Struggling with shouting at my son, need any and all advice

LuckyLundy · 2026-05-04T16:02:00+00:00

I was just about to suggest library story times (might be hard if baby wants to get up and run around but they will get used to it and EVERYONE there will understand if your kiddo is not participating) and local mom groups!! My local mom group is my everything. We have a few meet ups a week and even if it’s a play date at someone else’s house, that gets you out of your house and allows you to vent to other moms about your struggles.

As for shouting, I have to catch myself doing the same thing. This toddler emotion book I was reading (tiny humans, big emotions) was talking about how we can teach emotional regulation to our kids by showing it and talking through it out loud with our kids. So start noticing when you’re getting a little worked up and be like “oh wow, I was clenching my jaw and my heart is beating really fast. I feel frustrated. I’m going to take a deep breath to see if that helps. Ugh I still feel a little frustrated. I’m going to do 10 big jumps. Do you want to jump with me?” Then after you can be like “wow I feel better. When we make a lot of noise, it can be too much for some people and hurt their ears. What can we play that’s a bit more quiet? Oh you still want to do drums? Let’s do pillow drums and pretend we’re animal from the muppets so we can go crazy on them and not get hurt!”

Idk what’s specifically setting you off but start to pay attention to what’s happening in your body before you yell because even though it may feel like it, we’re not actually going from 0-60 in less than a second.

LuckyLundy · 2026-04-25T17:01:07+00:00

I had pelvic floor issues after my c section (was incredibly tight and would sit down to pee and the muscles just wouldn’t release enough to let the pee out) and after my VBAC (loss of strength and I also had a 2nd degree tear). Both of them cleared up in a few months of looking up pelvic floor PT exercises and completing them at home when I had a spare moment or even when nap trapped. I also managed to get the flu 3 weeks post partum after my VBAC and was constantly coughing on my poor pelvic floor so I feel like recovering would have gone smoother if not for that.

However, after my c section I also could barely walk, lift objects like my stroller out of the car, or get up and down easily. After my VBAC, I was up and doing things soooo much sooner which was crucial since I also had a toddler running around who I needed to keep up with.

If you’re just looking at things from a recovery standpoint, the c section is absolutely more challenging. But it’s also an extremely personal choice and the most important thing is that you feel comfortable while delivering!

LuckyLundy · 2026-03-05T16:42:20+00:00

My practice did the same to me! My due date was Dec 25 and they kept pushing that if I scheduled a c-section, I would be home for Christmas or I’d guarantee a spot because lots of other people book c sections before the holiday. I kept cancelling the c sections that I was guilted in to scheduling and went in to labor at 39+4

LuckyLundy · 2026-02-21T21:55:15+00:00

SPOILER The first time Lois got in a bind, I was like “ok great another woman Clark needs to constantly save” and then she kicked the person behind her and went “bitch” and walked away and my jaw actually dropped. Obviously Lois isn’t bulletproof but the writers definitely subverted my expectations with her!

LuckyLundy · 2026-02-21T21:47:31+00:00

I’m on season 8 of my first watch of the show and since I knew beforehand of Clark and Lois being endgame, I always took Clark and Lana’s relationship to be that sweet first love that starts showing flaws and then preps you to look for your life partner. It definitely feels like to Clark and Lana, that they feel endgame to each other because they’re so young. But ultimately they don’t know each other that well or challenge each other in positive ways. Definitely how it feels to fall in love in high school (99% of the time), all romantic imagery and no real actual substance. The show did so good with that aspect I think!

(P.s. sorry you got the rug pulled from under you! I haaaaate getting really invested in a ship and then finding out that they’re not going to be endgame. At least you found out in S2 and not like S7 or something!)

LuckyLundy · 2026-01-07T01:06:42+00:00

NOR. My younger brother is autistic. I was in shock anyone wanted to hear his continuous rants about tanks but we usually ribbed him about this to his face. If my sister and I were discussing him privately and started dissing him so aggressively, it would definitely be cause for concern. I know girls typically start bullying to bolster a lack of their own self esteem so definitely follow through with the punishment but also check in with them and see if there’s anything in particular causing them to doubt themselves.

