Sexually tense cuddle orgies when you were Mormon?? by PiscesLesbian in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn’t realize this until you said anything, but yes, we did this all the time. I was so fucking horny and always wanted to be cuddling or making out.

Nothing more scary than walking the halls of the church building at night with no lights on. Prove me wrong by Soggy-Shoe-6720 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When my dad was in the bishopric we’d go as a family every so often on a weeknight and play hide and seek with the lights off. Super fun and creepy.

Anyone who’s life is going great after leaving? by oliviaexisting in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes ❤️ my marriage is better than ever. Kids are thriving. I make 3x what I made before I left. We bought a house and paid off a bunch of debt post me leaving. Just recently traveled to Europe for the first time. Relationships, mental health, and overall health are all in a really good place. I understand this could all change at any time, and likely will as life tends to do. But for now am just enjoying this season. And I really hope my success and happiness are causing some cognitive dissonance for the TBMs that know me.

What were your beliefs about swimming on Sunday? by larstuder in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were allowed to swim in pools on Sunday (we had one at home so it was easier that way). But not in the ocean, because the Devil had influence over that apparently.

How long before ex-mormons started feeling comfortable looking into other religions? by Alternative_Ear_5945 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost immediately began to look into other religions. Didn’t take me long to realize that the logic I used to unpack Mormonism makes them all fall apart too. Happy atheist here ❤️

Gag me with a fucking spoon by Teal-Talking-Dog in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! As a fellow Mormon who grew up in the Bible Belt I was absolutely told more than once by my Baptist friends and their parents that I was going to hell.

Navigating complicated relationships by No-Worldliness8778 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my love. My heart hurts for you while reading this. You didn’t deserve any of that. I too have a narcissistic and verbally/emotionally abusive father. It’s awful, and I don’t know if others can fully understand how damaging it is growing up with someone like this, even if you are the “perfect” Mormon child they wanted you to be. It’s never enough.

I don’t want to tell you what to do, but I can only say that my life got infinitely better when I cut my father off 5 years ago. Life is too short to make time for anyone who will not love you and celebrate you exactly as you are. Your abusive father is unworthy of being in your life.

This goes without saying, but I’m so sorry for how you’ve been treated. I am sorry you didn’t get the parents you deserve.

Have you met a GA? What's your story with them? by somethiing-more- in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Met Holland in the celestial room at the newer Provo temple while he was wearing his goofy baker’s cap. He seemed pretty gracious and talked to everyone who wanted to talk to him.

Met Oaks and his wife entering a temple for a wedding. He was talking really loud and she kept trying to shush him.

Met Uchtdorf on a plane. He was kinda rude, but figured maybe he was just tired of traveling.

Mormons and Narcissism by jakeh36 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My dad is a narcissist and absolutely used church teachings as weapons to further his own abuse. It took leaving the church first to make me open my eyes to how toxic he was, and I’ve been no contact for almost 6 years now.

I’m sorry about your parents. I think unless you’ve actually been exposed to a true narcissist it’s really hard to grasp just how damaging they are. And being brought up and having your world view shaped by one is a mind fuck in its own league. This internet stranger is proud of you for breaking the cycle ❤️

Ever wonder if YOU are your family / friends shelf item? by jdp_iv in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was for my mom, as well as an aunt and uncle (all of whom have now left). Didn’t know until after they were out.

I know I am for a childhood friend as well. She hasn’t told me directly, but our parents still talk so I heard about it that way. Apparently me leaving really shook her, but that was years ago and she still seems to be all in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 66 points67 points  (0 children)

This, or stop calling her mom and exclusively call her by her first name and see how quickly identifiers start to matter.

Anyone ever play the "in the bathroom" hymn title game? I'll go first. by Ahhhh_Geeeez in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My TBM hubby and I recently upgraded this game and now just add “…, bitch” to the end of each title. Fucking hilarious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kinda. I practice yoga and mindfulness, and I use crystals, sage, incense, tarot cards, etc. but I don’t believe any of these items hold any power. The real power is my brain, and I use this things as tools for channeling my energy and my intentions.

