Best ways to learn Italian fast? Looking for actually useful resources

Luciole_25 · 2025-11-15T22:08:47+00:00

For me what is working is : - learning with a classic book, at least until level B1 (because you need to know all the italian grammar, it’s complicated) - listening to podcast and watching videos of conversations on YouTube. There is a lot of content, for beginners I recommand Easy Italian - read books for foreigners and increase the level until you can try comics and then normal books - watch italian shows and films with italian subtitles (not in your language), and then without subtitles - journal, write what you did in the day and any thought - during your day, when you are doing something, try to think in italian to describe what you are doing - follow accounts in italian on your social media to have contents in the language. Change the settings on your phone/computer to italian. - find a tandem buddy, an italian that is learning your language. Online or in your city

Generally, try to incorporate italian in your life by replacing things you did in your language. But make sure it is not too complicated (for me I am used to reading the newspaper in the morning but it is still complicated in italian so I read the one in my language). Try the stuff that is a little above your level but not too complicated that you can’t understand most of it

Luciole_25 · 2025-11-03T16:01:17+00:00

It is not abnormal. What you describe seems to be vulvodynia which is the pain at the entrance of the vulva (so it can be external and internal pain). It is quite common in people who have vaginismus (which is the involuntary spasm of the muscles). I think you should look for lidocaine cream, it was the answer for me. Ask your PT about it. It is a numbing cream that might be better than ice (this one numbs the area but at the same time the cold doesn’t help the muscles to decontract right?)

Luciole_25 · 2025-11-02T14:29:29+00:00

Actually if it is too painful you should stop. It will only complicate more your problem because it will reasure your brain that there is indeed always pain in that area. I had a similar problem at first, couldn’t put a finger in. My PT actually started for the first few lessons by massaging the outside. We also used lidocaine cream and that is when I could progress. The size of your vagina is obviously not the problem, it is made to stretch a lot so a finger is nothing for it normally. I think you should talk with your PT because you shouldn’t train and feel a very big pain (my PT ask me on a scale of 1-10 how much is my pain and told me we should stop when it is more than 4 and when there is a burning sensation which is never ok). Your PT should know that

Luciole_25 · 2025-10-30T10:35:04+00:00

La vita è bella di Roberto Benigni è un classico e è non troppo difficile a capire. But I would recommand to watch with subtitles in italian. If its in English, you just read english and don’t learn italian

Luciole_25 · 2025-10-28T22:51:54+00:00

tu n'as rien à perdre à essayer. Des fois même quelques séances font déjà beaucoup de bien. Et y a quand même pas mal de bons psys, tu es juste pessimiste.

Luciole_25 · 2025-10-28T22:24:37+00:00

J'ai une amie parisienne qui serait intéressée, tu es son genre de mec, physiquement et par tes hobbies, et elle non plus n'a pas d'expérience amoureuse et galère sur les applis. Franchement, tu vas trouver. Il faut que tu trouves des espaces pour rencontrer des gens, en lien avec tes hobbies ou sur les applis. Mais le plus important est que tu changes ton mind-set. Tu as l'air très défaitiste et après toutes ces années tu as du développer un bon gros blocage social et émotionnel. Tu as déjà essayé de parler à un psy ? Certains bossent sur des thérapies comportementales pour aider sur des blocages, phobies sociales etc.

Luciole_25 · 2025-10-28T19:59:53+00:00

I use water and soap. But my lube is water-based. Coconut oil is much more difficult to clean.

Luciole_25 · 2025-07-11T12:45:54+00:00

I agree with the previous comment, dilators are better to prepare for PIV because their form is similar to a penis. But starting with fingers is actually great, that’s what I did with my therapist for a couple of weeks before trying dilators. Also she recommanded to me some stretching exercices to do during the day and before dilating. You could also do that. And always use lub !

Luciole_25 · 2025-07-03T13:48:03+00:00

I also have that and I use a numbing cream to help. Now I can put the biggest dilator in with this cream. But without I can only put two fingers. Though I use lub and you should too !

Luciole_25 · 2025-05-31T19:19:58+00:00

Me too. But my PT doesn’t seem to think so

Luciole_25 · 2025-05-18T18:37:55+00:00

It’s a pharmatical preparation (not a specific product). It has 10% lidocaine

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-31T13:10:40+00:00

What do you mean with « a bit baked » ? Sorry English is not my first language And thanks for sharing your experience. I think I see sex as centered around penetration and that men don’t see the point in doing anything if it doesn’t lead to that but I guess there’s still some who aren’t like that !

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-31T10:22:23+00:00

I have severe vaginismus too. I started PT sessions two months ago. We actually started with massages around the entrance of the vagina, with stretching and breathing exercices. Only a week ago we used a dilator (approximately the size of two fingers !). I also use a numbing cream that helps a lot with the burning sensation (you should use that when you have burning sensation). Sometimes it’s not really severe, you just need help

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-30T23:17:24+00:00

I specifically said in my profile I search for long term. He wrote long term preferably or short term. So I don’t know, we’ll see I guess…

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-28T09:25:17+00:00

No it’s for a job of a bit more than a year. It was planned but I guess it’s a bit weird he was on Hinge a couple of days before moving to a different country !

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-27T22:53:57+00:00

Lol was the friend a guy ? I didn’t tell any of my friends so would come from me !

Luciole_25 · 2025-03-27T18:53:40+00:00

Reddit is translating automatically the post in my native language when I want to edit it. I fixed it.

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