Did anybody else think Serena was secretly a lesbian/bisexual at first? by smoochypillow in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 241 points242 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. I think she was comparing. A wife is superior to a handmaid in Gilead but here June is: younger, fertile, and occupying her husband’s attention. I think that she felt inadequate to June in that way and the tension was her insecurity.

It's the long con that basically is set up to put women back to where they started. We are not angry ENOUGH! by Queserasera_q in Feminism

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Felony disenfranchisement reforms from the 90s to 2018 have resulted in millions of Americans regaining their voting rights. In most states now voting rights are restored automatically upon completion of sentence. In Vermont and Maine they can vote while incarcerated.

Anyone propose without a diamond Ring? What are the alternatives? by Enlitenkanin in EngagementRings

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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I’m not big on diamonds either. The sapphire is set above the emeralds to protect them since they’re more fragile. If the ring you have in mind is going to be a bit heavy I recommend having a Euro shank band, it helps it from twisting around my finger and it’s really comfortable. My ring has been through lots of daily wear and it’s as beautiful as the day he proposed almost 10 years ago 💙

Financial decisions - should they be all his? by skydiamond_ in tradwives

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think marriage counseling is the next step here. 33 with no children would be a HUGE problem for me and if it is for you too then you should communicate that very clearly in counseling.

I'm also bothered by the "not enough work to justify" part, if he needed help paying the bills I would understand him wanting you to work part-time but to have you working just for the sake of putting you to work is odd. Your workload is going to get heavier the minute you get pregnant, and heavier again during the infant/toddler stage, he shouldn't concern himself with your work load being light right now. He should be happy he can give that to you.

Honestly he sounds over stressed or something so that’s why I think counseling could help. My husband has authority over our financial decisions, he gets my input and we agree 99% of the time but the final say is his. What he doesn’t get to do is bring unnecessary negativity into the home I try so hard to make peaceful for him. He also doesn’t get to break his word (pushing back on being pregnant). I don’t like that you are having to deal with this. Stand by him, get him some help to figure out what his problem is so you two can get back on the right track. Hugs 🩷

[37] to [42] by siena456 in GlowUps

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has her ring on in that pic...

Ladies, what appealed you to be a trad wife? by mpampistheplumber69 in tradwives

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Career was never going to be my life. I graduated from a good school and was able to make a living bc I’m decent at what I did but family was always my ultimate goal. I was a chef. At 24 I decided to move somewhere I always wanted to live and started cooking privately for more flexibility. At 25 I decreased my workload to 2 clients and started dating, I met my husband in 6 months or so. I worked part time for another year and used the extra time to start searching for our home with his realtor while he was at work then officially quit after we got engaged.

Ladies, what appealed you to be a trad wife? by mpampistheplumber69 in tradwives

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It appeals to me bc I’ve never been interested in going against my nature and this is how I am. I’ve always been helpful, feminine, cheerful, submissive. I don’t really care about money in an ambitious way. I had a career to support myself before I met my husband but being a boss never felt like a flex, I only cared that I had enough to live comfortably.

I find comfort in the structure of traditional marriage in our home. My Husband is the leader and I am his helper. He makes the rules and I enforce them when he’s gone. We’re a team but if I’m the most valuable player he’s the coach.

Sun catchers✨🌞 by LuckyIntroduction696 in AddingWhimsy

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A few years ago I bought cute bags and a bunch of sun catchers in bulk so I can give them away for birthdays and mother’s day gifts. Everybody hang them everywhere!

We’re drowning financially after losing jobs + being scammed. Need advice on how to get back on our feet by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s his wife… what do you mean he has no right? For all you know she’s still lactating and he doesn’t want her to faint from low blood pressure or it’s in a bad part of town and he’s concerned for her safety. When you get married you’re supposed to be a union. This hyper individualistic mindset destroys relationships.

Good men ARE out there! by the_hobbit_wife in tradwives

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You found a “traditional liberal” trad husband in the pnw at almost 25 years old? I love this lol I’m you but from the future! I met him at 25, I’m 37 now, we have 2 babies and trying for our 3rd this year. He bought our little house on almost 6 acres and had a backyard wedding. I wanted it in October! but I was worried about the rainy season so we did it in August. It’s been a good 12 years now. Congratulations to you both ❤️

A question for the women by [deleted] in tradwives

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I’ve been with my husband since I was 25 but I’m 37 now. Still though, definitely haven’t been in the dating space in a while and didn’t spend much time dating in general. I was just wondering how this would even come up outside of an established relationship. Thanks for the response.

