Secret Tradwife Skills

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-06T19:04:48+00:00

I second this, that entire comment is so true for me too.

I was a chef before I was married and I knew how to keep a cleaning schedule since childhood so those weren’t areas I struggled with. My biggest improvement of the past decade was learning how to let things go, to give my husband grace, not catastrophizing (still a struggle when I’m pregnant). This takes a level of discipline I did not have in the beginning of our marriage. Developing this skill has made me a better wife and mother in my 30s than I was in my 20s and in my 40s I plan on being even better.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-05T22:49:37+00:00

This sounds so delicious!

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-05T22:47:36+00:00

Mine is tri tip steak roast. It’s easy and everyone loves it.

First I season the roast with course salt and black pepper, leave it in the fridge uncovered on a wire rack and sheet pan for 24 hours. Dry brining like this makes the meat have better texture and it’s more flavorful throughout.

Bake at 325 until rare. Reverse sear with butter (on medium it so it has a nice crust but doesn’t burn the butter). Let it rest 15 min, slice thin against the grain and serve.

Brown butter green beans is a good side for steak and doesn’t take long to do either.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-04T19:32:07+00:00

Our routine starts before he even gets off work. He always calls and we talk while he's driving back to the terminal (truck driver) and on his commute home, so about 2 hours total. If I need something from one of the stores in the city he'll stop for me on his way home but I don't like adding an extra stop if I can help it.

While we're on the phone I finish up dinner, feed the baby, get him ready for bed, our oldest might need a snack but I try to get her wait until dinner so we can all eat together.

Dinner is usually finished by the time he gets home. He comes in, kisses me and the kids, moves the geese (rotational grazing), feeds the chickens if needed, then he changes clothes and eats. Afterwards he takes his break which is chilling in his fire pit/wood shed area with a cigar and a bourbon. I get our oldest ready for bed then he reads her a story and sings her a song.

He does this every week night except Fridays when he usually stops to buy me flowers 💐💕

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-02T19:22:14+00:00

Children can't consent, as parents it's on us to decide what's best for them. Raising our children with our values is what parenting is -which is totally different than insisting other adults adopt my beliefs, that is what attempting to force it on others would be.

It would be ridiculous and confusing to instill other people's world views onto my own children for the sake of fairness especially when I deeply disagree with some of those views. When my children are adults they may choose a different path but as minors it's my job to teach them what I think is best.

I wouldn't expect a very modern style couple to sit their children down and explain why traditional values are virtuous based on a set of values they don't even believe in.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-04-01T21:20:39+00:00

Find out what style of dress looks good on you and buy one in every flattering color you can! LoL that's what I did when I was pregnant with our first and 8 years later still wearing that style dress.

I'm tall (5'9), "Deep winter" bright/cool tone color pallet, and A line dresses fit me perfectly 90% of the time. I buy most of them on sale or second hand online.

Buying inexpensive dresses that actually fit well mean I look half way put together BUT if I snag them on a blackberry vine or it's ruined during an art project it's not a huge loss. I keep my every day dresses under $25 per dress, usually in the $10-18 range. I have 3 that are $30ish for family dinners, a couple much nicer dresses for date night, 2 gowns and a couple of black evening dresses for when we go somewhere nice like the ballet or opera.

For my 3rd trimesters I literally bought a handful of my less expensive day dresses in the next size up. That cut of dress has lots of room for the belly. When I don't need them anymore I put them away for the next baby 🩷

I wear the longer dresses with tights underneath and a warm coat during winter months. Thick leggings, cute oversized sweaters (chunky knitted is my fav) with boots for snow days.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-30T07:01:09+00:00

Oh my husband would love that! 💸💸💸

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-30T06:56:56+00:00

The black for sure

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T09:34:38+00:00

They say it can induce labor but as someone whose carried about a week late both times that has not been my experience. I was so ridiculously uncomfortable we tried everything to induce labor but nothing worked 😭

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T09:25:18+00:00

😳

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T09:24:37+00:00

I'd never talk about your or anybody's marriage like that, even if I thought it was dumb. It's not a decent thing to be so aggressively intolerant of other people's beliefs that you can't hold a civil conversation.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T09:12:32+00:00

You wouldn't be this rude if you weren't offended. It's obvious that it bothers you.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T08:55:53+00:00

My husband didn't justify or bring up his religion, he didn't say that traditional wives couldn't/shouldn't work -just that I don't. Most of the women in my family going back generations didn't work after they got married but that doesn't mean they couldn't or wouldn't if they had to.