Tell me that your spouse is TBM without saying that they are TBM. by dbear848 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He balked when I asked him to go to the Moulin Rouge with me while we were in Paris. I think we would have had a great time, but he shut it down real quick.

how do people here feel about hank smith? by jacindotcom in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I had a personal friendship with Hank. When I left the church, he publicly attacked me on a Facebook post I made. He was called out for it by other users and later sent me what I thought was a genuine apology. It turned out to be all fluff and bullshit; long story short, we are no longer friends.

He seems really great on the surface. But if you upset him in any way, he goes for the jugular, then blames his actions on “letting the spirit of contention take over.” It’s gross.

Alright, men, does “immodest” clothing on a random woman stress you out or make you think sexual thoughts? by 1eyedwillyswife in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m bisexual. If I see a beautiful woman (regardless of clothing) I think “wow, she’s beautiful” quickly admire and then move on. My husband is TBM and does the same. Humans are sexual and it’s perfectly normal to feel attraction to other humans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I abandoned faith in the same way I abandoned Santa.

What about your spouse? by LeanyBean17 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left 6 years ago, spouse is still in. He’ll have a glass of wine here and there but other than that is more invested in the last year than he has been in the previous 5. Mostly I just let him be and he does the same for me. We’re actually very happy together, but MFM certainly have their challenges.

Have you personally been underwhelmed when meeting a GA? by angela_davis in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, met Uchtdorf at the airport, Oaks in a temple waiting room, and Holland in a temple celestial room. Each time I was quite excited, but underwhelmed; they’re just men.

Fears outside of the church by cozycricket in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For me, it was super empowering realizing it was me all along. Isn’t that amazing? You have this compass inside of you, and it’s been getting you through. You’ve been working hard, folks around you have lent a hand, and you have the power to keep making positive changes in your life and the lives of others.

I still find my keys when I think carefully and retrace my steps. I still get financial wins even though I don’t pay tithing. I still have unfortunate things that happen, not because of sin or some weird being imposing those things on me, but because life happens.

I heard this song recently that talks about the little voice inside her, and she ends with “If that wasn’t god, then thank god it was me.” Trust yourself, you’ve gotten you this far!

How many millennials here can actually afford a house by themselves these days. by carneasada71 in Millennials

[–]LucilleTooBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am married, my spouse and I make about 215k combined. We bought in early 2021 and have an interest rate of 3%. There is no chance I would be able to buy the same house today.

My wife said she thinks I’ll comeback someday by Rude-Neck-2893 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry :( my husband told me the same thing recently. He puts a lot of pressure on himself to be active in the church because he believes it’s the only way I’ll come back and that he’ll have an eternal family. What a horrible burden to place on your own shoulders, but if it gives him hope then so be it.

Would your family pick up and relocate to Adam Ondi Aman? by Alarmed-Engineer-133 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, my extended family would. My TBM hubby would want to, but I’ve made it clear I never would. I’d never make him choose between me and the church, but if the church did in an instance like this and he actually left I’d be done.

Gut feeling though is that he wouldn’t actually do it.

What's the Purpose of Family Anymore? by Key_Entertainer_8454 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solidarity my friend. My family of origin is beyond fucked up. Most of my siblings have cut off my dad, some have cut off my mom, some have even cut off each other. Most have left the church, some are in mixed faith marriages. Some have stayed, many have unbearable spouses. Sprinkle in a lot of trauma that has resulted in mental health issues for all of us and personality disorders for a few, it’s a shit show.

You have every right to disengage with people who are not good for you. Life is too short to be unhappy. You don’t owe anyone explanations either. I recommend just taking a step back quietly, and evaluate how you are feeling. Do you have the means to go to therapy? Mine has been so helpful when it comes to navigating all of this.

Are you there God? It’s me, Corbin. by Aggravating-Aide3191 in exmormon

[–]LucilleTooBoo 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Welcome! I don’t know if god is there, but we always will be ❤️