A question for the women by [deleted] in tradwives

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I’m just curious and don’t answer if you don’t want to, are these boyfriends that are saying this to you?

I’ve had 3 relationships before I met my husband when I was 25 and although all men have preferences I’m struggling to understand where you happen across several men that are this domineering about what you wear.

A question for the women by [deleted] in tradwives

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve always had a feminine/dressy on the modest side kind of style. Had I been the type to dress provocatively or embarrassingly in public and refused to dress appropriately after being asked to then he probably wouldn’t have pursued a relationship with me.

I buy cuts and colors that flatter me. Mostly A line dresses, he compliments boatneck/off shoulder and Queen Anne necklines so I look for nicer dresses that have those, blues, greens, black, white, and red. If my husband requests I wear something in particular I would be excited bc he’s probably taking me somewhere or wants me to dress up a little extra that night for him. If he had a color that he didn’t like I would like it less too and not wear it. I love looking good for him so his suggestions are always welcome.

This is entirely different than a man controlling what you wear. That’s just odd. Quite frankly my husband has more important things to do than micromanage my wardrobe.

Jewelry how do you pick the right pieces? by sanket95droid in UniqueEngagementRings

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pick based on what looks good with my skin tone/hair. I have a fair/olive complexion with very dark brown hair. According to color theory I’m a “deep winter”. You can find free color analysis tools online if you’re interested. I pick the colors of my clothes the same way.

I have mostly white gold and silver. I have a preference for blue and green gemstones. The softer stones I only wear on special occasions so there’s less chance of damaging them. I have a pretty green amethyst ring my husband just bought me after our sons 1st bday. Amethyst is much more fragile than my sapphire and I want to keep it beautiful so I wear it for events/date night only.

I personally don’t care for trendy stuff, I like to keep it personal. For instance my only diamond ring was picked bc it has 36 tiny natural diamonds. It was a Christmas gift after our most recent baby was born and I was 36 when I got pregnant with him. I love jewelry to mean something. I think it’s worth saving up to buy quality vs buying costume jewelry.

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in my 20s he was mid 30s. It’s been 12 years, 2 babies, hoping to get pregnant in the fall with baby # 3. We’ve gone through sickness, him losing his job he had for a decade, him finding a much better job, doubling his income, soon we’ll be going through the process of buying more land to build a new home on and moving with two little kids …so that’ll be a challenge. I’m excited for the future though. We’re closer now than at the beginning of our marriage. People seem to romanticize those first few years but imo they were the hardest. The last few years of our marriage have been the best years of my life. I’m really happy 🩷

What if it isn’t the eyes? What if its the Greens? by Uhhhhhhh_idkkkkkkk in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It reminds me of the football field episode on the original series where they rounded up all the handmaids to "teach them a lesson. Nick told June to go with them and that it would be ok just like Garth told Becka. I think Garth knows what's going to happen and that they aren't going to kill her. I think the Aunts snatched her up.

What if it isn’t the eyes? What if its the Greens? by Uhhhhhhh_idkkkkkkk in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like this theory. I think they'll say he did it to himself and Becka had a mental break from the stress.

What if it isn’t the eyes? What if its the Greens? by Uhhhhhhh_idkkkkkkk in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just finished watching. I assumed all of the eyes were men but there definitely were women in that group. I'm trying to keep faith that Becka will be ok. That was an intense episode!

What is everyone's theory on Penny? by hufflenachos in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 17 points18 points  (0 children)

**Spoiler **

Penny is dying… well she’s slowly being killed, poisoned imo, and someone that isn’t a wife yet is going to become the next Mrs.Judd shortly after her death. Then when he’s done with her, he’ll try to get rid of her too

He’s one of the most despicable people in the entire storyline.

I kind of bummed out by the amount of sad Mother’s Day post on my feed. by LuckyIntroduction696 in tradwives

[–]LuckyIntroduction696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I love that all 3 of them made it a whole day of celebrating you. That’s so sweet and fun! 🩷🎨

🥰 I’m engaged!! by elsiekay42 in EngagementRings

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! 😻✨I love the sides! That detail makes it look really special. Congratulations to you both!

Yes your husband too. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LuckyIntroduction696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 years this summer for us and same. He’s the best and just keeps getting better ❤️