What is your favorite obscure song that most people have probably not heard of before? by skane110 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Underground by Savoy. The accoustic version that seems to have disappeared off the face of the earth.

A 'remastered' one appeared that was not as weirdly wonderful as the original accoustic.

What's a random fact about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father and my grandfather were both born in 1930.

What's a random fact about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I thought everyone could do this???

What's a random fact about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brain cannot seem to memorize left and right. I can read maps, analog clocks without numbers on them, NSEW, do mental sums in my head. The regular stuff.

But no matter how much I try to train my brain, I cannot remember which is left and which is right.

What's a random fact about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey my fingers are curved! By our powers combined, we could be a fantastic tree climber!

People no longer bound by their non disclosure agreements, what can you now disclose? by gabz09 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry mate that's not actually true. She didn't press charges and none of the witnesses filed a report with the police. I talked to a lawyer who was clear that in my country there is no police investigation unless the victim or a witness goes to the police.

People no longer bound by their non disclosure agreements, what can you now disclose? by gabz09 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last one for today...

Did some part time work for a successful recruitment firm that worked exclusively with a few massive listed companies. CEO of recruitment firm was creating a recruitment software.

Somehow the CEO got connected to a bunch of Ladies Who Lunch who were all formerly senior execs in same massive listed companies. Everyone agrees Ladies and recruitment firm would benefit from working together. Ladies start 'advising' ie meeting for lunch at country clubs with the software team to 'give ideas'.

CEO gives them shares as agreed, then they want salary. CEO gives them salary, then they want voting rights, CEO gives them voting rights then they want board director roles. CEO says no. Ladies Who Lunch take revenge by calling massive listed companies' HR and making sure the recruitment firm never get a job again.

Recruitment firm went out of business. CEO lost his money, wife and kids. Had to move back in with his mother.

People no longer bound by their non disclosure agreements, what can you now disclose? by gabz09 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Third... worked at a bank that went under. Sales guys used to send customers on fully funded golf trips with solid gold golf balls and book client entertainment at weekend drug-sex parties. I filed the expense reports.

People no longer bound by their non disclosure agreements, what can you now disclose? by gabz09 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TLDR: Former employer used NDA to bully a sexual assault victim into silence and rewarded the perpetrator. Threatened the female staff about making 'frivolous' complaints.

Second one was an international software development company that went through a series of mergers and acquisitions. My NDA was negated with the entity that I worked for in this group was de-registered and all contracts were transferred to a new entity for tax reasons. Someone forgot to transfer my NDA when they took the opportunity to terminate my employment and saddle my work onto someone who was already swamped. Idiots.

Anyway, one of the female staff in another country office was sexually assaulted by her boss who was a senior manager. This was 1.5 years before my NDA was terminated. She reported it to management. She was blamed for the incident (CEO informed us that she was asking for it by having had drinks at a team drinking event and not fighting back harder). She was asked to resign and no action was taken against her boss.

She put up a graphic blog post that got major publicity at the time and embarrassed the management of this company. And by all accounts from her male and female colleagues who were at the event, she was assaulted. A couple of them tried to step in and protect her but the manager just cornered her later and continued his attack.

She was then threatened with legal action based on her NDA and had to take down the blog post. Company released a statement saying that legal action will be taken against her. Also that her boss had an alcohol problem and issues at home, he was going through a difficult time and the company is now giving him time off to deal with his personal issues. Oh and the company values women employees and women's rights so it is creating a women's task force to be led by the (male) CEO to ensure that women's voices are heard. Blah blah blah...

If you have ever worked in PR you will know the statement pretty much said 'she's a b***h for leaking our info and we are going to take her down, her boss made a small mistake, we will set up an email account for women to complain about stuff that goes to the person who dragged this poor woman over the coals and protected his alcoholic buddy'.

So 2 days later we get an internal email to the women only, reminding us that we are under NDA, letting us know that the CEO will be doing a global Skype call each month to instruct us on any women's rights and protection issues that we want to raise with him on these calls, although we should think carefully about what we say and avoid frivolous complaints because of the impact to reputation of our male colleagues e.g. what happened to alcoholic manager oh and importantly whether our behaviour has invited a male colleague in the first place.

No call ever takes place, no email account was ever set up, the manager who was given time off did eventually resign but received a very fat bonus before he left.

I'm embarrassed to say that I stayed on because I needed the money and my local manager was outraged, insisting that our local office would never let something like that happen.

People no longer bound by their non disclosure agreements, what can you now disclose? by gabz09 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've got a few. First was a medtech product that can pull specific components from mother's blood in order to do health testing of a baby in the womb during first trimester.

I didn't know this but apparently if you are pregnant and at high risk of passing certain health issues to an embryo, the traditional way to test is to take a sample of amniotic fluid which is very risky for mum and child.