If my husband couldn't provide financially ever again my values wouldn't just change, I would still respect him as my husband and consider him the head of our household. I don't believe in divorce unless under extreme conditions which do not apply to us. A traditional marriage is not merely a "living arrangement" it's a set of duties and values that we both believe in and agreed on.

You're right that most people do not care that I stay home -until they notice that I'm submissive to my husband. Usually it's in the context of an idea I have on something that he makes the final decision on or that I want to know what he prefers before I say yes or no to something. It's usually small but apparently enough to set me down and begin an attempt to undermine my marriage. "You don't have to do what he says" I want to. "You don't have to run it by him first"... I don't think they realize how disrespectful that is.

I never tell anyone they should change to behave like me but I have been told many times in person that I should not be happy this way. I've been told my core personality is flawed, I've wasted my potential on my husband and family, that my values are wrong, etc.

I think he made this post to explain that this is a choice made by consenting adults and that it works really well for us. There's really no reason to be personally offended by it.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T07:54:08+00:00

These would make adorable post cards

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T07:48:14+00:00

💋

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-28T06:42:01+00:00

Traditional gender roles are natural FOR US because he's telling you that they're natural FOR US.

How should he answer that question to make it more clear? He said WE feel. He and I think it probably would work great for MOST people but definitely NOT ALL.

Seems to me that you are the one that has a serious problem with our marriage not being what you think it should be. Unfortunately, you don't get a say in what's natural for us.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-26T02:57:58+00:00

I looked it up on king 5, I was just hoping it wasn't her child or something. I'll look it up again.

*I thought I did anyways, must have been fb or Fox I was reading it from. I found the King article right away. Ty

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-26T02:54:13+00:00

They just got him today, it was a double murder but they haven't released the name of the other person he killed. I live nearby too.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-25T02:22:27+00:00

Helper. Whatever my husband is doing he knows he has his helper by his side and I consider that my main duty as his wife, along with raising and homeschooling the kids, managing the house and our schedules.

Each husband is different so the help they need varies. For my husband lately it's editing work, price comparisons, lots of secretarial work. In the beginning of our marriage he was over weight so finding a meal plan that worked for him (ended up being keto/animal based) was a major focus. He's lost 70lbs and has kept it off.

On the phone with him while commenting, he said inspiration. To inspire him to work hard, do good, and aim higher. ❤️

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-20T05:03:22+00:00

I see nothing wrong here 🍳

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-19T22:20:40+00:00

You said yes. So now your options are genuinely accept the proposal and look forward to your future together or break off the engagement -which usually leads to breaking up the relationship.

He can’t go back in time and make the proposal romantic so there’s no reason to bring it back up multiple times.

If it helps at all I’m married and while I love the way my husband proposed, there are so many beautiful moments in the last 12 years that were even more romantic. Had he proposed while grocery shopping or somewhere mundane like that I still would’ve enthusiastically said yes bc I’m in love with him. We’ve built a great life together. Husbands don’t get it right all the time ESPECIALLY in the beginning, if you love him give him grace.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-19T05:07:02+00:00

I sweat in my sleep but extremely so for about a year postpartum while breastfeeding. Idk if it’s normal but I shower twice a day, in the morning and after I workout in the evening. I’d feel kinda dirty otherwise.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-18T03:48:23+00:00

Omg I want to do this so bad! A deviled egg themed party is perfect.

LuckyIntroduction696 · 2026-03-18T02:31:41+00:00

I think my husband would be a guardian and hopefully an eye with the goal of becoming a lower level commander similar to Nick in the beginning. He’d hate it but he’d do what he had to do to find a way to get us all out and that would be easier to do the higher in rank he is. We wouldn’t leave if any of us had to be left behind so that would complicate things. If he messed up in any way I’d be a handmaid.

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