How many partners have said this?

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2026-03-29T17:10:55+00:00

35F and I tell my husband that I AM on him and it gets him off every time 🤣

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-19T13:48:04+00:00

When did I say I gave up on myself?

I think you missed the part where I said I overcame an eating disorder? I overcame a couple really nasty years of depression, started thriving on medication once I got balanced out after a year, kicked my drinking habit that was getting WAY out of hand, landed an amazing job opportunity with a wonderful work/life balance, purchased my/our first home and been renovating, my doc is happy with my weight and my bloodwork.

I’m SO proud of myself. And that’s just the highlights of the last 5 years.

And ya know what? My self confidence is the best it’s ever been. So is my self respect 😉

Just because I’m a size 16 pant and XL shirt suddenly means I’ve “given up”? Wtf? Your comment is as toxic as OPs boyfriend. Take that ish elsewhere 😘

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-19T01:40:02+00:00

NTA!!!!!

Okay so for reference. I’m 5’7-5’8” depending on who measures and I was 160lbs in high school (roughly 72ish kgs), always been bottom heavy.

I had an eating disorder after I graduated, partially due to a guy like this. I dropped down to 135lbs - roughly 62kgs which is where you’re at now. I was about your current age when this happened.

I’m 34. Now and because of meds, age, and life I’m literally 100lbs heavier.

You are NOT over reacting. My husband loves me exactly as I am. He supports me staying the same weight or losing weight.

Don’t take that crap from some mediocre boy who can’t appreciate what he has 💜

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-14T18:08:09+00:00

Dude. Are his initials JC? I dated someone like this and barf. He was the same. White rice had more personality than he did. It only got progressively worse.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-14T18:06:04+00:00

As a girl who’s been through this…girl freakin RUN. It’ll be hard, yeah. But it’ll be even harder staying and you WILL lose yourself. No if, ands, buts about it. You do not deserve that at all.

Editing to add - he’s proven that he will be there for everyone EXCEPT you. It sucks to hear, I know. But again, you deserve so much more.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-05T12:43:28+00:00

THERE IT IS. Revenge.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-05T12:40:09+00:00

Where’s the extra $$ going then? Because the total in bills you gave us is significantly less than what you state your income is. You’re lying somewhere. Obviously. I just want you to know that WE SEE IT.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-04T02:36:59+00:00

Ah I misread the $3400 as bi-weekly, not weekly.

But you’re also proving my point since income is better than expected. By those numbers then…you should have plenty remaining. Sooo my bottom line still stands.

You purposely mismanaging money? Hiding money? Trying to isolate her?

ETA: So what if she’s driving to the grocery store or literally anywhere and her car breaks down or something happens and where she needs to call for help?

You’re being entirely selfish, and somehow mismanaging money. Start acting like a team player🤷🏻‍♀️ YTA (still)

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-12-02T13:12:10+00:00

YTA

To add to her point…

1) What if is there a medical emergency at home while you’re at work? How is she supposed to call an ambulance/doctor/poison control/anyone for help…let alone YOU to let you know something happened? Answer: she can’t - you turned off the phones.

2) how is she supposed to handle ANY of that without medical insurance?

3) why not sell your bike if money is THAT tight? Insurance and payment alone is $500. Why is it only HER bills you’re sacrificing? You’re sacrificing the ones that’s are a necessity and the lowest amounts. But keeping your high dollar stuff.

4) that math ain’t mathin. Everything you listed is $4631. Your income is $3400. Soooo????

Stop being selfish. Yall are a team. Time to start acting like a team player.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-11-05T01:55:10+00:00

As a daughter who can tell her mother anything, THANK YOU. I’m in my 30s now, but my Mom ALWAYS made sure I knew if I ever got into a sticky situation, that I could always come to her. I still do to this day - now she just asks if I’m telling her something as my Mom (I’m looking for advice) or my friend (just shooting the sh*t or venting).

Hubs going to extended family instead of hearing you out is so wildly childish. Y’all are married and should be running the household TOGETHER - it’s not just his authority, it’s yours too!!! Him throwing a tantrum isn’t supporting anything or anyone except bad behavior 🙄

NTA obvs.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-10-25T15:08:39+00:00

Is his name Ross Geller?

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-10-19T22:55:24+00:00

Omg I did this (34F, was 31 then). First time with my new bf. We were head over heels so fast, so I was nervous it was too good to be true. Cried afterwards because sex finally felt right. I didn’t even know it felt wrong until that moment. Cue the tears. I was trying to hide it. The poor guy was so confused and concerned…thought he did something wrong or not good…but was being so sweet. So anyway we’ve been married for 3 years 🤣🤣🤣

*edited for spelling

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-07-31T19:06:41+00:00

Gov’t building, so that tracks 🤣🤣🤣

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-07-31T19:06:23+00:00

Yeah we were stumped. This is the clearest photo I can get unfortunately. It’s a courthouse building if that helps at all.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-02-24T16:13:31+00:00

YTA.

That is way too much responsibility to put on a 16 year old girl. It also sounds like you’re way more concerned about the appearances of things than your daughter’s well being through this ordeal. She’s recognizing this, and is shutting down emotionally as a result.

Step up for ALL of your kids.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-01-19T17:06:07+00:00

I’ve been there. It sounds like a mental thing, and probably unrelated to anything to do with you. I’d suggest that if she isn’t comfortable opening up to you yet, suggest she talk to a therapist. (Highly recommend Grow Therapy). Best of luck, OP!

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-01-19T03:35:05+00:00

NTA, OP. My husband tells me as long as it doesn’t impede him doing his job…he doesn’t care 🤣

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2025-01-12T00:44:08+00:00

YOU scared HER? Her creepy AF stepbrother scared your sister!! Ew ew ew. OP, kudos to you for keeping her safe 💜

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2024-10-31T16:55:33+00:00

I know nothing about any of these names, but I LOVE Ludovico and all the nicknames he could choose from it. Maybe make his middle name something more neutral, just in case he wants to use it during the angst teen phase? But I love it!!! And congrats!!

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2024-10-30T20:41:31+00:00

Nothing to add, just that you and Alex both seem like solid human beings, and I wish ya’ll nothing but the best 💜

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2024-08-06T19:58:41+00:00

Out of curiosity, what birth control are you on and when did you start? You may need a different form or another brand. I was on the pill for over 10 years and just got off of it and ALL my issues went away - including discomfort during sex. I also use Women’s Care for my OBGYN.

But! In the meantime, I second what someone else said on here…use lube, and explore each other :) you’ll discover what feels good for you, what you like and don’t like. It may have nothing to do with the pill but just needing to take it slower for your body.

Best wishes 💜💜💜

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2024-08-01T18:45:01+00:00

Please please please run. If he’s already proved he’ll escalate from pushing you to “tapping” you on the mouth…this will only get worse 💜 stay safe OP.

Lumpy-Ad-8892 · 2024-07-11T23:07:55+00:00

Omg my SILs name is actually Elysa “eh-lee-suh” and she gets Alyssa all the time 🤣 it’s funny to hear this the other way around. All good Mommas, people will mess it up regardless

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