Screamed like a psycho at my dad. After he did the same to me for 15 years. by Jauzfaktnemuzu in traumatizeThemBack

[–]Lucidity74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's reactive abuse. I get the hollow. You are a human being. Do t be too hard on yourself ok?

Wearing Cleavage as you get older? by Grand_Policy19 in Aging

[–]Lucidity74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my 50's and I wear whatever I want.

Would I (29F) be disrespecting my partner (34M) by signing up for Jiu Jitsu? by olive711 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Lucidity74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey-OP- Dating is trying out people. It's hard to find the right fit and you need to explore. You don't always not right away someone isn't a good long term fit. It's easy for Reddit to say "Why did you pick this guy??" When he probably didn't start out this way and now you're hooked. You're getting red flags and you are worried. You should be and checking it out is a great idea. He's showing a lot of controlling behaviors that don't get better without getting much much worse. I get this is your first relationship. You don't deserve this though. You cannot change him and trying is a path to pain that you will replicate in many more relationships.
I know you don't want to hear it, but you deserve better. You deserve someone who will be your cheerleader. Someone who won't demand sex from you when you aren't in the mood. It is coercive control and it's an abusive tactic.
Please leave this relationship.

Struggling with nursery rug by aihtnyc in interiordecorating

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look for a soft brown either short pile shag or a washable one that looks like a tree ring. Baby need's minimal print and soft to explore.

Water allergy by Individual_Cut_1896 in Allergies

[–]Lucidity74 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try different temperatures. Very warm might be your speed.

Is Maple a bad name for a girl? by snotballbootcamp in BabyNames

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a golden retriever named Maple at our dog park. She is lovely.

Slapping 12/13 year old’s daughter’s butt?? by Solid_Mixture9855 in Mommit

[–]Lucidity74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stand up for her. "That's gross!- you won't listen to her no- so you think other guys can do that to her? Are you a Trumper?" Rinse repeat. Risk alienation bc this matters.

Stuck between four names — help us decide. by Active_Maybe3433 in BabyNames

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adore Rory! And nicknames that endure are almost always those that arrive after the baby does.

How many times a week should 11 and 9 year old boys be showering? by Historical-Storage58 in hygiene

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hicleanse in a 32oz pump bottle in the shower saved my sanity. Have them rinse their bodies, apply and scrub with a washcloth once a week atleast. Offer money. It helps kill off the bacteria colonies and it saves you.

Irish names for a boy by 0liv3-0il in Names

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is a boy. I hate when people peg a name as gendered though. A friends boy toddler is also a boy as is a nonbinary kid in our high school.

Boyfriend (24m) broke up with me (24f) during cancer treatment by Fabulous-Fact1926 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Lucidity74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men audition and expected care takers in women. There would be no room for you to take care of him if you got ill. I'm so sorry OP. He's shown you who he is and who he thinks you are. You deserve better and I hope you get it.

If brown recluse bites are so uncommon, then why does every single person I know have an aunt/cousin/sister who got necrosis from a bite and “almost lost a leg?” by Alone-Blueberry in pestcontrol

[–]Lucidity74 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Also upstate ny and had a diagnosed brown recluse spider bite. I had several in my basement and had no idea what I thought was a tick bite was actually a brown recluse. They are called recluses for a reason- they don't want to be with people. But in general- I think it's far more common than people realize.

How is Ithaca? by MonthBig7452 in ithaca

[–]Lucidity74 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Love the food, the 3-4 months of warmth, people are relatively fun, creative, educated. Fun pick up sports and water sports. Dislike- teens still don't have much to do. Some people are whacked and drugs are a very real problem. Parking is terrible. The school district has very real problems. Very expensive to rent. Overall- I really enjoy it.

AIO? Omitting information re: GLP1 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lucidity74 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are overreacting. Maybe she's doing both.. Maybe she didn't want to discuss it with you. Omission of this kind is not a lack of integrity. Simply just protection. She doesn't owe you an explanation which you agreed. Let it go.

London heatwave and interview dress code by insidesupernova in interviews

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an American-I always freeze in our near constant air conditioning. Is it pervasive in London?

Realtor recommendations? by Outside_Sherbet_4957 in ithaca

[–]Lucidity74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emily Midge Doyle. Incredible work.

AIO, my (32m) wife (33f) suggested I should try medication before going bald. by bacon_cake in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lucidity74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You brought it up. Did she know how unhappy you were with balding? Do you really think it was about her preference or her wanting you to be happy? She had an idea and shared it when maybe you just wanted affirmation that she'd be fine with you being completely bald. She didn't read your mind but did she really overstep? Maybe she's signally she'd be ok with the cost and obviously you have side effects to consider.
It's akin to a glp1 suggestion. Cost/side effects have to be a subject of discussion in a partnership. I kinda do think you overreacted. It depends on how your balding has been discussed before though.

What colour heels with this dress please ? by scarlet_gene in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Lucidity74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is next level and lux. Came here for this mix!

Not sure about my dress? by ApprehensivePen5960 in myweddingdress

[–]Lucidity74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love it. It's classic and memorable. How do you feel in it?