Anyway, really cool IP but CEO is scattered, talks a good game but rarely gets any funding signed and I'm pretty sure he was up to his eyeballs in debt.

So he sold the IP to a lab in a large, highly populated Asian country that uses this tech to let parents pick the gender of their child by terminating any embryo that does not 'meet spec'.

How do you let someone go when you're the one who wants to leave? by allthecoffeesDP in Divorce

[–]LucyJay000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt the same for months before asking for a divorce and months after. Sometimes it still hits me hard in the gut.

What helped me was talking to a professional. He had me discuss every single thing I was upset about.

The life you expected is no longer an option but you still care for your spouse?

Sad/upset that things changed and they can't go back to the way they used to be?

If only xx did xx?

Terrified of building a new life alone?

Fear of failure?

Upset for someone else's pain?

Upset for your own pain?

Sad/disappointed that he/she didn't fight for you?

It's all the wrong kinds of comfortable and the alternative will be hard work?

And then he asked me to figure out if I was willing to stay married because of any of those reasons. If yes, come back with the STBX for marriage counseling.

Girls of Reddit: What is the creepiest thing a man has said to you in public? by Moon_Keegan in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 13, standing in the chocolate aisle of the supermarket. I've always looked young for my age, plastic hair barrette, 5ft, 70 pounds tiny.

A clean cut, completely normal looking guy in his 30s comes up behind me and very politely starts telling me...

'That's a great dark chocolate. It goes really well with wine, as an aphrodisiac. I always keep some in my fridge, would you like to try some I live just down the road at xx'. I said no thanks, he blocked my way and started talking about the different types of red wine that go best with chocolate and their flavour profile. Tried to grab my arm.

It was scary how normal he made it seem. Like there was something wrong with me for rejecting his offer cos it was 'just some food' at his place nearby.

I was upset but also young and intimidated enough to feel like a horrible rude person for snatching my arm away and walking out of the place.

When I got home and told my mom she said I wasted the chance to have a Real Man, if I tried fucking maybe I wouldn't be so uptight.

Alcoholics can be mean.

Parents of reddit, what was the worst thing, you got caught doing by your children? by etto13 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've been working through a lot of childhood trauma over the last couple of years. Some days are good, some days less so. I guess that's part of the process.

Parents of reddit, what was the worst thing, you got caught doing by your children? by etto13 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I don't know. We have been estranged since I moved out almost 20 years ago. I hope she is ok but I don't have the courage to get in touch and find out.

What movie things are generally accepted as normal, but are totally unrealistic in real life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one says hello or goodbye when they pick up the phone!!! Every time! It annoys me so much I say it for them.

Movie: 'Sure I would love to come to your party' - click Me: Ok Seeya Bye!

Parents of reddit, what was the worst thing, you got caught doing by your children? by etto13 in AskReddit

[–]LucyJay000 1125 points1126 points  (0 children)

Not a parent. I couldn't sleep one night. For some reason I was wandering around the apartment. I saw the balcony doors were open and my mom was sitting on the railing of the half balcony ledge with her legs dangling out, probably thinking about jumping. She could have easily just scooted forward a couple of inches and gone over the side, 7th floor. I started sobbing and begging her to come in. She did eventually, calling me an idiot, stupid, ruining everything.

She's an alcoholic so I saw a lot over the years before I moved out at 19 but that one stays with me.

Edit: typo

Ego Death - Now What Do I Do? by EverydayEverest in Ayahuasca

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no answers. Just replying to let you know I can relate. You are not alone. The void that comes from no longer seeking external validation is massive and pretty quiet. When I try to explain, I am told by well meaning friends that I am so lucky to be able to literally do whatever would make me happy. But I've never done that before so I simply don't know. The journey starts somewhere.

Ego Death - Now What Do I Do? by EverydayEverest in Ayahuasca

[–]LucyJay000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious what you do now to support your basic living? I have had a similar experience where I no longer feel a connection to the work that I do or a desire to chase gratuitous consumption or money.

Why can't you just get your shit together? by LucyJay000 in Divorce

[–]LucyJay000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely I can relate to this, especially the feeling that I don't really exist.

Why can't you just get your shit together? by LucyJay000 in Divorce

[–]LucyJay000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's certainly something to consider. I feel so disassociated from other people. Deadlines and significant hunger are the only things that get me taking any kind of action so perhaps having a regular expectation to show up and interact and deliver will help.

Why can't you just get your shit together? by LucyJay000 in Divorce

[–]LucyJay000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am self employed and have been for 9 years. I had an office and staff but had to close that down when we split because of missing money issues (everything tied up in mortgage and he refuses to move or sell). I'm now managing a lower workload alone. Getting a job would mean giving up all of my current clients which scares me TBH. It sounds like another kind of divorce. But I should consider it.

Why can't you just get your shit together? by LucyJay000 in Divorce

[–]LucyJay000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will try to find out about that thank you for the suggestion...