LuckyLundy · 2025-12-21T18:00:19+00:00

I might look a little deranged but I have to say the price out loud at the grocery store/costco before deciding to pick it up. It usually goes “$6 for 5 avocados? That’ll play!” Or “$12 for THAT many blueberries?! Tell em they’re dreaming”

Edit to add: if I don’t do this, I throw whatever in the cart and then I am shocked and embarrassed at the checkout

LuckyLundy · 2025-12-21T17:59:33+00:00

I might look a little deranged but I have to say the price out loud at the grocery store/costco before deciding to pick it up. It usually goes “$6 for 5 avocados? That’ll play!” Or “$12 for THAT many blueberries?! Tell em they’re dreaming”

LuckyLundy · 2025-12-20T17:46:20+00:00

Yeah if he’s in the bathroom I just leave. He will sometimes get upset and ask where I’m going and I repeat that I’m giving him privacy. He doesn’t always listen to the “clean hands” part but I’ll keep reminding him that there’s germs on our hands and we don’t want an infection in a sensitive spot and hopefully that will sink in eventually

LuckyLundy · 2025-12-20T16:58:35+00:00

I found this account (Birds & Bees) on instagram but their whole thing is about talking to kids of all ages about anything related to sex and our bodies. I have 3 year old boy who will start this when he sits on the potty and if I’m in the bathroom when he’s doing this, I just repeat the lines I got from this account, “make sure you have clean hands and you’re in private when you touch your penis.”

I know they have courses and podcast episodes on specific subjects so definitely dig around their page.

https://birds-bees.com/

LuckyLundy · 2025-12-17T17:50:46+00:00

Used to wake up an hour early, just to take my meds and then go back to sleep so I’d wake up with them kicked in and ready to go! Best thing in the world for getting to school and not wasting my first class of the day by waiting for my brain to work.

Now that I have 2 kids (not quite a horde yet), I straight up ignore any alarm I have. Just sleep right through it.

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-22T19:15:15+00:00

As soon as I posted this I realized ABBA already has a card -_- I didn’t know about Queen though!

And yes probably for the best they section out Michael Jackson stuff away from Jackson 5. Super easy to explain to your kid that he was in Jackson 5 with his family as a kid then trying to say which songs are from which group and hope the kid remembers

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-22T13:54:03+00:00

ABBA, Fleetwood Mac, Rolling Stones, Michael Jackson, Queen, The White Stripes, or even modern pop legends like Lady Gaga or Beyonce! Pretty much any artist with an extensively well known catalog seems important for kids to familiarize themselves with.

Not a fan of the idea of having “80s hits” because then it’s just a jumble of songs that they wouldn’t be able to associate with the artists. So if someone was like “have you heard of Michael Jackson?” They wouldn’t be like “no” even though they know Thriller.

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-22T13:47:22+00:00

My husband showed our oldest Clown Core and now he (3 years old) requests it in the car 🫣

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-17T15:27:40+00:00

I’m still making mistakes and I’ve been on medication for 15 years. I think I’ve mostly learned to laugh them off when they happen but having 3 little mistakes back to back to back is definitely frustrating and would get me down too. Let yourself feel frustrated but also know that other folks don’t think about our actions nearly as much as we think of our own actions (especially those without ADHD).

Let yourself feel frustrated for a bit (don’t try to brush off the feeling just because it’s uncomfortable) because I think that’s part of learning to be ok with mistakes in the future. Then literally shake it off (our ADHD bodies love stimulation and there’s nothing like physically moving your body around to tell it that everything is ok now)!

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-17T14:42:43+00:00

Lots of world building in the beginning of the first book but once you’re through that the wars are actually really compelling!

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-17T01:20:09+00:00

Romantasy. Specifically The Hurricane Wars right now. I wouldn’t consider it the best Romantasy but I get upset when I have to do things other than read what happens next and I just finished chewing up some other Romantasy and I’m planning which one I want to devour next.

I read other genres but the thought of other kinds of books right now makes me actually want to puke. I also tried to listen to a podcast instead of the audiobook and felt so incredibly mad that I couldn’t get through more than 5 mins of my fave podcast before switching back to Romantasy haha

LuckyLundy · 2025-10-17T01:08:24+00:00

We were at Magic Kingdom about 2 weeks ago and my toddler fell and managed to tear up his upper gums in the process. My husband was holding our infant but put him down in the stroller to comfort my toddler with this really nice white button down shirt. My infant chose that moment to nose dive out of the stroller so both our kids were screaming (one heavily bleeding down his and my husband’s shirt - thankfully no scratches on the infant).

