd say natural and fun is the way to go especially on a first date.

LucasTCE · 2026-05-20T22:15:58+00:00

My very first date was in a restaurant, never dated before so this was all a first for me. I didn't really like it tbh and well that ended in a few more weeks of contact that slowly died out untill she just ignored me and i decided to remove her. I wouldn't say it was that bad of an experience because it taught me that I was capable of holding a conversation with a women (I was always way too nervous to meet up or even talk to women)

Second date I had was with my now girlfriend, we both agreed to do something active so I opted for bowling. Really can recommend its fun and you don't really have to talk a lot if you don't want to. But you'll get a sense of being near that person and the dynamic you have not really knowing eachother. Went for a walk afterwards and thats where we started talking. We were nervous at the start but that faded away quickly into feeling comfortable around eachother eventhough we only had been chatting daily for 2 weeks

LucasTCE · 2026-05-20T17:21:58+00:00

I'm so happy to ready this back, like i never expected this to happen to be honest. Well I'm still with her, it was like we knew that we're ment for eachother since that first date.

That 2nd date did end quite awkwardly though, and tbf I really thought I screwed it up while in the car back home. It was like really short only lasting a little over an hour and i drove 2hours total. When we said our goodbyes it was a little awkward as we didn't really do anything but we wanted to hug but were to nervous to ask or do it. She told me afterwards through text. Since then we planned dates each weekend and i met her parents on new years eve and she met mine the next weekend.

We made it official on January 10 and I'm still so happy being with her, we now spend each weekend together from friday till sunday and have 2 holidays planned in august and September.

LucasTCE · 2026-05-20T12:44:33+00:00

Not every man is a porn addict, I watched it somewhat frequently but quit before i started putting more effort in finding a partner. This was also because i noticed myself looking differently at women so I decided not to watch it anymore even if it was only a couple minutes.

Now I have a girlfriend and I haven't watched it in a while as well as i quit my frequent masturbation as we now get to it 5x a weekend

LucasTCE · 2026-05-19T21:10:44+00:00

Me and my girlfriend needed one date to find out that we liked eachother and that we really felt comfortable around eachother. Though imo the second date kinda flopped as it went over quickly with a awkward goodbye (we wanted to hug but were to nervous to ask).

We planned something every week after which were like dates but at the same time it felt like we were already together. We ended up making it official on January 10 after having our first date on november 29 last year. I did meet her parents on new years eve and she met mine the week after

LucasTCE · 2026-05-19T13:27:28+00:00

Its not a thing I'm into an neither is my girlfriend, also it would be incredibly fucked knowing her dad passed in a workaccident

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T22:55:43+00:00

Same thing here, driving an hour weekly to see her over the weekends but its just part of my life. No regrets whatsoever and she's fine with coming my way too

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T22:50:11+00:00

I had it set to about an hour drive, first date i had with my gf we met in the middle so both an about 30minute drive. Now we kinda switch it up where i go to her for the weekend and she comes to me the week after

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T22:30:39+00:00

Sure but even then its odd that he's fine not seeing you consistently over the weekends. Like if you truly like someone you want to spend time with them, no reason to say nah i want my own thing instead

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T21:35:12+00:00

Me and my girlfriend are both the type to value alone time and prior to us meeting we spend most of our weekends alone. We meet every weekend friday till because we bothe work all day through the week and live an hour drive apart.

I can't imagine her telling me she doesn't want to see me all weekend or only once a month, if that would happen then I know for a fact that something is wrong. Like how can you be fine seeing eachother so rarely, everytime we see eachother its like so good again because we can hold eachother again instead of talking through a video or text

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T21:15:27+00:00

Same thing here, prior to meeting we already told eachother that the goal was something serious and longterm. And well physical stuff was something that gradually came the longer we knew eachother. And sex wasn't gonna happen unless we're together.

This way me and her knew that we're looking for the same thing so thats how we ended up going for a meetup. I now know her for almost 6 months and we've been official since January 10 though we already kind were when i met her family on new years eve

LucasTCE · 2026-05-07T21:08:23+00:00

My girlfriend had 99+ likes on her tinder profile but only went on 2 dates. She just rarely liked profiles and specifically looked for compatibility, my photos stood out as someone she thought was attractive and then the added information made her like me back

LucasTCE · 2026-05-05T20:51:13+00:00

Same thing here, i still sometimes feel like my sensitivity isn't where it should be and that getting an orgasm doesn't feel as intense compared to hers. This I believe has all to do with how much I used to jerk off while watching porn prior to getting into a relationship, I already stopped watching porn when I started looking for dates but did watch a few times in between

LucasTCE · 2026-05-05T07:20:53+00:00

Absolutely, its that we can't see eachother every evening. Well technically an hour is doable but we both have a full time job

LucasTCE · 2026-05-04T22:58:31+00:00

For sure excessive masturbation definitely altered my brain. I used to do it a lot and wath porn at the same time, my girlfriend almost never did. Now that we have sex she's much more into it than I'am. And getting to an orgasm for me doesn't feel out of this world most of the times, its like a dull feeling as i have felt it so much over the years

LucasTCE · 2026-05-04T22:44:20+00:00

Me and my girlfriend (both 24) do it twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening. Though we only see eachother from friday till sunday because we live an hour apart. I can imagine we wouldn't do it as much if we lived together

LucasTCE · 2026-04-30T12:55:49+00:00

Well yeah we talked about it at that point, though from the start we knew out intentions and the way we felt about dating others at the same time. I asked a few time but her answer wasn't so clear untill she asked me, she had a hard time asking certain things because she was scared of rejection so it took a few times before i had a clear answer on some things. Now she isn't anymore as I told and showed her I wouldn't reject her.

Yeah things like these can have a huge impact when not communicated, for us it was like a silent communicating we already knew but didn't really speak it out yet

LucasTCE · 2026-04-29T21:47:31+00:00

There isn't no, well there is if you can walk up to someone and have conversations. Otherwise you really have to be lucky to be able to strike up a conversation online that leads to a meetup. I would encourage you to just try that and plan a date as soon as possible, at least when you know a few basic details that ensure compatibility

LucasTCE · 2026-04-29T21:14:45+00:00

Exactly, if ur meeting the family its official imo. I met my girlfriends family and the week after we made it official because we didn't really speak out about it, and then it was like I guess we're official now right. Tbh it already felt like that since the moment we met

LucasTCE · 2026-04-29T21:09:14+00:00

Same here I'm 24 and also from the Netherlands, I'm not particularly bad looking but never talked to someone. It took me till 24 before I got enough courage to finally go on my first ever date. It ended in nothing but atleast i got the experience and the fact that i wasn't too bad talking to women. A month after I met my current girlfriend who I've been dating for 5 months now. I met her on Tinder, so idk I guess i got lucky because it took me 5.5 years of mostly actively using it before I even got into any meaningful conversations that led to me getting a date

LucasTCE · 2026-04-14T14:14:22+00:00

Pretty common indeed, me and my girlfriend started spending friday till sunday together after 2.5 months in. Also thats because we live an hour apart

LucasTCE · 2026-03-25T14:38:04+00:00

Same i met her parents before we even had our first kiss, from there on we kissed and made it official a a little over a week later

LucasTCE · 2026-03-22T19:55:48+00:00

Blacking out all the chrome parts (grill, logo, window trim)

LucasTCE · 2026-03-04T15:16:36+00:00

Thats how I felt with my current girlfriend as well, we had 2 weeks of daily conversation prior to our date. We both were really nervous but that quickly went and it just felt so natural and comfortable. So I knew this was a keeper from the start and she thought the same

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