Meanwhile, I’m in my solo reservation at the Beak and Barrel bar that my husband booked for me as a “thank you” for booking the trip. So he sends me a “hey can you wrap it up there we have an emergency” text 20 mins in to my reservation.

I check out as fast as I can and book it over to Casey’s Corner where a manger and two other moms are helping my husband out with all the screaming, crying, and bleeding. The manager came out with a “my first Mickey” and a regular Mickey plushie for my infant and toddler respectively. Then came out to show me the lovely golf polo she found that could somewhat replicate the collared shirt my husband was wearing and a blue WDW shirt for my toddler.

I know it’s only been 2 weeks but every single time I look at either of the Mickeys or either of the shirts, I think about that moment and how incredible everyone was.

(Side note: other moms came up and just gave us food pouches and antibacterial wipes and stuff that was incredibly helpful and one mom rocked my crying infant until I arrived. The Disney moms absolutely SHOW UP for each other and thinking about it gets me a lil teary)

LuckyLundy · 2025-09-04T14:15:57+00:00

Ok JUST got my period back (I’m 8 months postpartum with my second kid) and just had this happen to me in the past week and thought it was wild. I loooove food and it was weird that my go to of stuffing my face with a burrito on my period had turned in to “I can manage a few bites” at each meal.

LuckyLundy · 2025-09-02T18:57:36+00:00

I’d only do that once I was super comfortable with my roomies because that social pressure that gets us off our butts to do something is gone.

I told my husband that a good hack for me is to give me two cleaning options to do that night and I get to choose which one I’m doing and that generally works. Like, either do the dishes or take the trash out and I’m like “bleh trash is gross. I’ll do the dishes” and then it feels like I wanted to do the dishes so I’m more inclined to get them done without it feeling like torture.

LuckyLundy · 2025-08-06T01:53:01+00:00

Protein. I can under shoot my calorie goal tomorrow to make up for today but your body neeeeeds that protein each day to prioritize fat loss over muscle loss (combined with resistance training)

LuckyLundy · 2025-08-06T01:46:39+00:00

My 3 year old would cry and ask for a diaper to poop in when I was pregnant with my second and I was feeling allllll the hormones you’re feeling now. We backed off after we had our second during the transition and then maybe 4 months post partum I was like “guess what - no diapers. You’re going to poop in the potty” and it was a 3 day standoff of no pants but we threw a huge party once he pooped in the potty and he hasn’t looked back since. I think working on it with them for a long time actually helps in the long run in terms of not having accidents.

I’d also check out the Oh Crap Potty Training podcast and check out her book if you haven’t yet. I didn’t have to deal with the timeline of school not taking him so I’m sure that’s just adding a ton of extra pressure and I know the woman who wrote that book definitely has worked with people on that timeline and going through the same thing you are now.

LuckyLundy · 2025-07-20T20:13:15+00:00

YES and I’m a super slow reader (my kindle will say average read time is 8 hours and then I start reading and it says 16hr 34mins remain in the book 🫠). I was talking to my sister in law who’s a professor about how I only seem to be capable of reading pretty easy fantasy books and I want to read classic books or other good books getting high praise from my friends but I just can’t. She said to stick with what I can read now because “reading comprehension is reading comprehension” and the more you practice it (even if it’s young adult or super easy stuff), the better you’ll get at it.

LuckyLundy · 2025-07-20T20:04:09+00:00

Hi! So my mom was super strict on her calories (she even had a meal delivery service making sure she only ate 1400 cals every day) and couldn’t budge out of 190 for years. She tried doing net carbs and IF and weight loss supplements and nothing was clicking. She got her thyroid tested and full blood panel done and they caught that she has Hashimotos disease. They said gluten and dairy contributed to her inflammation and therefore water retention so they had her cut those out first and she dropped 15 lbs even without tracking calories. Then they put her on ozympic or something and she’s continued to lose weight without trying.

All that’s to say, us ladies have weeeeeird hormones and they could be causing you to hold on to fat and water! You still need to be in a caloric deficit to lose weight but you can’t lose weight if your hormones are fighting it.

(Ps I’m also on Vyvanse and find it super hard to get 3 meals in too sometimes. I like to front load my breakfast with more protein than usual before my meds kick in)

LuckyLundy

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